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-At the beginning of the road there is a crossroads. There you can stop and think what direction you're taking. But do not stay too long, or you'll never leave this place. Become Castaneda classic question: which of these paths has a heart? Reflect a lot of options in front of you, but once you take the first step, definitely forget the crossroads, because otherwise you never stop torturing yourself with the useless question: "Is the path I chose was the correct" If you listened to your heart before you get moving, certainly chose the right path.
The path does not last forever. It is a blessing cross it for a while, but one day end, so always be prepared to fire you at any point. As much as you dazzle certain landscapes, or scare you certain stretches where you have to make special efforts to remain standing, do not cling to anything. Neither the moments of euphoria, nor to the endless days when everything seems so difficult and progress is slow. More sooner or later will come an angel, and your journey will come to an end. Do not forget.
Insofar as you respect the ground you step on, that ground will respect your feet. Always do what is best to conserve and keep your path and he will do the same for you.
-care of the path before you take care of what is around you: attention and concentration are essential. Do not let dry leaves Wayside distract you, or that the way others look after their own ways divert your attention. Use your energy to tend and conserve the ground that accepts your steps.
Be patient. Sometimes you need to repeat the same tasks, like pulling weeds or closing holes that appear after unexpected rain. Do not let that enrage, as part of the trip. Despite the fatigue, and despite repetitive tasks, be patient.

"Dont chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones that really belong in your life - will come to you and stay"
Will Smith

With all thats happening, the quote above has really helped me "do my own thing".

Happy Weekend to everyone and Prayers for all my Ni-Van friends facing Cyclone PAM.

How is a person supposed to toughen the fk up when they are broken?

One of the big lessons I have learned from my journey is you can’t please everyone, so don’t try.
• 90% of our problems are caused by our own thoughts.
• Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.
• Just because a person smiles all the time, doesn’t mean their life is perfect. That smile is a symbol of Hope and Strength.

Ever get tired of the same old bullshit from people who could care less about you
and perhaps have no incentive to change or constantly depressed or sick of their
life and the choices they made?

Ever get tired of offering suggestions to help people who seem to embrace their misery?

Ever get tired of beating yourself up seeking approval from those you approve of
yet they just don't reciprocate?

Ever get tired of the drama of others?

Ever get tired of stupid mundane sometimes pointless forums or blogs seeing that most people
just have nothing else on their plate to offer?

Are we not tired of being surrounded and very much alone?

Tired of being tired? Thinking that sleeping it off will make it go away
only to find the pain is still there?

Its really sad indeed because no matter how polite we may act or the noble intentions to
offer some solace there is this void of apathy and it drains the energy from us.

People who are constantly depressed drain the energy of those who seemingly are doing fine.
Depression kills and destroys all that is good in anyone. Where does it come from why are people so miserable.
Why do we tend to attract the very thing we despise in others. Perhaps because those who are equally miserable
who do not want to face their issues attract others who do not want to face theirs. Hence they have something in common.

What is sad is having mental illness and depression or physical ailments and seeking others with similar
issues is not an ideal match.
If two are in darkness how can they see themselves to the light?
People in general have their good points and pitiful points and trying to focus on their good points and their potential of greatness is the best we can offer one another but if people only focus on how miserable they are
it actually repels the healing they seek.

I know I am not the sharpest pencil in the box or the brightest bulb but, its so disheartening to see the same old story of people we may care about watching them on a path of self destruction.
When it comes to the 3 kinds of people out there Perpetrators Victims and Rescuers its time to consider the real perpetrators people have such as fear, doubt, lack of confidence, emotional or physical illnesses, anger, hopelessness. These things in my opinion are the worse enemies we have and often sabotage our ambition to find friends and healthy relationships. As far as being a victim many have choices to be one to the perpetrators that rob us of life. Ah then the rescuer which claims they have overcome the perpetrator and profess they are no longer a victim.

How I hate despise this because those who claim they have overcome the role of victim of self made monsters their testimony is a reminder of we have the power to change. Yet how often do you give away that power to the victim and perpetrator?

So, in knowing who our friends really are it those three which are constant reminders of our perceive guilt because we can't measure up to one another.

A woman will always think the grass is greener elsewhere and will always consider their options.
A man may do the same but with a twist because deep down inside no matter how much people
profess they don't need anyone nor want anyone maybe they just gave up on everyone.

Yet they find their comfort zone in their sickness they won't tell you about. They won't tell you how alone they feel or how unhappy they are.
The mask we wear defines only how well we are able to hide our pain.
One day we will have to take off the mask and face our real selves our pain our regrets and declare our passions that we want to live and love and play to be happy and to be needed and wanted and be fruitful
and be human as God intended us to be.
Overall we will have to decide who are friends are and who we wish to let go or hold onto for the new year.

How do we define self sabotaging behavior as there are many definitions and many ways
we often sabotage our efforts to form healthy relationships with people.
We often say and do things that we know will bring harm upon us an unconscious level that we
don't recognize until its too late.

The patterns are subtle but quite damaging. A few examples is one may be chatting with a potential
friend or lover online they get up to a point of quality communication you tell your love interest many
adoring things that make them melt in your hands then because of something you don't know about
why your love interest stopped corresponding and you don't know what you said or you don't know
their reasons why they chose not to chat or you offer them a break to think about things and then become angry why they have not responded. This is a sign of what I call the "Controlling Saboteur" who whines for attention and then when he/she does not get the quality or quantity of attention they cut the communication off.

They tell their love interest that they may not be interested and make all kinds of assumptions not knowing the truth of why their love interest is not communicating. They seek exclusive attention and become a bit obsessive.
They recognize or they may tell their love interest they have a life outside of the online love arena but resent
that they do hence, they don't focus on their own life but the life of their love interest.


Another saboteur is what I call the "On top of the World" type. He or she has everything going for them a good job, friends, family, home, car the works but throws it all away getting in trouble such as going on a killing spree
or drinks themselves to death watching their lives slowly fall apart as they lose their job family home etc.

Then there is the "Loner by Choice saboteur" who has no faith or hope in finding anyone to love them so they resign to accepting their hermitage life and nobody is worthy to ever enter in their life. Outwardly they tell everyone they are just peachy and don't want anyone. They have their TV, their movies, their dog, and their junk food and their two cents of thought to post on a blog yet deep inside there is a silent scream within, that nobody hears from the loner that they really want someone but, fear they will be misunderstood hence, they choose to be in their "loner" comfort zone and they don't have to answer to anyone but themselves.

The problem with self sabotage is many who do so, feel so horrible about themselves their self esteem is non existent that they may have to look it up in the dictionary to understand what that means.
Many may sabotage themselves to fail because that is all they know and have fears of success.
The problem of fears of success is the fear of responsibility that comes with that success and the work to maintain that success. A scary thought indeed. When you are already down nobody expects much from you.

In conclusion I feel in many areas of my life I have self sabotage down to a science though its nothing to boast about or be proud about but, who among us is without sin? Who among us will not admit they sabotage their efforts of happiness at any level because they can justify themselves of their plight.
To the world they will paint a pic they are on top of their game behind the computer screen they may reveal a much different person.

At birth we boarded the train of life and met our parents,
and we believe they will always travel on our side.


However, at some station
our parents will step down from the train,
leaving us on this journey alone.


As time goes by,
other people will board the train;
and they will be significant
i.e. our siblings, friends, children,
and even the love of your life.


Many will step down
and leave a permanent vacuum.


Others will go so unnoticed
that we don't realize
they vacated their seats.


This train ride will be full of joy,
sorrow, fantasy, expectations, ( mostly unrealistic)
hellos, goodbyes, and farewells.


Success of the ride consists of having a good relationship
with all passengers requiring that we give the best of ourselves.


The mystery to everyone is:
We do not know at which station
we ourselves will step down.


So, we must live in the best way,
to love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are.


It is important to do
this because when the time comes for us to step down
and leave our seat empty
we should leave behind beautiful memories
for those who will continue to travel on the train of life.

Unfortunately, carrying around the caboose of regrets, emotional baggage
and anger only just makes the journey that much more difficult


I wish you a joyful journey on the train of life.
Reap success and give lots of love.
More importantly, thank God for the journey.


Lastly, I thank whoever
for being one of the passengers on my train.


(By the way, I am not planning to get off the train anytime soon
but when and if I do, just remember I am glad for those of you who were part of my journey.)

It matters not how many passengers who board or disembark as much as the quality of passengers
who made a difference in our lives.

Everything happens for a reason… Just Believe.
• Everything comes to you in the right moment. Be patient.
• Before you talk, listen. It may change how you respond. Before you react, think. It may change how you do react.
• In the blink of an eye everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never know when you may not have that chance again.