I wouldn't give it a second thought. If their profiles state that you are not fitting into what they are looking for, how would they know until they viewed you?
Perhaps you attracted them, but after reading, they decided no. Then they wanted to check again, to be sure, then they remembered.... Really, I doubt it's worth even thinking about.
I think it is because people want to talk about things and get feedback, without being judged in the physical world. They seem to be judged here, but knowing they will not have to face them, they let it all hang out ;)))
I was talking with a young woman where I work. She said she and her ex were on Judge Judy. She said no matter who loses (she lost) the show pays the fine, your way to LA and gives you $100 for the appearance.
As far as shrinks go, you must be talking about Dr. Phil. I've watched sometimes and from what I've seen, he finds a family who is willing to accept help. Then he offers to set them up in their own town with a local psychiatrist, counselor or whatever the need is. I know it gives the impression he has "solved the problem" but I think he has just brought out the problem and his show pays for the people to have the therapy.
Unfortunately, the rest of us don't get free therapy.
I need to be on an extreme home makeover show where they fix up a house in a few days! I mean I really NEED that show.
Then it would be nice to be on "what not to wear" get a new wardrobe and makeover.
I will go out with someone and of course I expect them to pay for the date. If I know them well enough to go someplace with them, they know my work situation and I know what they told me. If they complain about being broke, of course I won't be going anywhere with them if they did ask. Yes, men do that, and it's annoying to hear a 45 - 50 year old man say that, to a woman they just met!
Lately, since I am meeting these guys for the first or second time, coffee is usually what happens. Lunch has happend a few times, and one dinner.
One guy was nice enough to come over and install a sound card (that I had already bought) for me and he had some speakers he didn't want. I made us BLT's, baked beans, etc... It all worked out ok. I didn't want to take advantage of his good nature, and his time.
But there was no "chemistry" there and it's been two weeks since last contact. I don't miss him, and apparently he doesn't miss me. He did seem to have some issues with what he was having to pay in child support, and grumbling about that is a complete turn off. I certainly was not about to agree with him, and I didn't think he got a raw deal anyways.
That is just one example of a recent online brief 'relationship' and I have found myself again without any prospects.
I do believe in preparing a meal on the grill or whatever for someone who has treated me out. But I need to feel comfortable enough to bring them into my home, meet my son etc.
I would like YOUR opinion on something, but I'll wait and see if you have time to read the situation. ;)
Yes, everyone in this whole forum would have outdone a kid!
I thought a true gentleman OR lady for that matter is a person who does NOT make another feel uncomfortable, inadequate or stupid.
You would end the evening after the movie is over, thank them, and go home and be glad that you were not mistreated any further than NOT GETTING A COKE !
Are we talking about a kid who looked 12 or a 30 year old man?
How gallant is all the talk about who would buy her this or that?
I went to a bar with a guy once, he was a real tightwad. He paid for my beer and left her 25 cents. I was mortified.
Beer and cost of living back in the 70's was way low but still a quarter? I pulled a buck out of my purse and left it there on the bar as we were leaving. I suppose the dollar was too cheap too, but it was about all I could afford too.
He didn't see it. Don't care who else did. I never saw him again, end of story.
So he looked to be very young, and you were "a good person" to accompany this "kid".
Rather than go, why didn't you just ask him why he looks so different from his picture, tell him he looks too young for you and he should try to find someone his own age.
You also say that you would have paid for the second movie? He could probably sense that you wouldn't be seeing him again.
If he felt inadequate around you, why would he want to spend time with you again?
You could not graciously get your own soda and chalk it up to a "dutch treat" date?
I would not see him again either, but I would do my best to not make him feel like crap, nor would I be dwelling on it.
This will probably stir up commotion, but I really hate driving past Planned Parenthood and seeing picketers outside holding gruesome photos. Hate that!
If you MUST picket the free rights of women, do not hold those pictures up for children to view.
I'm with you on the part about having two kids with two different fathers. SO WHAT??? And I did not marry either one of them, yet we are all still friends.
warmheart, I'm sorry for reading so quickly what you wrote. You have lost siblings. How sad that is. I never had any, so I can't imagine how it is to lose one.
Me. My only blood relatives besides my 85 year old disabled mother are my two sons. Thank God for them.
I grew up in a very lonely way, no siblings at all. Father died when I was two. (one of those things a two-year old can remember).
My mother never remarried and she eventually had me alienated from my father's side of the family by the time I was in 7th grade. My father was 27 years older than my mother, so on his side of the family I had only neices. I think my dad wanted another son but ended up with me and he died at age 56.
My mother didn't get on with her mother, so I didn't see my grandmother and that side of the family either, after about age 16.
So needless to say, holidays were very quiet, lonely and even boring. I did have an idea of what I was missing, since my friends all had typical families, siblinigs and two parents.
I have always made sure both my sons were and are in contact with their fathers and their families.
Lately, I've met adults around my age who say they never talk with thier siblings anymore! I can't understand that. Some people say I'm lucky to be the only chld. A few cousins in the mix would have been great.
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RE: Who should make the first move?
What difference does it make? WHO CARES?