The thing with that however, is that you cannot know a person until you have spent a deal of time with them; therefore, you can only go so far into seeing if you have the same values before you have to commit, to some degree or another.
I think, and I am no professional, that if someone feels that way, it is down to one of the following:
1. They are not over past hurts; 2. They are over-complicating things; 3. They have an inert aspect of their personality that finds it hard to accept things simply as they are.
Any one of these things will doom a relationship to failure if you are not careful.
I prefer to diferentiate between "baggage" and "experience". Baggage is just that; something that weighs you down, holds you back, however you want to term it. Experience, to me anyway, is something that is generally in the long term beneficial.
You are deffo right though, when you say its how we carry said baggage that matters.
Yeew...Dr. Oz..Something about that guy that makes me cringe..
Anyhoo, back to topic..I think that Open Book Policy is an interesting one, and yes, of course you should have no secrets of any importance with each other. I have no issue with anyone knowing who I have called, or talked to or written to.
However, sometimes, especially if you - say - write a diary, thats where you put your deep, personal thoughts; things that really mean nothing to anyone else but mean something to you. Things that dont change how you feel about anyone but that you are expressing in writing. For diary keepers, I believe they have the right to privacy.
So, as regards the Open Book policy, I would say its a given, but within certain guidelines agreed to by both.
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RE: Not as old as you say
Sometimes I feel waaaay younger than I actually am..Thats all that matters really.