Ok, to be honest -- and btw, good morning R -- if the first one you described happened to be Liebe2, there'd be no contest. BUT, I could still maintain that the self-confidence was the key element.
I really believe that both men & women react more primally to self-confidence than to any other trait, I do.
Not similiar fears, but similiar experiences, yeah.
I've had a number of relationships in my life, of varying duration, including two marriages. (Won't go down that road again.) But in each case, the relationship began after I had already met the woman, either in school when I was younger, or later through work, and more recently, here on CS.
I suspect that's the way relationships usually begin, in fact: people discover that they like each other after they have met. Sure, it's possible to ask out a total stranger and strike gold, or lightning: my brother and his wife met that way. But I think that way is probably more rare. I believe most relationships develop after a degree of familiarity has been built.
Let's say there's a new movie out, starring former 007 Pierce Brosnan. (There is.) Here's how the two genders would ask each other out:
MALE: Hey, would you like to go see I Don't Know How She Does It? Stars Sarah Jessica Parker and Pierce Brosnan.
FEMALE: What a day I've had! First, that guy at work, you know, the one I told you about? The guy with the stringy hair? He was following me around ALL DAY again. I thought he was gonna follow me into the Ladies Room, honestly! And then on the way home, I stopped at the store, you know, the one on the corner, the big one, not the little one, the real grocery store, to get some bread? And they didn't have any! How can you have a grocery store, and not have bread? I mean, really! It's just been one of those days. So, what are you doing?
Ok, you're just venting. I get that. But I wanna point out a few things about the three dates you mentioned. Ok, there was nothing in the first one's Profile about recovering from hip surgery. Uh, fact is, a lot of folk neglect to update their Profiles regularly. Perhaps he had made out his Profile long before he had the surgery?
Second guy, not to make excuses, but I think I can see how that would be an awkward thing to bring up. When should the guy mention it? In his Profile? On the first date, the second, third? When? I mean, maybe he handled it badly. But on the other hand, is there a good way to handle it?
Third guy, cheapskate and loser. If you can't afford to take someone out to lunch, don't invite them out to lunch. A walk in the park is free, and a cup of coffee costs $1.50.
As for the younger fellas -- that is, guys my age and older -- well, we are all human too, we have our own quirks and peculiarities and yes, insecurities too. And most everyone by our age has baggage, that's true. But we're not all hopeless.
Building new relationships does not get easier as we age. But I think we all can learn to accept compromise without lowering our standards. So, if I may, I'd like to suggest you not settle for less than you deserve, yet also try to appreciate what you find?
No, they serve only to identify the product. Nothing whatsoever to do with the end purchaser. In essence, they are for inventory management, with some international-trade-relations monitoring thrown in.
If she enters the race for what? The second half of her first and only term as governor of the least-populous state in the the U.S., which she quit halfway through?
If stray dogs were a problem hereabouts, I'd want someone more reliable to take care of it.
I think you might credit the fellow's intelligence a bit more. After all, if he emailed you, he's undoubtedly already noticed that you two are on different continents. You've nothing to lose by continuing the conversation. So you're not willing to relocate? Perhaps he is. "Handsome is, as handsome does," it's said, so you might as well find out.
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