I spent 3 years traveling the world and completing my "bucket list" While I still have a few adventures on my list... I would have to say... Someday... I will fall in love.
I think you left out one very important stat...how long have you been seeing this man? If your guessing as to how long he's been divorced...then I would assume it's not that long??? A little soon to be expecting "I love you's"?
It was more ih a stalemate...neither of us could give the other what they needed. He needed the relationship to move foreward and I needed more time.
We lived 3 hours away from each other, had we been closer I know he would have given me more time but only seeing each other every other weekend was something he had had enough of...and I can't blame him.
It was 20 years ago...I live in Spain now...pretty sure he's still in CA... Who knows...maybe I'll check out facebook.
I think that sometimes old relationships deserve a second look...often we end relationships over things that are no longer valid...
Like being young and unsure of what you want out of a relationship.
A simple thing like timing can end a potentially amazing relationship. When I was 30...a divorced and over protective single mom...I was dating a wonderful man of 35 never married and no kids and ready for all of it. I was to worried about things possibly not working out and exposing my daughter to another loss. If I heard from him... I'd give it another chance.
Don't be sad... A wise man once said..."this too shall pass"... It will and you'll come out the other side stronger and with a better idea of what you really need in a partner! Sleep well,
I think so many people have this idealized image of romantic love due to films, books and fairytales...
How many women loved "an officer and a gentleman" or "pretty woman" and imagined themselves in a similar situation...or films when the nerdy or goofy guy winds up with the hot chick?
The other thing that I believe causes relationships to crumble is that when we're in the "throws of passion" we ignore all the warning signs that this person is not a good long term partner for us. We leap into commitment while we're still caught up in the passion, lust, chemistry or what ever you choose to call it and those feelings don't last and when they're gone all you have left is the incompatability that you've been ignoring.
Three men are out on a hike and they come to this massive river with a wicked current.
They sit trying to figure out a way to cross. Finally the first man drops to his knees, clasps his hands together and starts to pray...
"Lord give me the strength to cross this river"
Poof...he suddenly has massive strong arms and legs, he leaps into the river and starts to swim...after 2 hours and nearly drowning twice he reaches the other side.
The 2nd man kneels down and prays..."Lord give me the strength and tools to cross the river"
POOF he suddenly has massive strong arms and legs and a rowboat has appeared at the shore
He leaps into the boat, rows like mad and after an hour and nearly tipping...he reaches the other side of the river.
The 3rd man then drops to his knees and prays... "Lord give me the strength, tools and intelligence to cross the river...
Poof... He turned into a woman, opened the map and walked 100 meters up river and crossed the bridge...
I spent a few hours at the hospital visiting my best friend and as yet unborn god children, twins...and then went to her house to finish setting up the babies room.
Thats the first intelligent thing you've said today Jimmy... now will ya give it a rest and sleep it off...you're going to feel like a right idiot tomorrow.
RE: one day i will ......
I spent 3 years traveling the world and completing my "bucket list" While I still have a few adventures on my list... I would have to say... Someday... I will fall in love.