I dont agree with anyone being bullied on this site, but I have to say, you reap what you sow.
I made my peace with Optomist after an intial tizzy, but he does rub people up the wrong way with his wording and constant forum flooding. No one likes that.
As regards "Anyone who dares to stray from a pro-US/Israel line" - that is just not true! Myself and many other posters based in the US are CONSTANTLY defending ourselves and suffering prolonged anti-US BS. So, if anyone is being attacked constantly, IT WOULD BE US!
Optomist seems ok to me, but I had my thoughts about who he was, or at least who he is "working" with, and it occured to me that it was more likely a male member on the Irish Forum than anyone else, to be honest.
He needs to realise that if he wants to come on strong, people will defend their positions.
Agreed, but being a parent and being a step-parent involve very different dynamics, and very different problems, some of which do not have anything to do with relating to children.
True, but in this particular instance the man felt it impossible to stay with the mother because of all the lies, and left.
The mother then decided to not tell the children about WHY he had left, simply said he had left. They did eventually find out years later, but the damage had been done.
Consequently, he has not been able to see them for years and has missed out on all their growing up.
When I moved to the US from Ireland to be with my man, we both thought that the transition would be seamless. It wasnt, due to many small differences in our cultures, ways of talking and suchlike.
New Yorkers talk very quickly, I dont. I used to think I was being interrupted all the time, when he thought I had stopped talking, but was in effect thinking of my next sentence. Drove me mad!
Other small issues about how we see the world and such needed working through. Even though we both spoke English as a first language, we sometimes still didnt understand each other!
However, all the important, fundamental things and values were the same. And I think thats pretty much the way the world is.
I know a guy who was in this situation. He raised 3 children, 2 of which turned out to be not his. He was heartbroken and devastated, as he had loved those kids all the same, supported them all the same, laughed and cried with them all the same.
He felt like he had lost part of him when the situation became untenable.
I read some posts on this thread that almost seem to smack of sympathy for the lady in this case, although I hope I am wrong.
To knowingly try to deceive a father regarding the paternity of a child is beneath contempt and women like that give the rest of us a bad rep.
It's "biased" because of the tone in your OP. You had already made up your mind about these comments in people's profiles so therefore it was already biased.
One of the biggest bugbears the Muslim world has, and what is behind alot of the resentment and hatred toward the Western World is because of their relentless desire to 'interfere" with other countries' ways.
What happens in Iranian law may be terrible to us, and I personally think this is awful, but when it comes down to it its nothing to do with us at all.
I think (again, not patronizing you) that you are one of the Hopes for the Future, and it is truely nice to meet someone of your generation who has strong ideas and wants to follow them.
My point was missed. Really, do you not think that the previous generation to you thought EXACTLY THE SAME? Nothing you say is new, Im afraid. You may think it is, but is not.
As I said, maturity includes respecting others, and Im beginning to get quite annoyed that you fail to see that. I believe you are an intelligent guy who can certainly converse, but so far thats all I see. Excuse me if that sounds somewhat patronizing, but your continued tone that your generation will Save the World is also somewhat patronizing..to those who fought and died for their country trying to change things for the better.
You know, every generation thinks they can do things better, more efficiently, and less clumsily. Many of us Ancients remember saying all you have said to our parents and elders. "What the Hell Did You Think You Were Doing?", we cried?
Every generation makes mistakes and great strides in parallel. One of the things that come from maturity is that you can see, that even if they didnt always succeed, they did SOMETHING.
Thats the nature of humanity; to fail and to succeed in equal measures. And if you truely believe that your generation will be any different, I worry for the future of the world. Because that's pure arrogance.
Bodecia Forum Posts (1,476)
RE: What percentage chances are to find a partner abroad ?
I believe the thread should be entitled:"What percentage chances are to find a partner abroad, and have the courage to follow it through?
Some people, I know cannot due to child committments, etc.
But alot just bottle it, I believe.
JMO
Hi, Ali.