No it's not crazy. Will you stay remaining friends though if it never happens how you want it to?
I've been friends with someone since 1975, I knew then that he wanted me and even though it probably really hurt him, we never got together that way. We still talk at least twice a month on the phone, since I moved across country.
But we are still friends and I treasure that so much and nothing will ever change that.
NO don't gain weight and lag about all day ! NO you know that isn't an answer to anything! Well ok lag about all day, just don't gain a bunch of weight. You won't be glad about that.
SCREW THEM, just love and respect yourself and if you do, you'll become more desirable and even if you are alone, you'll look good, feel good about yourself.
Ok I feel like crap sometimes too, but I encourage you to keep yourself in priority status.
You shouldn't have to put your needs last for anyone, except maybe your kids. Some of your wants could be further down the list, but your needs should not be last for some man. Especially not in the beginning.
I believe that I want less than the next woman, it comes from being alone and independent of being spoiled. Now I feel I may be ruined, the opposite of spoiled. Too bad for me.... But at least I know where I think I am at, tonight anyways. Maybe read what I say, but don't follow it, because I'm just taking it day by day, night by night. Alone ! ;)
Yeah, I would definitely let him know how I felt, but then I would have to step back. If I really cared for him, and he wanted to stay friends, and I pursued it, then it would make him uncomfortable.
If I stepped away and let them alone, maybe I could still be in his life as a friend. It would hurt hoping they would come around to seeing that how I felt was right for him too, but I wouldn't press it.
Tonight about 11 pm, I'm going to my local biker bar where I'm comfy and safe and the live music is always good. Two Coronas and whatever.
This afternoon I met a new guy from a site for coffee. He is very nice, lives ten minutes from where I do. I didn't feel connected, and he probably didn't either. Nice meeting, probably won't do it again though.
When our dog Pepper was younger and we were still a family living in a house together, Pepper would play with green tennis balls. One day she had ALL these balls all over and was tossing them up in the air and playing.
I told her to bring me one so I could throw it, like she always did. She wouldn't bring me any of them. Finally I got up to see where all these balls were coming from and she had gotten all of the green tomatoes off my plants! She knew she shouldn't have done it, because she refused to bring them to me to throw for her. It really was hilarious.
I just remembered, I saved all my kid's micro machines, tiny cars, trucks. I LOVE them. I also saved some of their batman things, ninja turtle. Maybe I'm saving them for my grandkids or I don't know why.
Yes you are right, I agree. For the most part that is. Most people are turned off by obesity. I don't agree that most people are turned off by a few extra pounds.
At my age of 50ish, I DO look for men who are physically healthy, not washboard abs, that would be extreme. I like a few extra pounds, in my guy, prefer that to skinny and wirey.
But bottom line is, I don't want to fall in love with someone who is going to leave me prematurely, or have health problems related to something that is usually preventable.
You can be overweight and healthier than a thin person, but it is usually not the case:
"Just a little fat can shorten life, study says" Rob Stein Washington Post
Bad news for all those baby boomers starting to pile on the pounds as they go through middle age. You don't have to be obese -- just a little overweight -- to increase your risk of dying prematurely, according to a large government study.
The 10-year study of more than 500,000 U.S. adults found that those who were just slightly overweight in their 50's were 20 to 40 percent more likely to die in the next decade.
The article goes on to say more but at the risk of offending anyone I'll stop. What gets me is how everyone thinks that they are being singled out for being overweight because of how some may find it unattractive. What about the health reasons for the rejection???
I heard from a long ago hard-core catholic friend that a true catholic will not attend any non-catholic church. If he goes with you, that's great. I don't like churches that tell you where you can and can't go. I'm non-denominational.
SusieRR Forum Posts (2,122)
RE: good things about being alone
All of that except #7.Having control of my life.
Not having someone tell me what I am doing wrong in:
cooking
cleaning
raising my son
driving
taking care of my mother
cutting the lawn too short, long or too often or not often enough
sleeping too much
my choice of jobs
pointing mistakes I've made after confiding them, and then twisting them around and using them against me
calling me names
calling me names