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Many things get changed with age.
We used to be stubborn when we were young, now we make compromises in old age.
The thing which seemed very important in young-age, today the same thing seems useless.
The thing which seemed useless in young-age, today the same thing seems very important.

With age our needs get changed, our deeds get changed, our feelings get changed, our behavior get changed, our thoughts get changed, and sometimes we completely get changed.

.. Women judge so quickly, and their judgement rarely goes wrong.

If you have crush on someone, your brain will find difficulty to tell a lie to that person.

Studies have revealed that a man and woman can never be just friends.

The closer you are in a relationship, the more you can read the other’s mind.

A study has found that friends-with-benefits relationships are just as sexually satisfying as marital relationships.

Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don't.

85% of people have experienced a dream so real that they were not sure if it happened in real life or not.

Subconsciously, it takes at least 6-8 months for the brain to process complete forgiveness for someone who hurt you emotionally.

Smiling is the ultimate antidepressant.

Zebras can't sleep alone.

It is believed that when you die in a dream, you wake up because your brain cannot process the idea of death and what comes after.

Psychologically, we tend to ignore those who adore us and pay more attention to those who ignore us.

Swans only have one partner for their whole life. Once their partner dies, they pass away from a broken heart.

You can do 100 good things but people will remember one mistake.

Psychopaths say “um” more frequently in order to appear like a normal person.

Do you ever look at your life like someone else may look at it? Do you ever take yourself out of yourself, and look at your life from a different perspective? As if you aren't you? Like looking at yourself through a camera lens.

I do that sometimes. I remove myself from me, from all the emotions and ego, and just examine what I've been paying attention to. And I ask myself, is this worth putting any energy into? If my attention is hooked, then I've invested some kind of energy - positive or negative. If I devote any energy to it, then I must care about it in some way.

Let's face it, if we don't care about something or someone, we simply don't devote any thought or energy to it. It doesn't hold our attention for one second. It's like this blog. Have I hooked your attention? Enough to read it? If I have, then you've devoted some energy to it. Now, I can ask you, what did you feel about it? Anything? If I hooked your attention enough to read it, if it's meaningful to you, you will feel something about it, hopefully something positive.

If it's not meaningful in any way, you may feel I've wasted your time. And then you will forget it. A fleeting moment lost. But perhaps you're angry that I've wasted your time. So you write a nasty comment, venting your anger at my blog. And thus, I have hooked your attention enough for you to care to elicit an emotion and to make a comment. And if I respond to your negativity, then you have hooked my attention enough for me to care and perpetuated that negative energy.

But sometimes that camera that we look at life through, has a very narrow lens perspective on it.

I know there's a quote by Maya Angelou that says something to the effect that people may not remember what you say, but they always remember how you made them feel. Now, I do have a bit of an issue with this, because no one can 'make' us feel anything we don't choose to feel. But people do remember the energy one emits. And it's up to us, whether we choose to emit positive or negative energy. If the energy one emits is always negative, then it isn't any wonder that other's don't want to be around that kind of energy on a consistent basis.

In widening our focus, we get to see so much more than the pithiness of ourselves. That as much as our lives are about us, our own dramas, our own plays, our own tragedies, our own comedies, they really are about living wider than our own narrow perspective. About loving and accepting ourselves enough to be able to share that with others. Not in a way of trying to control what they think, do, say, or believe, but in a way that benefits them - giving them what they truly need. When we help others, we help them believe in themselves. Of course, the payoff is that we get to feel good as well.

And I truly think that's what life is about. Not hoarding who we are - but sharing ourselves. Not seeing what is wrong with everyone else, but seeing what is right. Not concerning ourselves with what others do wrong, but only in our own goals and what we can do 'right'.

And I think that's what optimism is. Living wide. Seeing life through a wide-angle lens. Seeing that everyone has something of value to offer, even if it's to teach us what we don't want in our lives. To help those that actually want and need our help. Being able to 'scan' with the wide angle lens, and then narrow the focus only on those things and people that are worthy of hooking our attention, emotions and energy.

I don't think it's ever too late to learn how to live wide. To change one's focus and perspective. To not only feel good oneself, but to help others feel good about themselves. And it's up to us whether we want to focus on the positive or negative.

We all deserve the abundance that this life offers and to share it. We all deserve to be happy and feel loved. We all have value and deserve to live the fullest life possible.

Open up the lens as much as you can. Live wide open.

...As with the home movies of our twins, and pets, and travels---fun to look back at the entries from time to time. Always describe/record dreams, when I can recall them. If I don't get up right after waking from one, often they vanish into some deep memory bank. Working on strategies to recall them. Getting better at it, but drives me nuts when a juicy one is gone for good.

Human cannot find logic in everything, so they have to take the support of belief. We should not be so logical that we always have to depend on our mind. To give some rest to the mind, the support of belief should also be taken. And don't become so blind in faith that even the common sense of our brain ends. Neither logic should dominate faith nor faith should dominate logic.
Keeping a balance between Belief and Logic, taking both together can bring happiness and peace in life.

Starting on July 1st, I have laid a budget, that I am going to adhere by. I made a spreadsheet, where I wrote my income and my expenditures, and when all is said and done, I will have money left. That's the benefit of moving to a place where I know my rent in advance. Where I have a flat fee to pay. I also came to realize, that I have too many streaming services. I spend $109 a month just on streaming. I need to look into cutting down on them.. But I need them all.. I might just keep them all, actually. They are pretty handy to have, and I will not run out of content anytime soon.

Now it's time for some money stuff! The biggest post I have, apart from rent, is my food budget. A massive $196 in total each month. What can I say, I am a foodie.. I am always looking for ways to improve my cooking.. Anyway.. I have three expensive months, and nine "cheap" months. The expensive months, I spend $1244, and on the "cheap months, I spend $1211. I get $1474 each month, so when all is paid, and I have put some money into savings, I will still have money left over. That's a first for me, since I used to spend all my money in 14 days.. Sometimes 7 days.. When I moved to Scotland, I got the biggest reality check ever, which I needed. Since then, I have been managing my money. Rarely have I fallen behind on bills, and it's almost six years ago since I came back home.

Speaking of saving up money.. My dream is to own a house. It doesn't matter where it is, as long as it's mine. Or maybe just an apartment somewhere. Apartments are cheaper than houses anyway.. But I would like to own some property one day. I am thinking with my trucking job, I can save up even more than I am now, because if I don't change my spending habits, I can comfortably send almost triple into my savings than what I do now.

But we'll see what happens. Right now, I plan to hold my budget for three years, minimum. I am sure it's doable!

Be the best that you can be unless your best at being an a**hole, in that case, be at your worst.

Now, there's the rub.
As we age, gracefully, trying to enjoy every moment, it seems we have less time for some things, and more for others. Sure, not at all profound thought, but, as with common sense, it's seemingly not very common, as we all rush about in this modern life.
We each have a list of that which we have learned auger best for forming a healthy and healthful relationship. For me, trying to remain patiently open to new ideas, while sometimes a challenge, is important. Several other works in progress at self improvement also come to mind. These seem to vary with most of us in finer details, but I bet there is much overlap on the main points.
Things to avoid, and to snuggle up to. Certainly trying to keep others from getting free rent in our heads.
We are, after all, mostly responsible for our own happiness.

.....So there we were, all in one of our Tuesday morning groups, without any loud laughers in the cafe. Really nice company, a dozen folks, all ages, and kindly intent on learning. Except for one. I wrote too soon, as there was actually one big mouth there.This terribly opinionated (worse than even me),saggy, scraggly old cougar, whom I have disliked for years, ever since she was useless as a teacher in a language course, and tried to tell us, among many other things, with zero knowledge base, that acupuncture was totally BS. Twenty years teaching and married a german, and the language skills are mediocre. But I digress.Today this expert on everything in God's universe, was putting down US graduate schools (she never attended any), saying that EU ones were better, because "they don't make you do coursework there, none at all, just your research". And as always, never allowing anyone else to offer another word in edgewise..Was I ever tempted to make many comments on her tree top ignorance, now and always. A real anger based attack, perhaps even causing me to shake some. But the operative word was equanimity. Bit my tongue, and began talking more with members of the group closer to me, who were used to the show Funny, it was a struggle at first. Changing behaviors does involve a bit of that. But as time went on, and she left the group early for a mammogram (no, I'm not wishing even THAT on even her), all were more relaxed, and I had a sense of real accomplishment. Can't make this stuff up folks. Why can't we better learn all this good stuff at a much earlier age?.