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If GOD give you a chance to go in past to correct your mistakes, then which mistake will you correct?

Life is full of difficulties and opportunities.
If we always keep grieving instead of fighting with problems, we will lose many opportunities in our lives.
Instead of regretting what you have not got, be happy and progress in what you have got.

I understood these lessions very late.
I have made a lot of mistakes because of this ignorance.
So,
If GOD give me a chance to go in my past, I will teach these lessions to myself in beginning (in childhood).

Smile and laughter is best medicine to relief your stess forget your troubles and just smile

Sometimes I feel like I should be a bit bad, as being too nice has always put me in trouble. Is it good to be bad sometimes ?

I know for sure, everyone has dreams & hopes to explore each of some
possibilities if they do come up. Why not. It doesn`t hurt anyone, unless you`re the type to do something on purpose.
Without a start, keeping your mind on certain things, you can`t explore new things, so we take chances.
Not all things come to pass. But at least, you know you tried to make whatever you dream to make something happen for your own destiny.
If you don`t try....lets say, "You may never know" or ask, "Why did I wait ", or "I should have".
We all have experienced things like that.
I was fifteen, at the time. I think my mom dressed me down, with hexagon metal glasses.
But I know we didn`t have money, being a child, that was born to an immigrant couple. I was very aware.of the times of The Great Depression.
I dreamt of being different than I was. Being a cancer sign...this loomed over other things, in the back of my mind....always, pretended being a wife, & mother, when young. But in school, mom could not communicate properly, with teachers & had to have a teacher convince her I could not see the school board work, & needed glasses.
Not too much attention was paid for being clean, we had no tub or shower. So, mom visited my aunt, often, when she took a towel & soap with her, on frequent visits. "By the way, can we use your tub?" -was a question that was etched in my mind..(very embarrassing).
But I over-came that. I was going to make sure, I`d use my dreams & make due with imagination.

I looked for ads in the paper.Being a waitress was appealing to me.
We moved across the street. -Don`t even think on this one thing.
My Mother had a idea (or dream), to build a house, when my dad finally got work which was hard to do, at the time. She met a Polish woman who use to loan money, at 2% interest, to people of the same decent, nearby. She heard of it through others -except my dad. She barrowed $1,000. 00. My dad knew nothing of this.
(I was not to say anything, since I was only 6 yrs old-otherwise, I`d get her eagle eye).. She`d pay it back, since Pop, gave here the check, getting enough for his Imperial whiskey, & a little bit for tobacco, for his pipe.
We had a porch at the old house, with homemade furniture, an oak table that didn`t fit in the 3 bedroom house.
And, of course, my mom`s homemade rocker, which she always used. especially, if she had an idea, for something, as mentioned. (She always rocked faster when her mind was really active!!) I noticed that.
She eventually paid the woman back in a year. My dad still knew nothing, except it was appealing to him to get excess wood to make things, & they became bigger as time went on. Asking if he good have the left-over wood, still not knowing the house was to be ours. The stuff got bigger. My mom found a designer, & he made some plans for her urgings....two bedrooms, one bath, living room, kitchen, etc. The house went up. Meanwhile, with my mom`s raised eye brows, watching my dad bring enough to build a shed on the side of our small house, she`d have to figure a way, to let him knw what she did. (I`m the one who let it slip).
We took a walk, & I mentioned, looking at the house, & said, proudly. "OURS:???? My mom looked at me for a second, & held my hand until it was white.....
My dad had a questioned look. "vat you did , now"?? She had to tell him what happened . She barrowed another $2,000.00 & was half paid back. My brother was drafted, as the war was in progress. He sent money enough to pay the rest. Can`t believe my dad took the credit...& my mom let him.-some dreams do come true.

Back to me, looking in the paper, with meager clothing, I changed & sewed & added stuff to, I found I
could take a bus, earned enough money to pay for Patricia Steven`s Modeling & Finishing school. I did model for 3 yrs, doing live statues I department store windows, & modeled play clothing.

Gratitude. Appreciation. Giving thanks. No matter what words you use, it all means the same thing. Happy. We’re supposed to be happy. Grateful for friends, family, happy to just be alive… whether we like it or not.

Maybe we’re not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude… has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human.

Maybe we’re thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we’re thankful for the things we’ll never know.

At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing… is reason enough to celebrate...
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I did it. I distanced myself from the constant drama. The personal attacks, designed to cause trouble. It was the best thing I ever did. It cost me some friendships, I knew it would, but for the sake of my own health, I did it afterwards much lamenting , but being in their company was like walking on egg shells. I just can't do it anymore . I limit my time in their company, and avoid conversation. I share nothing with them, it took me years to finally give up, I tried and tried, not any more. Best thing I did. Amazing how the stress level dropped, and I feel no loss for that particular person.

Eliminate the Unnecessary

"The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak." - Hans Hofmann




Today's Positive Affirmation:

I willingly release the unnecessary from my life.

I believe for some who used to work in a company consist of some expatriates will face a communicating issue.

I am working on a accompany that allow me to meet , deal and communicate with many expatriates from India, Pakistan , Japan, and Korea.
And I think it is not easy to deal with them. Mostly on communicating issue.
Sometimes what we mean opposite with what they mean.

One day, I got assignment from my Japanese Superior. He asked me to make a document export.
I have done it and only awaiting for his signature. When he asked the document, I said it had done already . But he said, it had not done yet. I said, yes it had done already. Again, He said it had not done yet.
Finally, I knew what he means. For me "had done" mean I have already finished made the document, But for him, "had done" means the document already made and included his signature. W/o his signature that mean had not done yet.

Following one speaker of " Global Leadership Summit 2016 " Mrs. Erin Meyer;
" The way you communicate , affected the level of clarity that you give and hope to be accepted when dealing with others."

And.Asia continent included on High Context communicating which are implicit, layered, and nuanced .
I think I face a big challenge of communication ahead...
Any suggestion to help me deal and do a better communication with my expatriates?

Wish you all a nice weekend...

In a village, a poor old farmer had a lame son. Everyone in the village called that boy unlucky.
One day, king's army came to the village, and took all the strong young boys to be soldiers for the emperor. Only the old farmer's lame son was spared, because he could not fight with a broken leg. Everyone said, “What a good luck!” The old farmer replied, “Good luck?, bad luck?, who knows?”
So, don't pride on your good-luck and don't grieve over your bad-luck.