When i sold art it was always nice when someone sent me a message to say how much they loved it and how well i packed it.
The time and effort i took to ensure their chosen gift sometimes would take well over an hour to securely protect the prints, or sculptures, so it was really nice when people wrote to say thank you.
A lot of people don't appreciate good service, and it's not a matter of tipping them, but it makes the day go so much nicer when your work i appreciated, especially when it was online!
Very rarely do people thank you on Amazon, or Ebay but my feedback is basically testimony to the hard work and good communication i put into everything i sold, and continue to do so on the sites.
Let's say i am going to apply the law to force the issue, i am through being nice and polite now to someone who wants me not to see me see my own child.
Anyway lets skip me and my situation, as i don't want to ruin or monopolise the thread and do the "woe is me" and look how bad my life is type of posts.
Granted it maybe terrible, but i will deal with it and it is very much a real scenario unlike some drama we permanently see in the forums.
That really isn't me, and i appreciate other people being shocked and gutted on my behalf etc, but that won't help or remedy the situation.
I've seen some things people would and should not have to see and hopefully do, but this nor the thought of dying doesn't even bother me.
I've sat puking blood and knowing i needed emergency medical treatment and carried on doing what i percieved was the most important thing to me.
That for the record was getting information and a will to my cousin so my son was taken care of, and that people that mattered to me were given some messages when i suspected i better seek medical treatment when part one was done, although i suspected i might die before the medication could kick in.
So in retrospect, if dying doesnt bother me, what else should i be afraid of?
It's all well people just saying this, but regulars of CS will know this is true as i did this live on the forums last year!
In the real world i try to help even complete strangers with things.
I've helped people construct fences around their garden, helped a neibour recently that needed a hand and as a result i had to shave all my hair off when i was drenched in paint!
If you are too helpful and nice some people do try to take advantage of your nature is shall we say naturally helpful.
That said i've counselled CS members, given then relationship advice, travel advice, health advice, drug and alcohol and mental health advice.
I was also amazed when i was ill how much advice and some very useful information from a particular CS member (thanks Jodie) to watch out for some drugs they use in the treatment of pneumonia and the results.This i was wary off, and having an interest in pharmacology i talked to my doctors in hospital as a direct result of the CS members advice.
Sometimes if you offer help it backfires, or the person can be shall we say troublesome, but for the most part it will never stop me behaving the way i have done all my adult life.
Tomorrow for example i will go and clean a paddock to help a Zoo, free of charge....so my Tapiers can come say hello and i can pat the little one!
I refuse to argue with a lady i'm dating even if she wants to! You wouldn't believe how frustrated they got and sometimes even used to hit me for a reaction.
You would be amazed to hear the opinion of some Asian women why they wont date Asian men any longer.
I won't state why as that maybe considererd negative, but clearly there are lots of Asian women who are treated badly by their partners.
Ask for instance any Asian lady you know with a white guy why she is dating a white guy and she will probably just say she likes him, the colour isn't an issue for her if she's in the West.
There are taboo's still though but i wont go there as some people might be offended unless i can get someone else to explain it bar myself!
I just like the happy underlying personalities i saw there, granted i also saw some bad people as there are everywhere, but for the most part men and women would talk to you in the street, ask if you were lost, if you needed help and would want nothing in return.
Try that in the city of london and you'll either be ignored or walked past.
London has to be one of the rudest places on the planet.
Sommerauer71:Which brings me back to how Asian women are viewed, many Western men adore Asian women, because they are beautiful, gentle, kind and mild mannered, that does not make them subserviant, at all, it makes them women.
And it is primarily this femininity that many men adore, that seems to be evaporating from the west.
I am just guilty of liking feminine nice kind women, not the agressive pushy bullying kind that makes my stomach churn.
Yes, totally agree.And this horrible to experience.
I have played football with monks in a temple who supported football teams in the uk.
I played snooker with Thai and Vietnamese people in the Golden Triangle.
I also got drunk and showed some Blue Berets how to trick shoot near Edwards Air Force Base in the states.
Lot's of nice memories and cultural experiences, but what annoys me the most is some people looking down on other parts of the globe and assuming because they have a lower GDP that makes them less worthwhile as either societies or individuals.
Watch what happens in China in the next decade....that place will change dramatically, just like Japan did when the Emperor opened the society to the west.
The consequence was the rush to western values, and forgetting some of their proud traditions and values which are amazing.
oh yes, you can bet anyone who fails in their relationship will maybe blame the other party.
But i stress Riya's way of thinking will not be the same as the people she is mixing with at the moment, and she is on a learning curve to how people in the west think.
I tried to explain this to her gradually to make sense of how some of the opinions that were raised by western people made no sense to her.
She'll be able to tell you the values that are imprinted on her culturally and socialogically prevent people from the region behaving like some of the west.
Think of it like an in built sense of morality thats just different from people in the west.
Russian Women are the same in this respect,Oriental women are also different and Arabic women also are completely different.
The differences i find really interesting an the differences between men and women are amawing the world over.
What is bad though is the attitude of the west is creaping around the globe and ruining all this.Some countries even actively rebel against this tide, like the French and Germans who cling to their nationality and language with real pride.
This i respect tremendously compared with British people who i sadly see behaving poorly around the globe.
It's almost embarrassing in comparison as they make me ashamed to be British.
Riya is a very good example of an educated lady from India.Now given that if you met people like her on a daily basis you can understand the appeal of people liking Asian people!
Riya will be able to tell you i am probably more Indian than most Indians she knows!
It's hard to explain this but if you know the traits and she knows me very well indeed she might try to put it into words.
It might be very interesting on her trying to explain it from her perspective!
She was amazed i was not from the country but have the same cultural outlook as she shares.
It's really difficult generalising, but from my experience (and i have travelled a lot around the globe)some cultures have a significantly different outlook from the west.
Thailand being the greatest example,Japan being another and the attitude of Indians because of their culture is dramatically different from the west.
They have a "softer" outlook, and this is really hard to explain unless you've experienced the culture in these places to see the difference.
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RE: Just for Cooks...no one else!!
You just reminded me how good the chilli was in Huston's Airport!Burned my moth but i like it like that!
Damn i feel hungry now