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At least I have Me for 2022
What is it with new years that I am sick everytime they come. I have left behind all the disappointments 2021 has brought me. And in such a strange and unwelcome way, they have their own way of sneaking up.
Now, Im wallowing all by myself, clogged nose, fever, sorethroat and headache. No food in the fridge, no one to ask to get them for me either.
So I get up, put my big girl pants on and made coffee. I still got some bread from a few days ago. Hopefully no molds in them. Hahahahaha At least I have that.
Exes coming back, but I have no energy to even flirt a little with any of them. But surely i have the energy to rant about my newest frustration for 2022 in my comfy flannel wrap and messy bun seated in front of smokin hot coffee and toasted bread.
At least I have the silence of the room all to myself. At least I have my sound mind and the hope for tomorrow to get the things I need. At least I still have me.
Welcome 2022!
Now, Im wallowing all by myself, clogged nose, fever, sorethroat and headache. No food in the fridge, no one to ask to get them for me either.
So I get up, put my big girl pants on and made coffee. I still got some bread from a few days ago. Hopefully no molds in them. Hahahahaha At least I have that.
Exes coming back, but I have no energy to even flirt a little with any of them. But surely i have the energy to rant about my newest frustration for 2022 in my comfy flannel wrap and messy bun seated in front of smokin hot coffee and toasted bread.
At least I have the silence of the room all to myself. At least I have my sound mind and the hope for tomorrow to get the things I need. At least I still have me.
Welcome 2022!
Going straight
As I stand here outside the prison gates, breathing in the air of freedom and feeling grateful for my early release, I am reflecting on my crime and the justness of my punishment. I have learned my lesson; from now on, whenever I am tempted to refer to another member, I will put far more effort into making their identity clear without actually mentioning their name.
And now, let the celebrations of my return commence.
And now, let the celebrations of my return commence.
online today!
16 Habits Of Highly Sensitive People
1. They feel more deeply.
One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. They're very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.
2. They're more emotionally reactive.
People who are highly sensitive will react more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend's problems.
3. They're probably used to hearing, "Don't take things so personally" and "Why are you so sensitive?"
4. They prefer to exercise solo.
Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there's a sense that everyone is watching their every move. However, this is not a blanket rule -- there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports.
5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.
Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make. Even if there is no "right" or "wrong" decision -- for example, it's impossible to choose a "wrong" flavor of ice cream.--- highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose.
6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a "bad" or "wrong" decision.
7. They're extremely detail-oriented.
Highly sensitive people are the first ones to notice the details in a room, the new shoes that you're wearing, or a change in weather.
8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.
In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts. Many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community and thus would interact with a lot of people.
9. They work well in team environments.
Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don't have to make the final decision.
10. They're more prone to anxiety or depression (but only if they've had a lot of past negative experiences without having a supportive environment).
11. That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person.
While it's hard to say anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, well, sensitive to chaos and noise.
12. Violent movies are the worst.
Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea.
13. They cry more easily.
That's why it's important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won't be made to feel embarrassed or "wrong" for crying easily.
14. They have above-average manners.
Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people. Because of this, they're more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners.
15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.
Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether.
16. Prefer solo work environments.
Many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle -- where they have more privacy and less noise -- than in an open-office plan.
Abridged version of article at
One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. They're very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.
2. They're more emotionally reactive.
People who are highly sensitive will react more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend's problems.
3. They're probably used to hearing, "Don't take things so personally" and "Why are you so sensitive?"
4. They prefer to exercise solo.
Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there's a sense that everyone is watching their every move. However, this is not a blanket rule -- there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports.
5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.
Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make. Even if there is no "right" or "wrong" decision -- for example, it's impossible to choose a "wrong" flavor of ice cream.--- highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose.
6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a "bad" or "wrong" decision.
7. They're extremely detail-oriented.
Highly sensitive people are the first ones to notice the details in a room, the new shoes that you're wearing, or a change in weather.
8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.
In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts. Many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community and thus would interact with a lot of people.
9. They work well in team environments.
Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don't have to make the final decision.
10. They're more prone to anxiety or depression (but only if they've had a lot of past negative experiences without having a supportive environment).
11. That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person.
While it's hard to say anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, well, sensitive to chaos and noise.
12. Violent movies are the worst.
Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea.
13. They cry more easily.
That's why it's important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won't be made to feel embarrassed or "wrong" for crying easily.
14. They have above-average manners.
Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people. Because of this, they're more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners.
15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.
Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether.
16. Prefer solo work environments.
Many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle -- where they have more privacy and less noise -- than in an open-office plan.
Abridged version of article at
pondering
I was just on my way back from a movie when I was looking out into the night sky. Parking my car, the stillness of the night revealed the lively chirping of the crickets.
lol
awkward transition here....:)
It is often said as we go through life, we will discover our purpose of life. Don't you often wonder if there has to be more to life than just waking up, doing your routine, going to sleep, only to wake up to do the same thing over and over and over and over and over....okay, you get the picture.
Have you discovered your purpose? Do you believe we have a purpose? I can imagine a lot of people will say that their children are their purpose. That could be. Is it really your purpose if you are doing it for "my" child/children? That just sounds a little selfish to me (what do I know). Maybe they might be a hint or a path to your purpose??? I really do not know.
I cannot say I have discovered my purpose yet. I live my life trying to leave people better off (even if just so slightly) than they were before they met me. I might give them a genuine compliment, give them a constructive criticism, help them with something, give my non-bias advice/opinion, or give them few extra bucks to help them through this difficult life. Is this my purpose? I do not know.
What do you all think? Do we have a purpose? Do we have no purpose? If you think there is a purpose each of us have in life and you think you discovered yours....do you care to share it here? If so....let's hear it. :)
lol
awkward transition here....:)
It is often said as we go through life, we will discover our purpose of life. Don't you often wonder if there has to be more to life than just waking up, doing your routine, going to sleep, only to wake up to do the same thing over and over and over and over and over....okay, you get the picture.
Have you discovered your purpose? Do you believe we have a purpose? I can imagine a lot of people will say that their children are their purpose. That could be. Is it really your purpose if you are doing it for "my" child/children? That just sounds a little selfish to me (what do I know). Maybe they might be a hint or a path to your purpose??? I really do not know.
I cannot say I have discovered my purpose yet. I live my life trying to leave people better off (even if just so slightly) than they were before they met me. I might give them a genuine compliment, give them a constructive criticism, help them with something, give my non-bias advice/opinion, or give them few extra bucks to help them through this difficult life. Is this my purpose? I do not know.
What do you all think? Do we have a purpose? Do we have no purpose? If you think there is a purpose each of us have in life and you think you discovered yours....do you care to share it here? If so....let's hear it. :)
friends
is it me or does this website only have mature women over the age of 40...am i on the wrong website?..
Do You Like You?
Not too long ago, I hated myself, hated the situation I was caught in, hated my looks, hated everything about me.....
Miraculously, I snapped out from my depression and self-pitying. Best feeling ever!
I now see myself worthy of love and attention. Most of all, I love what I see in the mirror
"Try"
Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim
So they like you. Do they like you?
Get your sexy on
Don't be shy, girl
Take it off
This is what you want, to belong
So they like you. Do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
Oh
Get your shopping on,
At the mall,
Max your credit cards
You don't have to choose,
Buy it all
So they like you. Do they like you?
Wait a second,
Why should you care, what they think of you
When you're all alone, by yourself
Do you like you? Do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
No
Oh
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
Take your make up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don't you like you?
Cause I like you
Miraculously, I snapped out from my depression and self-pitying. Best feeling ever!
I now see myself worthy of love and attention. Most of all, I love what I see in the mirror
"Try"
Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim
So they like you. Do they like you?
Get your sexy on
Don't be shy, girl
Take it off
This is what you want, to belong
So they like you. Do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
Oh
Get your shopping on,
At the mall,
Max your credit cards
You don't have to choose,
Buy it all
So they like you. Do they like you?
Wait a second,
Why should you care, what they think of you
When you're all alone, by yourself
Do you like you? Do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
No
Oh
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
Take your make up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don't you like you?
Cause I like you
Philosophy
I became interested in philosophy a few years ago and made a casual acquaintance with some of the characters who have played a part in its progression since Socrates wandered about the market places of ancient Greece, annoying the locals. I can’t say I am any wiser because of it. I thought that learning about philosophy might help facilitate my getting to the truth of things. If it has taught me anything at all, it is that there isn’t a truth of things.
Perhaps a better way of putting that would be to say that the word “truth” stands for something different every time we use it, but it always seems to involve distilling or isolating something from something bigger. What we end up with is very often something that has to be separated from any wider context in order to satisfy our desire for a binary* outcome.
Philosophy isn’t really about getting to the truth, it’s more about getting to what isn’t the truth, and for that alone, it’s worth pursuing.
* I would have said “black and white” at one time.
Perhaps a better way of putting that would be to say that the word “truth” stands for something different every time we use it, but it always seems to involve distilling or isolating something from something bigger. What we end up with is very often something that has to be separated from any wider context in order to satisfy our desire for a binary* outcome.
Philosophy isn’t really about getting to the truth, it’s more about getting to what isn’t the truth, and for that alone, it’s worth pursuing.
* I would have said “black and white” at one time.
what Has Turned My Life Around
After many years of struggling and being down more days then not I have realized the secret which has turned my life around and this might be worth you giving a try as well, in the past everything seemed to go wrong for me in so many ways. I was not a happy child living in abuse, then after a 20 year abusive marriage I suddenly found myself abandoned by my high school sweetheart, my ex decided she wanted to be single again she did not even have the decency to discuss this with me or tell me to my face she was moving on without me. One day I came home to a empty home, I mean empty she was gone and most of what we owned so I was all alone and starting over out of no choice of my own.
It has taken me more years then I wish to share to finally find the secret to happiness and being content with my life, finally one day after years of being depressed and negative I decided I am going to take control of my life instead of the negative things taking control of me. I started by researching self-improvement resources, what turned my life around was not so difficult to figure out but much harder to do. I started catching my negative thoughts and actions, stopped and focused on the positive side of every situation. After many months this started to become more natural for me, now many years later I see the positive things in my life much more then the negative things without even having to think about it. Oh I still am hit with many obstacles in my life even today, actually probably more now then ever but I can overcome them much quicker by just being more positive and dwelling less on them.
I truly urge you to give this system a try, it will not be easy at first for you by any means. As people most of us just seem to more naturally dwell on the negative things life throws at us, but once you program yourself to be more positive you will be amazed at how much happier and content you will be with your own life.
Have Faith In Yourself And Amazing Things Will Happen In Your Life In The Near Future.
It has taken me more years then I wish to share to finally find the secret to happiness and being content with my life, finally one day after years of being depressed and negative I decided I am going to take control of my life instead of the negative things taking control of me. I started by researching self-improvement resources, what turned my life around was not so difficult to figure out but much harder to do. I started catching my negative thoughts and actions, stopped and focused on the positive side of every situation. After many months this started to become more natural for me, now many years later I see the positive things in my life much more then the negative things without even having to think about it. Oh I still am hit with many obstacles in my life even today, actually probably more now then ever but I can overcome them much quicker by just being more positive and dwelling less on them.
I truly urge you to give this system a try, it will not be easy at first for you by any means. As people most of us just seem to more naturally dwell on the negative things life throws at us, but once you program yourself to be more positive you will be amazed at how much happier and content you will be with your own life.
Have Faith In Yourself And Amazing Things Will Happen In Your Life In The Near Future.
Pay caution to the wind...
Usually when someone says my mate has a problem ...blah ..blah ..blah..can you help him ? there never was a mate or (pet) to begin with but after presenting oneself as a confident image they then deny themselves the right
to be honest therefore cannot speak about an insecurity they may well have as this isn't at all in fitting with their fake personality they've created for themselves otherwise known as "alter ego." It must be like splitting your personality and who you are in two. This site offers the perfect opportunity for that ,Ugly becomes hansome, too fat becomes Athletic a cripple can become a 100 metre sprinter, a poor man doesn't have to be poor anymore, a geeky little wimp can be the big man he never was and the man down on his luck with women becomes the womaniser who had more than his fair share I mean (a man changing into a woman as complicated as may be simply becomes the lady he never was.The list is endless and please don't let your imaginations run wild .This was just an awareness blog created from my own observations.
to be honest therefore cannot speak about an insecurity they may well have as this isn't at all in fitting with their fake personality they've created for themselves otherwise known as "alter ego." It must be like splitting your personality and who you are in two. This site offers the perfect opportunity for that ,Ugly becomes hansome, too fat becomes Athletic a cripple can become a 100 metre sprinter, a poor man doesn't have to be poor anymore, a geeky little wimp can be the big man he never was and the man down on his luck with women becomes the womaniser who had more than his fair share I mean (a man changing into a woman as complicated as may be simply becomes the lady he never was.The list is endless and please don't let your imaginations run wild .This was just an awareness blog created from my own observations.
A Restless Night
I think it may have been because I was frustrated at nothing interesting happening on the site last night that I ended up in one of my funny moods. The kind of mood where I feel like picking a fight; only a virtual fight, I wouldn’t dream of getting myself involved in a real one. So, anyway, I went into the forum and did precisely that; I started on someone I didn’t even know just because he didn’t wholeheartedly agree with something I’d posted.
It obviously annoyed him and he did fight back but I don’t imagine it caused him any distress. It did cause me some, though. I went to bed feeling guilty about it and it took me ages to get to sleep. When I did eventually drop off I was plagued by very uncomfortable dreams; one of which woke me and, not being able to go back to sleep, caused me to get up and have a cup of tea.
So, if anyone reading this blog finds me having a go at them for no apparent reason, sometime in the future, you can take satisfaction from the knowledge that it will hurt me more than you.
It obviously annoyed him and he did fight back but I don’t imagine it caused him any distress. It did cause me some, though. I went to bed feeling guilty about it and it took me ages to get to sleep. When I did eventually drop off I was plagued by very uncomfortable dreams; one of which woke me and, not being able to go back to sleep, caused me to get up and have a cup of tea.
So, if anyone reading this blog finds me having a go at them for no apparent reason, sometime in the future, you can take satisfaction from the knowledge that it will hurt me more than you.
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