This weekend America and its inhabitants will mourn the loss of its people and its safety. It should be a time of respectful thought and dignity and a time for all to come together as one.
To remember is to honor, and that is what many will do this weekend.
Thats true, J. Its very easy to get comfortable for whatever reason in that LDR, and settling for it for too long.
It was incredibly scary for both of us to make the leap, but unless we wanted to go for months emailing we had to do it. We took the attitude that if it works out, great, if it doesnt then its not the end of the world.
I think one of the reasons it worked was because there was always an end in site, Monte, as in the LDR part of it was not too long. Neither of us wanted to spend any longer than necessary emailing and web-camming. We wanted it real, and as as soon as we could, we made it real.
I could never entertain a LDR unless I knew it was going to end in a physical meet.
Tis a difficult one for sure, but the way I see it is this:
If things are not working out, or you are meeting the wrong kind of men for you, look into yourself and ask what it is you are really seeking. Why do you want to be in a relationship? What can you give it? What are you looking to get from it? Are there any aspects of yourself or your life other than relationships that you are discontented with?
I think its important to really know yourself what you as an individual wants; not what society expects you to have, but what YOU want and need. If you find aspects of yourself and/or you life you dislike, work on them until you are happy with the result first. Dont promise yourself more than you can give, and be realistic about your expectations.
People who perpetrate often then, when confronted, play the victim.
Also, no fighting has occured on this thread in particular; simply views being expressed.
If I had thought it was just me, I would have maybe questioned my reading and my sanity; however, having had others say the same, I know this situation exists.
Rather than people playing the victim, maybe their time would be better spent looking at what has been said, and seeing if their actions could also be misconstrued.
The rest of your post, I actually agreed with, but it seems ironic to me that you should post that, and certainly can be taken several ways. Maybe I took it the wrong way, and if so, I apologize. I am not too high and mighty to admit if I am wrong.
However, it does not negate the fact that I have seen behaviour on here that could relate to stalking someone, and when it is one of those people who get stalked that go to jail instead of the stalker, then I consider things are out of sinq..
And as regards me attacking Leigh and slagging her off? I called her on something not only myself have seen. Thats not attacking and/or slagging; thats confronting someone.
Totally different.
As I said, Leigh CHOSE to come into this thread, and CHOSE to make comments that she was fully aware would cause offence.
Further, knowing CS as I do, you can bet your last Dollar on the fact that if what I said was not agreed with, or anyone other than you thought it was unfair, I would know about it. No one has posted in that regard, and a few red thumbs are always to be expected on here. They mean nothing.
The only person who seems to be protesting is you. Just because someone has the guts and the confidence to challenge other people on these forums does not make them trouble makers; simply people who cannot abide certain behaviour and wont sit back in the shadows.
You chose to come into this thread, Leigh. You chose to comment. You chose to get on your high horse because someone called you on your behaviour and you dont like it. You chose to incorrectly quote rules and regulations. You chose to use the word "slander" incorrectly. Slander is only slander if it is incorrect. No-where have I slandered anyone; simply told the truth. If you dont like it, tough.
If you chose to maraude aroud the forums, behaving in a certain way, be prepared to be called on it.
As regards your childish comments regarding Welcome Wagon, well, rest assured I would rather be looked upon as someone who tries to welcome new members than looked upon as someone who tries to drive them off.
I am not in the habit of slandering people, Leigh. I do call people on what I personally consider crap behaviour, if I so chose to. As I said yesterday, deal with it.
If you dont like what I say, stay away from me and stay away from my threads. Simple, really.
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RE: How many dates have you had on dating sites?
Awww...Come up and visit, and we will see if we can find a Fine Lady for you here..