jbibiza Forum Posts (4,914)

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You´re pretty intuitive... but also part of the social aspects of my profile are because of my age... so many men in my age range are quite settled and content to stay home and aren´t interested in having new experiences and I thought it would be a way to keep men like that from contacting me and encourage the ones who still enjoy exploring life to contact me, maybe I over emphasized...

RE: would you snog the one above you

I´d give him a go...

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Thank you Vinny and I hope your holidays are wonderful as well, with lots of luck and love in 2009.

In spite of my "strong woman" attitude, I´m actually a bit old fashioned... I will respond to posts and try to strike up a bit of conversation that way... but as far as a direct approach.... no, I´m not that direct... and as far as my fair share of flowers etc. most from men completely unsuitable, don´t people ever read profiles?

RE: what an odd experience......... power outage in my community

About 15 years ago we lost power for 3 days in the part of San Francisco that I lived in...it is a weird experience my heating was central which was effected but fortunately my oven was gas and I was able to use that to heat the kitchen and living room. We closed off all the other rooms and camped out in the living room for the duration. I remember coming home every night from work saying pleeeeeease let the electrics be back on!

It´s amazing how much we take for granted and depend on electricity...

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As I recently told a friend... half of my social tendencies are because I don´t want to wind up an old woman with cats!!!

I don´t think I´m too picky... I just want someone who I click with, that enjoys being active and is young at heart, that I can have interesting conversations with and love being wrapped up in his arms. I really don´t think it would be difficult for me to make time in my life for the right man.

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I doubt I could get a woman to switch either... it´s just the ones already there!

...and yeah, Tina´s gonna kill you!

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No darling... I´m sharpening my claws on my last victim...

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Music maybe... but not flowers, it´s about sorting out how I appear to others vs who I actually am... and we´re getting somewhere....

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Thank you for that!!! No apologies necessary!!! And you are right, and I have said it before...just not very often, that there is quite a vulnerable and shy person inside of me, it just takes an awful lot of trust before that aspect of my personality is exposed.

I spent so many years being tough in business, providing my daughter with the life style I wanted her to have... depending only on myself... that it´s hard for me to admit that I have weakness´s... I would have felt like I was setting myself up to be taken advantage of.

My best girlfriend is my best friend because she is the only person who see´s beyond the strength that I portray and knows that sometimes I feel lonely, or hurt and I don´t have to say a word... I love her so much for seeing me.

I guess my biggest problem is that I don´t know how to portray the other aspects of me without feeling like a sitting duck.

Thanks for your post

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I never invite a man into my circle of friends if I have the desire to date him... Once it´s on a "friendship" track, I have a difficult time crossing that line into "more than friends". A guy coming into the circle would be coming in as my boyfriend... I always prefer to start out one on one.

So yes, you make perfect sense!

RE: Why do you MEN RUN when you and your partner/ex-partner argue?

My mind went to situations usually involving kids, visitation, etc. that so many have to deal with after a divorce.

RE: Why do you MEN RUN when you and your partner/ex-partner argue?

Because it has nothing to do with him. Fights with your ex are between you and him, the new man in your life has nothing to do with that. IMO

RE: if he beat you while you were pregnant ?

Under any circumstances if a man raised his hands to me... I would be gone!!!!!!!!!

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I´ve already cut back on a lot of the social stuff, the big clubs and stuff I only attend 4 or 5 times a year... I like the gallery openings and my favorite social times are when I get together with friends... like yesterday, 7 of us got together for Sunday Roast at a little restaurant on the beach, we started at 3 and finished at 8, just good conversation, good food and wine and laughter. Then we went to a small venue where a friends band was playing, hung out for an hour to show our support and then home.

There is no way I could be in a relationship that it was just "us" and no outside interaction needed...but there has to be a happy medium. I would happily cut the "big nights" down (the ones where we keep going for 36 to 48 hours) to once or twice a year...but I love music and love supporting my friends that are DJ´s and musicians so would still like to go "out" at least once a week and then one more night or afternoon having friends over or visiting other friends.

But to answer your question in a very direct manner... if I got involved in a relationship and he wanted me to stop seeing friends and be 100% with him... I think I would say no.

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You are absolutely right... this is not a thread seeking compliments, just peoples observations about why none of you has pursued me damn it! At least none of the ones I might find desirable...

I get what you´re saying Jeff, but I do spend about 4 nights a week at home...playing on CS, reading, watching DVD´s, cooking, knitting... so I do have time to devote to a relationship, but I also need a partner who is social and enjoys a couple of nights out, or getting together with friends.

I am a social person and desire that in a partner as well, I love having people over or organizing days out and my partner would need to feel the same.

Also... If I´m not out playing 2 or 3 nights a week... where and how will I ever meet anyone?

That´s one of the other difficulties of living on an Island... even if someone is just a couple hundred miles away, it´s a boat or plane trip, so meeting men on line is a bit more difficult then for most.

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So if I scare them now...how much scarier am I going to be as the aggressor?

Love you too...

RE: Which emoticon are you right now?

That was in years past... when I was raising my daughter and any photos I would have would be back at my parents house in Calif.

Now I do weird stuff for christmas trees... find a cool piece of dead tree stick it in a pot and decorate it... this year it´s a very unusual light fixture...

Sorry...

RE: Which emoticon are you right now?

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Frustrated, confused, but laughing about it!

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I have the hottest women hit on me... if only I could swing that way!!!

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It´s not cliche at all. I have always had a fear of commitment, but when I was younger it never stopped men asking me out. I think I´ve worked through that fear...but it´s been so long since I´ve been in a relationship... I´m not sure...

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It´s not cliche at all. I have always had a fear of commitment, but when I was younger it never stopped men asking me out. I think I´ve worked through that fear...but it´s been so long since I´ve been in a relationship... I´m not sure...

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That´s a YEAR and 2 months...

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I´m just realizing that I seem to pull a boyfriend every decade... the first was when I was 30, the second one was when I was 40... Well I turn 50 in a year and 2 months...maybe that´s when it will happen...

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Thanks!

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We have been friends since I was 15 years old, a lot of different women came and went in that time. The one he got really serious with and would have asked to marry him, he met after I started traveling and she died of cancer before I got back.

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Not always... my best friend back in CA, never wanted the women he was dating to meet me, but always wanted our relationship to be separate from his romantic interests.

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I have so much joy and happiness in my life... I can honestly say that I love my life, it just would be nice to have the opportunity to share that life with someone.

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Can I hire you as my own personal PR person?

Really this isn´t a thread looking for compliments... if it´s not age and it´s not weight... then I´m obviously putting out the wrong signals... I need to know what those are so I can make adjustments as to how I present myself.

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Yes, I´m often treated as one of the boys... I even get invited to the poker games...

Is that off putting to other men, that they wouldn´t ask you out?

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Friends are friends... and no way am I going to pursue anything other then friendship with them. I even vet their potential dates for them... They are all dating and looking for the right one to hook up with.

...and I´m not even talking about a serious committed relationship...just getting asked out on a date!!!!