Deserted In Your Love?

Not all women are angels and not all men are devils. Or, if you want it the other way around, not all men are saints and not all women are demons. For every man walking around acting like a pig there is a b*tch lurking somewhere else. While they deserve to end up together, it seldom works out that way.uh oh

For every blog appearing about a man being tormented in his love, there are 10 blogs about women blaming a man – and mostly all men – for their woes. And such blogs are normally swarming with ladies to join the bandwagon ready to condemn men while the absence of men on such blogs sticks out like a sore thumb. What is this; the pot calling the kettle black?sigh

Men love no less intense than women. Men are hurt as easily as women; we just don’t walk around with our hearts on our sleeves. We are too proud to let women know when they hurt us.broken heart

I had my share of problems with women as well. In fact every single major problem I had in my life was because of a woman but do I hate them for that? No. Do I blame them for all the trouble? Once again, no. I was stupid enough to allow it. It was my own fault. I did not see the signs because I did not look at them before it was too late.doh

The signs are always there. Connivers always leave telltales. You only need to look and you will spot them. Your heart is not a toy; why allow people to play with it? heart beating

Men, in general, cannot be blamed for the behaviour if some men; just like women, in general, cannot be held accountable for the actions of some women.hmmm

We are all in control of our own lives. Take hold of it and don’t allow false-hearted lovers to control it. If you allow it, is your own fault.doh
cats meow cats meow

A great day to you all and be in control of your own life.wave
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Comments (78)

Catfoot,

oh dear....i am so sorry honey....i never thought

i could hurt you...kiss i love you more than 26 hours

of the day my sweetest lover ...bouquet lips
Hi Jac
Hmm, ok good bye. I suppose I can look forward to more of this. I get very suspicious when somebody arrives from nowhere and latch onto snippets of the blog and comments to criticize in stead of looking at the message that the blog convey. I also see a lot of blogs I don't agree with but If I don't like it or cannot make a positive contribution, I move on to another.doh

Have a good day.tip hat
confused dunno doh grin
Hi Cmi
You brought a ray of sunshine to my blog in a stormy season. Thanks for dropping in. Enjoy your day.
wine hug wave
Hey cat....is this about you...why don't you tell us about your last experience..maybe the women and men here, can advise where..or if your going wrong..or even them...worth a try right ?
I haven't come from nowhere, Catfoot.

I've been contributing to the blogs and forums as a member of this site for over four years.

However, I feel you have dismissed me as an outsider.

I also feel dismissed as not having a valid contribution to make because you don't agree with my interpretations, or comments.

confused
i again have to agree with Jac..and I'm not sure why you feel the way you do..but I do detect that this blog...is based on your own experience. Am I wrong ?
Well Jac, and maybe you sounded completely patronising and not everyone wants to TRY to discuss something with you because as most regular contributors know, it usually doesn't go anywhere. tip hat
Hi Jac
So you are still here? I thought you have left.doh

I'm sorry if you did not understand my blog so well. After all, English is not my mother's tongue and it is well conceivable that I could not match your superior skills in the English language. I hear you even had and English teacher. Bravo!

And I'm sad to lack in your superb writing skills. I just found it funny that many other understood the gist of the blog so much better than you. Seen that you had an English teacher you probably did a few comprehension tests as well. How did you with it? I bet full marks as well.
confused dunno doh
Huh...I don't find Jac replies patronizing at all...she has a valid point...why..i've been there.
Cat, excellent blog... Thank you. There's nothing left for me say now... going to contemplate now.confused
Ian
No, I hate to disappoint you but it does not go about me. I have been happily divorced from my second wife for more than ten years now and as it is I found somebody here on CS. I'm very much at peace with myself; thank you.
confused dunno doh
handshake Great blog apart from the 'nemesis'barf
iSo sorry Jac
How inconsiderate of me.

Thank you for your valuable contribution. Though I do not agree with you I appreciate your input.
hug wave
Hi KN
wine hug wave
Cat...I totally agree with you and I'll take your advice....not to let anyone play with my heart ever again.teddybear
@Cat...I second Luke's comment....It sort of covers many telling aspects of your well written blog...regardless of the inability of a few to follow its content....grin wine
Kenagh...yes...there many things to play with...two can play the same game...win-win situation! teddybear grin
Hi Kitty
That is why I don't like lawyers. They don't listen to the story but rather latch on a few words and try to ridicule the story by using them to get the attention away from what really matters.
hug wave
Cat, I've learned mine the hard ways! I don't feel bad now as it made me wiser,tougher and a better person. I'll take every caution the next time around...even if it means I'll settle for an ONS...grin
Ian...I have no plans in breaking anyone's
Heart....as long as they leave mine intact grin
Hi Luke
I remember Tiekie all to well. Funny enough, I once met him in the street and he was not so nice at all. Re the other issue, back riders you will always get.
grin doh
Cat, true. If I sense someone will break my heart, I'll crush his before he could go half way...grin teddybear heart wings
Cat....NO! I'm just taking your advice...laugh grin
Cat,,, I've been through 2 tough relationship and twice I said "I DIDN'T SEE IT COMING!"

SO what are the signs I should look for? I really need your advice on this...I have an eye for one of the member here.grin laugh
so what i miss popcorn been at a different camp rolling on the floor laughing
Hi Flutterby.
Hmm, you missed all the fun and just prior to that I had some fun and games out here in real life as well.doh
hug wave
why don't u tell us what this guy is saying to you..maybe we can give you an idea ?
dodgy..get rid quick
My first impressions say give it a chance and see how it develop. Correspond more and chat on Skype if you so wish. But don't be in a hurry,

It is always best to follow your instincts. If you have doubts, let it go.
hug wave
Yes, a litte dodgy and I have some doubts...I don't want to be taken for a ride. So far I'm ok, Cat. No harm done yet, I had fun talking to him but I have a gut feeling that this is not going anywhere, and it's ok too...I'm not expecting anything but I'll put a lot of thoughts on it and see how I will feel when I wake up in the morning. It pays to be cautious.cheers
Good luck then
Cat, if it's really worth it, why not?! I walked the fire for love twice, I think I can do it again given the right reasons and if it's really for love.
Ian, Thanks but I need more than luck for a succesful relationship...it requires a lot of love, respect, honesty, fidelity, etc...hard to find all of them in a man nowadays.
Yes Cat...I'm keeping my eyes open. Just like anyone else I would love to be in love but it's kinda difficult to find the right one who could make my blood flow...with just the thought of him. Once you found that person, another hard part is knowing if he's really that IN to me as I am IN to him.confused
Well I'm not gonna stick around trying to find out if he's that IN to me. I'd rather cut to the chase...if he's IN then he's IN...like what you've said,watch out for the signs...I see one I'm done. No sense on investing any more time and emotions, right?confused
EXACTLY...THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO HEAR, CAT!

Do I sound cynical or rude in any way? If so...I apologizeteddybear
GLAD TO KNOW THAT, CAT!laugh

Just so you know, I find your blog very thought provoking at the moment...this could be the blog that would leave a lasting impression on me here on CS.frustrated
SAME HERE, CAT...3:29 AM!!!doh
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I know I cannot always have what I want, but that does not make me want it less. Otherwise I’m easy to please, flexible, accommodating and forgiving. I cool down as fast what I get cross. I hate it when people lie to me. I’m hooked to my laptop, but [read more]

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