A little snippet of a conversation between my daughter and I yesterday:
Me: Leave to my grandkids to have a good imagination and skewed view of the world!
Daughter: Oh, DemonSpawn is completly prepared to take over the world in the next few decades, and even listens when I outline strategies for her to recruit followers.
Me: Really?
Daughter: I even got her thinking about how social reform programs would be a good place to start and that she needs good grades to get into a good college so she can go into politics. If you are persuasive enough a talker, you can get people to join anything...and then you can use their talents to ultimately achieve your personal goals
I love how my daughter is teaching my granddaughter how to achieve a dream.
(family joke about nicknames: I am Sweetly Evil, my daughter is the Evil One and my granddaughter is DemonSpawn)
Unfortunately, mom's biological mother passed away in 1996. Mom is in contact (and so are we) with her half-sister. They will be meeting this summer but we are all communicating by phone and via facebook.
My mom's half-sister has asked us to call her "Auntie" which we do and she has shared photos with us of her mother and we can see how striking the family resemblance. Eye shape, nose, hair line. It's amazing and my mom is over the moon!!!
Adopted children ~ my mom spent most of her life looking for her biological family. She always knew she was adopted, her parents never made a secret out of it but they did make the circumstances of her adoption a secret and the whole family and close friends went along with it.
We had/have no clue of our medical background. It doesn't just affect the adoptee, it affects their children also. Going to a doctor when does not know their medical background is frustrating and humiliating. Doctors and nurses can, in those cases be quite condescending to one.
My sister is what is termed a "Search Angel." She helps adoptees find their birth families. For some it is because they want to know the "why's and wherefores" but for others it is because they need to know their medical history because of an illness. She owns and operates an online magazine that helps these individuals.
After 48 years of heartrending searches, my mother has finally found her biological family. It took so many years because Mom was not allowed access to her original birth record. So many false leads, so many false hopes but now she knows, we know and we are slowly constructing our medical history.
Adoptees should be able to be given non-identifying medical information that could possibly save their lives; no one should have to guess what might be lurking in their health.
I persist Alberta because I have no desire or need to remove myself to the cold, frozen tundra to do work that I stopped doing twenty-five years ago.
I am putting myself through school so that I can get work in a career that I envision will be much more satisfying to myself. And for what I do and what I have trained, there aren't the jobs. Call it whatever you want, or deride it as much as you want, it is what it is. Some choose careers based on their natural talents and I am damn good at what I do as I am sure that you are good at what you do.
I can't exactly say that having a "traditional family" (one dad and one mom) was all that great. Granted my parents loved one another but could not stand being with one another. Fights, arguments, ignoring one another. They divorced when I was 5/6 and in between I had two step-fathers, numerous step-siblings and then my parents remarried when I was around 12/13 and separated after my oldest son was born and finally divorced when my youngest was 2/3.
Not exactly the greatest endorsement for marriage and the worst excuse I ever heard from my parents was the classic "We are staying together for the children." That's is a sad, sad reason.
In-vitro fertilization can be a good thing for those who cannot conceive or for those women who have reached their financial goals and want to start a family but have no partner. It's not like it is a cheap procedure or that it is easy to do.
As for myself, I raised my children without a partner for some years (their dads did not want to be dads) and then with my ex-husband and his children. Neither situation was perfect for any of us and my children (mine and his) seem to have come out just fine.
Hmm...Alberta, I don't think you understand that we (Winter_Aires and I) have gone to where the "work is." As a matter of fact, we were encouraged by our unemployment state specialists (California and Arizona) to move to eastern part of the US and find jobs there.
Guess what? In the last year, not only have we gone out of our "comfort zones" to find work and also changed fields in some respects (and going to school), there are no "jobs."
Not through lack of walking into businesses, networking, job fairs and applying but simply because the jobs are not available to us based on our qualifications, skill sets and age.
I work on finding employment for more than twelve hours a day, still run my household, attend school, have a social life and play on the forums. I average about four to six hours of sleep a night, (if that) and still try to keep going.
I have "toned" down my resume, added to it, deleted some things, been on numerous interviews, have excellent references and still cannot find gainful employment.
Here though, they use the financial information from your credit report to determine if you are financially sound. Pay your bills on time, no child support owed, no outstanding loans. They use it to judge the applicant on whether or not they are "good" enough to hire.
Exactly VE! Asking someone to disclose their financial background and then basing a decision to hire or not hire is wrong. And yet, so many employers are doing it today and getting away with it.
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Damn! I knew I had the year wrong.