I can see where you are going with that but I think that it is actually just the opposite. How many times were young girls sent "away" because they were pregnant and the family could not be seen to be anything other than upstanding and morally responsible? Unplanned pregnancies and single parent ratios only seem to be higher because it is not the social stigma it was just a few short decades ago.
Like auto-biographies Swiss? Shirley Temple Black wrote a very interesting auto-biography; covered from her birth to her appointment as a US Ambassador.
The father of my oldest two children decided he no longer wished to be a husband and father and gave up his parental rights to the children.
The father of my youngest child decided that he would not pay child support because he did not feel he should have to since the youngest was an "accident." I did ask for child support through the courts and although they were given his many numerous addresses, the court system did not find him and after about five years, I figured it was just easier for me to support him.
To be honest, I would have loved to receive child support for my children. I believe it would have helped them a bit more, yet it did not happen for them. I willingly helped to support my stepchildren.
I was not disagreeing with you Pik; I pretty much agree with what you are saying, I was just pointing out an example that I knew of personally and that it does seem that it is something that is happening more and more.
It's actually not that uncommon. Most courts will hold the man who raised, supported, and cared for the child(ren) as the one who is legally responsible for the child(ren). No matter what the DNA test proves or disproves.
In the courts eyes, if a man has accepted responsibility for a child who is not his biologically and yet the child calls him "Dad," then they will demand child support for that child.
An example: An ex-colleague was going through a not-so amicable divorce. She had two young boys; one of whom was her soon-to-be ex's child. She was counting on the courts to give her only sole legal and physical custody of the child who was "theirs."
She was quite shocked when the judge ordered 50/50 legal and physical custody of both children. When she pointed out to the judge that her oldest child was not her ex-husbands', the judge stated that since the child called him Daddy and that Daddy had supported him financially, physically and emotionally, then the child was his as surely as the child they made together.
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RE: single mum!!!
I can see where you are going with that but I think that it is actually just the opposite. How many times were young girls sent "away" because they were pregnant and the family could not be seen to be anything other than upstanding and morally responsible? Unplanned pregnancies and single parent ratios only seem to be higher because it is not the social stigma it was just a few short decades ago.