Deserted In Your Love?
Not all women are angels and not all men are devils. Or, if you want it the other way around, not all men are saints and not all women are demons. For every man walking around acting like a pig there is a b*tch lurking somewhere else. While they deserve to end up together, it seldom works out that way.
For every blog appearing about a man being tormented in his love, there are 10 blogs about women blaming a man – and mostly all men – for their woes. And such blogs are normally swarming with ladies to join the bandwagon ready to condemn men while the absence of men on such blogs sticks out like a sore thumb. What is this; the pot calling the kettle black?
Men love no less intense than women. Men are hurt as easily as women; we just don’t walk around with our hearts on our sleeves. We are too proud to let women know when they hurt us.
I had my share of problems with women as well. In fact every single major problem I had in my life was because of a woman but do I hate them for that? No. Do I blame them for all the trouble? Once again, no. I was stupid enough to allow it. It was my own fault. I did not see the signs because I did not look at them before it was too late.
The signs are always there. Connivers always leave telltales. You only need to look and you will spot them. Your heart is not a toy; why allow people to play with it?
Men, in general, cannot be blamed for the behaviour if some men; just like women, in general, cannot be held accountable for the actions of some women.
We are all in control of our own lives. Take hold of it and don’t allow false-hearted lovers to control it. If you allow it, is your own fault.
A great day to you all and be in control of your own life.
Comments (78)
Good show. We are easy targets if we allow others to control our feelings. Nobody can hurt us unles we allow them to do it.
Many things on line are better not to 'hear'.
I AM WOMAN, I AM STRONG, HERE ME ROARRRRRRRR I HAVE COMPLETE CONTROL OVER MY LIFE ALWAYS, MY CHOICES AND WHO I ALLOW INTO MY BED
Hope you have a gooder day too kitten
Those are words of wisdom
good job all men are not alike or you could just be robots we need something to tell you apart.
The end of a relationship is very much like a funeral. We can cry a little but then we must bury the person and get on with our lives. The dead wont come back.
Are you in the diplomatic services?
Nobody ever called me 'a wise guy' in such a pleasant way.
I can understand that but a dating site is hardly the place to vent your anger towards the opposite gender. But that is not my issue I wonder why blame roughly half the world's populations for a wrong that you have at least a 50% share in.
Me just wanna have fun their is a song about that I think.
People blame each other male or female depending on how bad experience when enough time elapses it goes with the memory loss for some that is.
If everybody is telling you what to do with your life, it does not mean that you have to heed to them. It is same as with this blog; it is for free and what you do with it is only your decision.
You are in control of your own life and nobody can force you to do anything you don't want to do.
Very true. There are two kinds of love. One comes through the heart and the other comes through another organ and the as where the root of the problem is.
What on earth makes you believe that I don't like your comments?
I don't always agree with everybody but that does not mean I did not like the comment. We are bound to differ in opinion and I would like to hear other opinions. My problem is with those who don't respect the opinion or believes of others. We don't have to agree; we have to respect.
Regards your divorce, I'm about the same there. I'm not exactly the guy who will help her to pack, but if she no longer wish to be with me I am not interested to know why. The quicker she leaves the better.
Me would want to know reasons to see if a solution could be found first
Maybe that is Why I forgive so easily. I forget things to quickly. The Alzheimer's is getting me down now.
Are you stuck in a desert now?
I cannot tell as I cannot remember what it was like before.
Enjoy your coming weekend.
You enjoy your weekend too.
As they say, bottoms up.
We cannot blame others for what we have a stake in ourselves. That way we never get to the real problem. We have to start at home and address the issue from there.
Btw, I never saw myself as pragmatic; more as clinical. I see things in black and white. It is either yes or no to me. Only once that is established I will color the rest. To me the circumstances that led to a condition is less important than the condition. My mind works more like a court of law. First determine the guilt and then look at mitigation.
No problem here. I just refuse to take the blame for others and it is not just men who break hearts.
Yhe snipers have also gone old and are no langer as accurate as before.
Have you learned that secret? Well done then because I still seek the answer to it.
I have had quite a few girlfriends...5 serious relationships, and I can say i was one of those..hide my feelings men..just not macho is it ?..That was until i met a women 6 years ago...she completely changed my life..got the biggest hammer possible and smashed that wall down..Now I'm not sure if part of it was me growing up and mellowing.but I have a lot to thank her for...I understand women so much more..but its not really the women we need to understand..its ourselves.
KISS theory..Keep It Simple Stupid...I am no longer with that women, we didn't fall out of love..to the contrary..but lets just say our kids come first so sacrifices had to be made..I believe she came into my life to make me see a whole new perspective in relationships..the next women will benefit from it I hope.
PS. Nice shoes.
men are stubborn..women are just a pain...
With regards to your second comment, maybe your right; or maybe not. It does not really matter. What is important is that venting and lashing out at the not guilty only brings temporary relief; soon it will crop up again and the cycle will be repeated.
My blog was not intended to point finger at anybody; rather to address the real issue and do something about it.
You had a bad experience. But you did not go blaming all woman for that. You have accepted the break and you have moved on. That is what I'm talking about.