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RE: are you faithful when in a relationship?

yes.. to a fault... when I am genuinely interested in someone I don't even LOOK at another guy... I don't consider relationships as being akin to being in a sweetshop.. with too much choice....

What is a Player....

How would one distinguish between the two.. leaving aside that the net effect is the same to the person on the receiving end.. how does one differentiate...

Is the 'innocent' 'player' say one who sees and acknowledges that it is wrong and makes an effort to change his/her ways in future.. or is it the case that the 'innocent' 'player' just simply cannot see the consequences of his actions by reason of they being at a subconcious level...

What is a Player....

.... hiya.. yeah I thought it was spot on...

RE: Love

What is a Player....

I was looking through old threads and I found this interesting topic and would be curious to hear your views..

One poster (at the time)posted the following

"A Player will select a "target" if you like, perhaps someone who appears too accommodating, naive, gullible or possibly vulnerable for some reason. They will persuade the other person that they are really keen and only interested in them, noone else, in an attempt to give the impression to the other person that a more meaningful relationship will be on the cards. There may be attention paid in the Forums but more often than not it goes on behind the scenes, as the Player wouldn't really want anyone else to be aware, they want to play several at once, don't they?? Its all a big ego-boost, one-upmanship and is designed to be misleading. When rumbled or the novelty wears off, and the one played outlives their usefulness, they move on to someone else. It is deceitful, unfair and hurtful to those who are on the receiving end.

Flirting is overt, playing is covert!!"

Which I thought to be quite accurate..

What are ur views

RE: Cyber Friendships...

RE: would you be with someone...

I would want to be their friend and support them through it for certain... Anything more would depend on the feelings involved and the situation...

RE: Fair to be prejudiced ??

Hiya.. yeah I was slightly off topic.. was kinda answering the question posed by pirhana....

I think you are right... but the rules can differ slightly here because it is not face to face.. and although yes nasty is nasty... I think what we have to me MORE careful about on the net is people who might not be quite what they seem.. easy to portray urself as one thing on here and in fact be another JMHO

RE: you should be a veggie if...........

I am a vegetarian.. and I have been since the age of 12.. but I have often thought.. If I were out in the wild and had to kill in order to survive... if there wasn't a river or the sea nearby for fish... would I do it?... guess if I REALLY had to.. for survival I would..

JMO

RE: Fair to be prejudiced ??

I suppose.. there is no harm in having ur wits about u certainly... but to base judgement on such superficial things like appearance etc.. seems quiet sad..

Besides there are people who come accross like really nice people, butter wouldn't melt and we wouldn't cast a thought.. wolf in sheep clothing kind of thing.. I think we should be more wary of those sometimes..

RE: Fair to be prejudiced ??

I would!! (steal him that is) but u live too far away

RE: Fair to be prejudiced ??

Hiya Lusc.. howz teddy (forgot his name already )

RE: Here we have to "talk" not in real life...

Very good thread Chris.... ...

I do definitely think that the internet can serve as a shield to some people.. perhaps people who have difficulty connecting with people might feel this is a good canvas for expressing a 'better self' the 'self' they want to be...

I myself am probably a bit more expressive on here than I would be normally,... conversations with my mates, normally would tend to be more lighthearted and fun.. I do like explorative type conversations but I tend to reserve these kinds of conversation for select friends and my family (philisophical bunch )

Otherwise what you see is what you get.. one of the main draws for me, to CS is the fact that you can learn alot from other people and not be afraid to express ur thoughts...

RE: How you can trust and open your heart again ?

RE: How you can trust and open your heart again ?

We can't let past experiences destroy us.. we just have to do our best to pick ourselves up.. brush ourselves off.. and show the world what wonderful women we are ...

I think as long as our consciences are clear and we know that we have not hurt anyone.. why should we deny ourselves the happiness that we so richly deserve...

RE: Fair to be prejudiced ??

In RL I have a truly mixed and eclectic selection of friends..... from all walks of life... so no..

RE: How you can trust and open your heart again ?

Don't think it is necessarily 'smart' not to open up your heart.. if someone is dishonest, unfaithful and/or hurtful, it is normally their issue and not yours.. while I agree would should all be a little more discerning and hole ourselves back a little bit.... a closed heart however is a recipe for loneliness...JMHO

RE: How can you tell how nice a person is by looking on a picture

I see what u mean.... some people don't do themselves justice in their photos by looking quite miserable... others hide their eyes alot.. which makes me a lil suspicious..





what impression does mine give.. be honest? but be gentle

RE: True Love's Kiss

RE: How can you tell how nice a person is by looking on a picture

I dunno.. some people just aren't very photogenic.. say e.g. my sister, she is very pretty, a really cool chick and a bundle of fun... men are like magnets to her... but she never takes a good photo .. (p.s.. shhhh don't tell her I said that )

RE: Do you judge people before you get to know them?

I suppose that phrase 'too sweet to be wholesome' came from somewhere... I guess 'scammers' wouldn't enjoy any level of success if they came accross as a*seholes though would they.. stands to reason that they would appear 'nice' I guess

RE: Do you judge people before you get to know them?

No... I tend to see the potential good in people so if i come to a negative conclusion about a person.. it is based on experience... there are very few people that come into this category for me though...

I am tolerant of all sorts of quirks.. dishonesty and extreme selfishness however I find difficult to torerate...

RE: Have you ever seen?

... u actually saw it?? describe.. what did it look like? did the little boy look very 'real'

so freakin wierd!!

RE: Love

RE: Love

Spot on a usual Jodi...

RE: Love

Good post Zarah... its the difference between being selfish and selfless really isn't it?

RE: Reasons we should listen to that higher inner self...

... good thing alright

Thanks for the photos..btw...

RE: WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A GOOD SOCIALIST AND A CAPITALIST A GOOD CHRISTIAN AND A GOOD MUSLIN...

'Goodness' in a person does not really need to attach itself to any regime.. it can exist independant of these.. which in my view gives its origins more credence... many religions/political philosophies etc IMO.. actually give people justification to do wrong.. which is counter productive... and perpetuated said offensive and wrongful behaviour

RE: What do you do to deal with your frustration/anger?

Spot on!!

RE: Why beg to be hurt!

Absolutely.. I have learned that.. the hard way!!!