"What kind of man would not show a woman how important she is to him?" The kind that feels she is not important to him, unless he needs something, anything.
"What is up with a man that can not show feelings and make a woman feel wanted?"
The kind that does not possess those feelings for that woman.
I TOTALLY agree with you. I don't know what is up with that either.
That's one reason why I have the 50 distance limit, most men can't even afford a bus ticket to visit, or they can't find the time. It is impossible for me to travel these days, and I don't want to waste everyone's time on a fantasy trip that will never happen.
You are right about becoming an "afterthought" and I won't stand for that.
If someone doesn't make the first move, something may never happen. Why is it though, that after just ONE email in this site, people want you to email them with their regular email address? Why so QUICK?
The "first move" can be a signal to someone else to RUN LIKE HELL
A man in his 40's let's say, without any ex-legal entanglements and no children? YEAH I'd give him a chance. Just because they have not married legally doesn't mean they are afraid of committment. Not having had children could be a big regret for someone, I wouldn't judge them on that one either. Better than an father who is uninvolved with their children and who is begrudgingly helping suppor them.
I was in an emotionally, morally and spiritually committed relatinonship with my son's father for quite a few years. Being legally married would not have bound us together forever, and when it did end, it was not messy.
My teenage son was having them last year. He asked if he could see someone so I arranged it. After two private sessions, he said the Dr. (psychologies sepcializing in adolsecents) helped and he would be able to handle it. So with the provision that we would return if necessary, he stopped going.
Fortunately, no drugs had to be used. However, my son did admit to me and the Dr. that he felt that MJ use caused these attacks to begin and he did stop. I didn't even know he had been using it. I agree, use no drugs or alcohol unless prescribed.
I know there are ways you can successfully control these attacks without medication. Hopefully you can locate a good Dr. to help you with this problem in such a way.
I have two sons, 24 and 16. My thoughts would be very different from yours, I'm a single mom. Their dads each participated in their own ways, but we ALL blended together. New wives of each dad, my boyfriend(s), grandparents especially important, and my kids friends. I'm really happy to say there weren't too many trials or tribulations though, I would not have traded one second of any of it.
One major thing you have going for you is your youth and the energy that comes with it. Good for you, changing the diapers! Your kids are the best things that happened out of that relationship.
No most women don't want an abusive jerk. I believe that younger women pattern their mates after how they were treated by their fathers growing up. I'm not sure, because I never had a father growing up, and I'm single!
You may want to concentrate for a while on just caring for your kids, working toward your futire, and not worrying too much about finding another steady woman just yet. You are young and have plenty of time.
This must be the season of the centipedes! They are scary, but you must kill them when you see them or else you won't know where they have scurried off to!
Now I must walk around carrying a big shoe at all times, especially at night. These guys are BIG here!
So I researched them: Centipedes have pair of poison claws behind the head and use the poison to paralyze their prey, usually small insects. However, the jaws of centipedes are weak and can rarely penetrate human skin. The rare individuals who are bitten may experience localized swelling and pain no worse than a bee sting.
This is interesting: Centipedes require moist habitats. If they are plentiful, there may be an underlying moisture problem that should be corrected.
My youngest will be a senior in a few weeks too! But I remember so clearly the days when both my sons had their first days of kindergarten. I volunteered one day a week in the classroom, it was great.
If they claim to be athiest or agnostic, I won't consider them. I'm ok with a religion different than my "spiritual but not religious" but they need to believe in a Creator. That's just me.
Yes, but I think I need my own space, a whole bedroom to myself. The ideal would be to have a duplex relationship, connected but separte living. Then no one will tell me what to do! Apparently, I still have issues ;)
I'm always sorry to hear about dads who get their kids so infrequently. When I moved out from my second son's dad, over en years ago now, it was three blocks away and he came over all the time to hang out. I just couldn't "live" with him.
We didn't go through divorce, we had not been married. There were not courts involved, but we worked it all out.
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RE: Too Much Effort On My Part....
"What kind of man would not show a woman how important she is to him?"The kind that feels she is not important to him, unless he needs something, anything.
"What is up with a man that can not show feelings and make a woman feel wanted?"
The kind that does not possess those feelings for that woman.
Sad, isn't it?