jbibiza Forum Posts (4,914)

RE: Happy Birthday too me!Thanks guy's From my heart to you!

Happy Birthday... Hope you have a wonderful year!!!

RE: Jaded and Cynical

Then I'm sorry for the initial long post...as I was one of the people being accused of being jaded and cynical because I didn't feel the Loco love.... and that an explanation was neccesary.

No, I don't think it's alwsys all about me...but the timing seemed coincidentle...

RE: Jaded and Cynical

My best male friend for past 30 years got a lemon pie shoved in his face the first time we met... bloody waste of s good pie...but bff since.

RE: Jaded and Cynical

Welcome back you old jailbird!! I love this quote and missed it earlier, thanks for the bump and everything else. When it was my turn on the couch you gave me some very good advice which I followed with wonderful results...I'll see those results personaly in a couple of weeks.

RE: Jaded and Cynical

Well I am jealous...if you express yourself so eloquently in a 3rd language you are in deed a master of three, and I envy that gift. I've been in Spain nearly 7 years and my Spanish is still rubbish!

Thank you for your lovely words and it is a pleasure to speak with you...some of my best friendships have started with an arguement...

RE: Jaded and Cynical

That's it in a nutshell... I didn't see the point in this thread being posted, but felt that I was one of the main people being judged as jaded and cynical and felt a response was neccesary.

But I do wish the whole bloody thing would just fade to CS history...far to much has been of this.

RE: Jaded and Cynical

Thanks Jan... As I said... I am somewhat cynical but because it's in my nature...not because I've been hurt or mistreated by men. I've had some wonderful relationships that I look back on with nothing but fond memories. I am not jaded or bitter and find it astonishing for people to assume that I am because I don't find the thread in question romantic.

RE: Jaded and Cynical

Oh, and welcome back all you hardened criminals!!!!

RE: Jaded and Cynical

First off I'm not the least bit jaded...and cynical yes a bit, but it seems I always have been. I'm a person who forms opinions by personal experience rather then on what I've heard or been told. If several people tell me a new film is good I don't go around telling everyone the film is good until I see it myself...the same reasons I am an aetheist...I see no proof of a God. If this is being a cynic then yes, I am.

If you look back to the thread in question... This was a thread....which means it's up for discussion, interpretation, critique and applause. If the Op didn't want any of this then he should have posted it as a blog.


I tried to leave the thread and stated that I was...that would have been the end of my comments. When I looked back in, what did I find? A very nasty PERSONAL attack. Even at this stage my reply was a short sarcastic comment...did things end there? No I come back to find yet another personal attack in which the person actually went into my profile and tried to use my words to denounce me. What kind of person does this???

At this point I began to wonder about the relationship between the Op and his fans...is it normal to incite this degree of loyalty in an online friendship that someone goes to the extremes that person did in order to protect a friend? And I wasn't the only person to come under attack. Towards the end I exchanged some excellent posts with people having different opinions then mine and again thought this was the end of my participation in the thread...but when I look back in...yet another personal dig.

Would I have been a better person if I had just let those things pass? Yes, probably...but as I've said before, I'm no better than anyone else and do respond to personal attacks...disagree with my opinions, fight my words but do not make a personal issue of it or I will respond in kind.

Since it was the Op inspiring and approving these posts...I kept my posts directed at him.

As regards to romance my views were not brought about by the thread...if you look at any thread regarding romance my attitude is the same...I even posted a thread called pretty words all in a row.

My idea of romance is based on one to one reality...I'm not a fan of romance novels or films.

An example of what I find to be romantic... My favoritr book is the alchemist...but I never seem to have a copy because I'm always giving it away to people who haven't read it. I made a comment to my bf about needing to get another copy and what my fav. edition was but never got around to picking it up.

If my bf had gone out and bought a copy the next day...would I have found it romantic? Not really, a nice thing to do yes. About 3 months later he was browsing in a used book store and came across the book in my favorite edition and bought it for me. That was romantic to me....

Why? Because 3 months later he stiil had it in his head ...that coming across the book triggered thoughts of me, he knew I would love it, he remembered. Sounds silly to put so much meaning on a 2 dollar used book...but what is more romantic then someone really listening to you and remembering what you said months later?

So I'm not jaded or unappreciative...it's just that words to the masses hold no meaning for me... and words that inspire such hostilty from the believers makes me suspicious....

Did it go on too long? Yes...

RE: How do you show a women total devotion.

Bob...if we want total devotion we buy a dog. If we want a partner we find a man...

RE: How do you show a women total devotion.

...and while you're down there...








Scrub the floors...

RE: Women of all ages.

Trish,,,just the way you posted that gives you the answer. But not being alone doesn't mean that we have to have a partner...the friendships we build, both male and female should help with those feeling of being alone... I know you have a good friend in Gra...and even though we haven't met in person, I know we will and I truely call you friend.

RE: Women of all ages.

I never had girl friends until moving to Ibiza, always hung with the boys...It makes me really appreciate the female friends I have aquired over the past several years.

We always have a girly night out, or lunch at least once a month...

RE: Women of all ages.

It reminds me of my grandmother...When I was 20 she told me her story...she grew up in an orphanage in Scotland in the early 1900's it was little more then a work house...at 15 she was sent to work in a laundry which was nothing like the laundrys we have today...she met and married my grandfather at 18 who worked on a farm and went on to have 9 children 7 that survived, they lived in a teo bedroom cottage. She was one of the wisest, strongest women I've ever known and to this day I live my life and often use her mottos... Everything in moderation, because someone says it, doesn't make it so.

My favorite words from her were after my hysterectomy...she said "The baby carriage may be gone, but the playpen is still there...:laugh

She was 87 when she gave me thise words and died several months later... I still miss her.:

RE: Warm Fuzzies for Sweets

Hope everything goes well with the move...I know what a pain it is...and I'm so sorry about your pup....

RE: Women of all ages.

Beautiful post Jan, truely a tribute.

RE: Real Love – What It Is ?

Real love is the giving of yourself without restraint...trusting absolutly the person you give this to.

RE: Real Love – What It Is ?

Real love is being with someone who makes you want to be the best person you can be... It's saving enough hot water for their shower...it's sharing the last oreo...

RE: Unhappy miserable people

I've been wondering if anyone was going to key in that...

RE: answer the following question; men are good for.........?

Or... Under the "looking for"...



Ears to warm

RE: answer the following question; men are good for.........?

When I'm good I'm very, very good... but when I'm bad, I'm better..

RE: answer the following question; men are good for.........?

warming their ears

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Steph...

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

You have a way with words Venus...

...and Micky, did you get fed?

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Yoú´ve made my response to you so simple.... I´m sending the last paragraph right back to you. Nice to meet you

Didn´t get a chance to say hello yesterday.

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

I missed you the first time round... I'm sorry, It's nice to see some new blood that jumps in and joins the forums...don't let recent events put you off, it has been a bit crazy and some short fuses...mine included.

There are some great people and good times to be had.

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Gussi and Riz...compliments are always nice... but coming from those you respect and admire, means twice as much.

Not working in the winter does give me way to much free time...contributing to the "living room" effect. Bring on the summer!!

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Trish, Steph, Ginger...three ladies I greatly admire and learn from.


...and jlw... go......









Just kidding

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Some excellent posts a opinions... A few things really jumped out at me...

Adam...you do have a way with words that cuts through all the BS!

Somechick...I love those quotes...but soooo contradictory and I relate much better to the second one as I really value the opportunity to learn something new...but the first goes well with what Godgift said about people tying their self worth to their stand and gives me causd to think.

Some guy... Don't confuse my "assertive and well written" posts with good judgement...at times it's a load of bolloks and have stood corrected by several of the very intelligent posters in the forums...

Ann...for some reason we always seem to dance around each other...some differences of opinion??? But I always enjoy your posts and find you to be a smart edgy woman... and you're right, sometimes I do take it to seriously

Onemoretry... Opinions are like a**hole.... I agree with except that they all stink, As I said, I love the opportunity to learn and happy that there are so many people with different perspectives.

As a semi intellectual, living on the biggest partyisland in the world, which I love intellectual discussion can be sadly lacking... The good people at CS help fill that need... and while I ruffle feathers and don't always post a populer view point, I do respect the opinions of others and their right to have them.

Just to clear the air...opinions and their value

Thanks and the feeling is mutual. Godsgift really gave me something to think about though...that some people associate their self worth with their opinion...which would then make any argument or disagreement feel personal... I honestly never considered that but it may be why some feel justified in attacking on a personal level???