You live Niagara Falls? I can't imagine that there would not be some woman who would like to take a quiet night walk around the falls. But then I haven't been there in a while, maybe it's not so quiet anymore?
People are looking for the wrong things? What makes them "wrong" or are they just "different" things from what you are looking for? Hopefully most women enjoy life and night walks. There must be more to what you are seeking?
A dragon, on my upper left thigh, in front. Got it last December, it has significant meaning. It was created from an original silver dragon necklace from my Canadian long distance ex relationship. It is four inches long, three inches wide. No color, it is just beautiful. I hold it dear to me.
Here is a cut and paste of an email I received tonight from someone I met on another site.
"Hi that was a very unemotional email, openended and well in need of some more information. I look forward to hearing from you. Is the possiability there will be a call tonight on the horizon??
How is the weather?"
I wrote back exactly this:
"Yes you ARE perceptive. Please understand that tonight, since last Monday 3:00 am I feel as if I am going through a divorce. I am having a painful experience because of circumstances I cannot control. It will go away, and I WILL be fine.
I apologize for seeming cold in my last email, but you could look at the brighter side:
I emailed you from here and not the website
I practically told you where I live
I also told you about my past, where I grew up
A sort of committment for a future meeting
You know lots about me from just that email, and I gave you a lot of emotional feedback. As well as honesty, that I was not ready to phone you yet.
I can't call now, it's almost 11pm. What kind of more information would you like to know? I'll either tell the truth or quite honestly tell you that I am not ready to tell you yet.
I am in a fragile state right now.
February 19 was your first contact with me. I told you I was involved, that same day.
April 16 again you pursued me. April 17 I told you no.
June 20 third attempt to pursue me. June 26 I replied
Now it is June 28 and you are finally getting very personal responses from me. What more can I do? Persistence is one thing, not necessarily good, but pushiness is something can't and won't take.
Being openended is just your opinion. Now I must wonder if I have told you too much about myself, including my state of mind. That was not an unemotional email, and I have a perfect right to be openended. I don't even know you."
END
In the beginning emails, I hate when they put two or more ?? question marks at the end of a question. It is like demanding an answer.
Merryberry, I can sympathize with you too. My younger son is 16, and has had a few issues. He is a very introverted person, with a few select friends that share an interest in music. He hates school and is only going to finish to get that piece of paper. He doesn't know what he wants to do with his future, and college are not in his plans. His high school offers a 2-year vocational program in construction. He gets A's in that and D's in math and english. He and his dad are on good terms, but dad lives 2000 miles away.
I'm sure you are already doing this, but give him unconditional love. Sending him the text messages can open up new lines of communication with him. My son emails me occasionally when he wants to tell me something important that he doesn't want to do face to face.
This it has happened to me several times too. Except I was on the other end, and the few guys I did meet in person were really nice. It wasn't because they were nice that I decided not to continue seeing them. We liked what eachother said in text, had IM's with them, phone conversations.
I've decided that it's best not to prolong the email/phone process and to get the physical meeting out of the way early on. That way, all the expectations for either of us won't be building for so long if it doesn't work out. This is why close locations work best.
They men were clean enough, had jobs, vehicles, senses of humors, all the normal things you'd expect from a regular person. I had nice enough times, but I didn't feel like being 'close' with them.
I can't pinpoint the problem, exactly. I just didn't feel a chemistry connection physically. Looking into the eyes of the guy, I didn't feel a passion to be with them. So rather than have a third date, I didn't make a move to see two of them again, and neither did one of them. The other called several times, but I told him I wasn't ready for such a strong committment. I just didn't have the heart to say "I know you aren't the one for me, so let's stop wasting eachother's time"
If they live far enough away and you continue emailing, you can practically think you have fallen in love before meeting them.
Don't sweat it, I'm sure it's nothing you are doing wrong, and there is probably nothing more you could do that is right.
When the right one comes along, you will both know it.
What a sweet gesture you are making for your dad. I would say go along with the music recommeded earlier, starting with the 60's. Look online at who was popular back then. Can you ask his friends or relatives what he likes/liked back then?
It can be a good idea, but don't get sucked into making payments for something that won't be yours for a long, long (hopefully) time. I worked for a "pre-need" agency for a while. They sold cemetery plots. That would be a good investment so your family wouldn't have to wonder what to do, or where or find the $1,200 or so to pay for it. For the rest, I would just set some money aside for that purpose, and don't forget to tell someone where the paperwork is if you do buy a plot.
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RE: Do smoker hate themselves
Wait, we are talking tobacco right?If not, then "never mind"