In addition, if this thread had been created by one of several other users it would probably be applauded to the ends of the earth, with not a red thumb in sight. Its all completely subjective, and thats really one of the points I was trying to get across in my OP.
I find I achieve more in life if I use my common sense and my head, rather than let my emotions rule.
Its not a question of whether people are entitled; its a question of whether it does any good to. People are obviously entitled moan and complain as much as they like, but if it gets you no closer to achieving your goal, all it does is tend to make you more frustrated.
As I said earlier in the thread; this was just simple, friendly advise - take it or leave it.
Being a CS Vet now, and an Ole Fogie of 46 I have pretty much seen it and experienced it all on here and the internet in general.
Having seen so much complaining recently about this, that and the other, I felt compelled to do this thread. The following, in my humble opinion are 10 important pointers to make our internet usuage more pleasurable:
1. DONT complain about a free site. If you dont like it, leave and find another.
2. DONT complain about losing friends and people being banned from posting on sites; no organization that offers something for nada appreciates being critizised, and you will like as not be removed yourself for complaining.
3. DONT get involved in "Behind the Scenes" machinations; anyone who emails others in private trying to drum up "support" is not to be trusted - WHATEVER their motives. Learn to recognize "agendas".
4. DONT expect to be liked by everyone, and be wary of those who try to be friends with everyone.
5. DONT believe everything you hear; the likelihood is less than 10% of it is actually true.
6. DO try to be honest; people have differing opinions on forums and can be much braver on the internet than they ever would in person, but honesty is an attribute that should be nurtured and respected - ESPECIALLY on a dating site such as this!
7. DO try to take breaks from constant internet usuage: it is much easier to guage others by looking from afar than it is when you are knee-deep in them.
8. DONT divulge too much personal info or personal experiences; it often comes back to bite you in the butt.
9. DO be savvy; do not trust anyone too quickly. That way, damage from scammers and serial internet hawks will be minimised.
10. Finally, DONT sweat the small stuff: if something/someone has peeved you, move on. Life really IS that short!
I find intelligence, as regards the ability to discuss many things with my partner a great turn on. I find it stimulating to be able to be with someone who has common sense and intelligence; I dont care if its qualifications on paper or not - as long as that person is able to discuss and converse on many subjects.
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Stupidity, outofafrica.Nice to see you again.