We fight against saying it out loud because it is seen as a bad emotion.
For those of us whose partners have previously left us for another, the thought of them being with another person consumes us with jealousy, anger and hurt.
Some people are jealous of everything their partner does, who they talk to and what they wear. If they are being flirty with another.
We are so confused about what jealousy is, many of us and confuse it with controlling and abusive behaviour. It can turn into that and in that is dangerous.
There are expectations that I have in my own relationship, and I have a pretty good understanding of what is acceptable to me and those levels may be higher than many others, as I am secure in myself and know that my relationship is safe and secure in it's love so therefore the dark side is not raised in me.
I don't think jealousy alone is bad, my man is not jealous at all, if he felt that way, he would tell me. He would say 'This hurts me' and I would listen.
I don't think one gender is more jealous than the other, I think it is the lack of understanding around the emotion is what causes the problem.
I have been asked what job I do, I was more than happy to disclose to my first date here, which ultimately became a relationship.
If a person asked me on a first date how much money I earned, then I would not disclose that amount.
It would not raise alarm bells, because the sort of people that I would have been interested in, would usually not be interested in that as I am not.
My job is a big part of my life, so often it is an ice breaker, and usually has people laughing, so that I have no problem discussing.
If I mention my car, then they ask what I drive, then I would tell them. That again would not have alarm bells ringing.
I don't always think that questions such as those are worrying, why are people so suspicious?
I can understand if a person asked what salary one earned would raise bells but I would simply decline the information, I would not assume that he was checking my financial standpoint in life.
I had a dream on my mind yesterday and last night when I read the news it made me feel a bit nervous.
Yes your example has happened to me.
I remember when I was at school abroad from home country and there was this girl that I knew I recognised from my dreams, staring me in the face.
I have also had a recurring dream for many years and Spicey said she would help me with it, but I have never written her about it, so that is my own fault. I will I think now.
But this dream I had on Friday night, was about I and my oldest girlfriend going on a cruise, we felt the boat was leaning and to dilute the story quickly, the boat sank. We were the only survivors. Then I read the BBC news and I read that two bodies had been found from the missing Air France plane and my mind started racing, I picked up the phone to my friend and told her and I suppose in my mind I was checking she was okay.
But for some unknown reason, I could not get the bodies being found and the dream out of my head.
Sacry stuff for me, last night I never dreamt about anything.
I agree that there could be complications. But there is also a chance that there is some love here and he could be willing to overlook that and take her back and raise the child as his own and never question it.
THe difficulty would be if it was somebody else's child and they came seeking parentage later on.
Sometimes the not knowing is better than the knowing, if it is not his, then his dilemma deepens. He may love her and feel devastated that the child is not his.
Oh don't get me wrong, whatever other people do is up to them and certainly I support them, I just choose not to respond to people I do not know on a private basis, here I will for the purpose of a discussion
Unlike yourself of course, and thank you, as you are...
Yes, mine clearly states I am here for the forums.
I spend less time emailing than probably most others do, because I am not here for s relationship, I do my emailing privately not here. Usually with someone from the forums about a comment I have written or if one of my friends have something to tell me.
I have been here 18 months, I don't have many friends, I am simply here for banter in the forums, those I am close to, around half a dozen, who three I have met.
I don't want more friends, I have enough.
Cold Ice Princess me.
After seeing you around the forums, and you mailed me, then I would respond.
Yes, in a day to day to situation, like if you have a dinner invitation, I find it courteous to respond with a note back stating whether I can make it or not.
But to a guy that I don't know? That I m not likely to meet and who I don't ever have any interest in whatsoever?
I have seen what people can do from just a simple 'thanks but no thanks'
Sommerauer71 Forum Posts (12,414)
Lovely to see you my darling.
RE: Are you... jealous????
Ali, you asked the above question.Is it true that Women are more jealous than men.
Neither gender has the cornerstone on the emotion. Like love, hurt, anger, selfishness, hatred.
You are genderising and while there is a good discussion on emotions, emotions are not gender specific, like say hormones are.