My honest opinion of those who wish to constantly analyse the failure of a relationship is that they have somewhat of a guilty conscience. They are seeking to deflect some of the blame for the failure out into the ether, rather than simply looking inwards. If you ask enough questions to enough people, sooner of later you will receive the answer you are looking for: "YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT".
It is good to do a relationship postmortem for a short while, to see if you can learn anything for the future, but prolonging this PM, so that it consumes you for weeks on end is certainly not healthy in my opinion.
I have always said on here that what I say is honest. If I dont like someone, I refuse to pretend otherwise.
This has gotten me banned in the past, but I feel in the long run people appreciate me for that more. Thats why, if I am ever accused of being two-faced I really, really get annoyed, because its so far from the truth its laughable.
Many thanks for the compliment, which I take as such.
Very true what you say; I keep myself smart and attractive as possible, I take pride in my appearance, but also do alot of painting, interior decorating, stacking logs and suchlike! I actually enjoyed doing the trash route; it was a perfect opportunity for me to learn the neighborhood. Im sure some women thought I was crazy, and there are many around who would not be seen dead doing it, but to me it was a business as any else and more importantly, it was helping my man out and showing him an ulterior side to me that is not obvious from my appearance, I guess.
A relationship involves working together, in all things, and doing something together and building it up is one of the strongest ways to bond, I believe.
What a nice post; thank you for sharing that one, NoRewind.
I understand your points. I think once you have been "taken" like that, you have to be extra cautious and take it really slow. They should be willing to fit into your life, as much as they want you to fit into theirs.
The first 6 months I was here, I went out and helped my now-husband with his trash route; he had told me about it, was rather embarrassed about it because it was so unglamourous, but I really enjoyed going out and about with him, learning the customers, the streets and his way.
Its a ver lucrative business now, and I think he was somewhat impressed that I was willing to go out in my working gear, get my hands dirty and unload at the dump!
Now, he has someone to do it for him, but the point was that it showed him I was willing to fit into his life.
I would say that the Ego side of things is more a male issue, actually. But the rest of your post, I would sadly agree with regarding wimmin.
I think wimmin are less generally sure of themselves, feel they need to prove themselves more and therefore can be guilty of what you say, yes. Not in all cases of course, but in many.
Wimmin who call the Victim Card, get greedy and unreasonable and let personal issues with the father cloud their judgement in divorce cases are the lowest of the low, as far as Im concerned, and give the rest of us a bad name.
A fair, equal divide is the only way, and unfortunately even when this happens any child support sent by the father is not guaranteed to be used in the correct manner by the mother.
In my opinion, the courts here are waaay more biased against the man than they were in other countries I have lived in.
I know it varies from State to State, but I know of a case in Georgia where the man, who was attempting to gain custody of his children from his drug-abusing wife that the Judge told him...
Yes, totally agree with your post, in particular the manipulative side. I know of women who will lie, cheat, walk all over a man's feelings purely to get what she wants, and then cry "victim" when he wises up.
"Vapid" is a great word. I cannot think of anything more boring than going for lunch and discussing the latest fashion in purses, personally.
Each to their own, I guess, but some vacuous wimmin surely do give the rest of us a bad name.
Thank you for posting and nice to meet you, daisy.
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RE: Describe "MEN" in one word ?
Cheese.