Self-Improvement Blogs (525)

U get your degree then what?u realize u have been so focused on school that u haven't thought of anything else in life.

It was always finish your exam , start preparing for the next semester get extra cash for school, fare and all the other carp that u need!

until you realize you gat that degree u know, now what?u start working, 8 to 5 everyday, it becomes a routine,

Believe me i ain't complaining am really grateful for everything but i feel like it isn't enough, mostly u r just going through life not living it!

I wish i could travel the world, go to Dubai get a job there, learn Arabic, settle in Saudi, have a beautiful family that u come home to at the end of the day, people that love you and support you,

And may be, just may be take that nursing course and change careers,

Now i see it u know lol, i am definitely 'just hanging by a thread'!

I always thought i was a writer, that i could write almost anything but man, was i wrong??!I wanted to write, put into writing what is going through my head tonight and most nights, not for any reason actually but mostly to make sense of what i am feeling!

So dark and gloomy outside I have the lights on. The rain has passed, but the clouds linger. I am living dangerously. I have gotten tired of opening and closing the front door every 5 minutes to let one or both cats in or out. So I have propped the door wide open and am trying to ignore the small sounds coming from other rooms. Could be the cats, could be a snake or a fox. Schrodinger's rule. It is all those things until I get up to look. Maybe it is a topless Playboy model. Maybe I should go look?

Nah, just one of the cats. He saw me and with a guilty expression scooted back outside. Sigh. Now I have to check and make sure he wasn't hiding half a baby rabbit or some other such valuable treasure under the bed. I took inventory last night of stuff in my basement then googled some of the finds. I decided many things I have had for decades can go away now. Although I had thought they might, ,some of our more expensive purchases did not appreciate in value. Indeed I learn with a little googling many dropped enormously in value the longer I kept them.

A 1963 Johnson 3 HP outboard 2 cycle motor. Bought new by my grandfather and used on his 12 foot rowboat for flounder fishing often with me along, long, long ago.



My old US Divers Co. Navy MK I SCUBA tank (with J valve) and backpack. Used only a few times in the early 70s and early 80s it gave me trouble free performance.



It's regulator. Ibid.



A Schwinn 1973 Continental woman's 10 Speed bike. Manufactured in the USA. My wife's. Once upon a time, when it was new, she used it for commuting when she lived only a few blocks from OPM. She continued to ride it until about a year before her passing.



A Schwinn 1995 centennial woman's Cruiser bike. Only one speed. As soon as they came out, wife decided she had to have one. I have no idea why. I don't believe she ever rode it after getting it home. If I was female I would stick a small motor on it. Or add gears, but I certainly wouldn't want a bike with no gears in this hilly area.



My Mother's Zephyr TriStar. A 3 speed tricycle for adults. Ideal for a senior citizen living in an area with paved roads who wants to do some grocery shopping or still scoot around town after his/her driver's license is revoked. In theory anyway. In actuality I think Mom used it only one time, then decided bike pedaling was no fun compared to the convenience of having me do her grocery shopping for her. If I was a decade older I would stick a motor on it. It has the brackets for mounting one and I really don't understand why she didn't get one with the motor already installed.



I learned yesterday most of these things have declined in value to less than 1/3 of the value of their original purchase price. Together they eat a fair amount of basement floor space. Today, all of them went on Craigslist at about $200 each. LoL the Johnson motor cost just about that when new, so at least it breaks even. Of course in real dollars, it lost a lot of value. $200 was a lot more money in 1963.

Hmm, the other cat just poked his head in, looked at me and ran back to the front door. I really should just close the door I think.

Womens Day, 5 years ago was when I decided to call it quits with my then husband. A day I'll probably never forget. As years have gone by I've learnt to accept my decision and today still have no regrets. This process was never seen as a problem in my life but a challenge. A challenge I overcame.
As an individual I've grown emotionally, mentally and most of all more stronger spiritually. Today I'm proud to say I've learnt to be a father as well.

To all the singles out there from me to you - don't be afraid to start over it gives you a chance to rebuild something better

the all important question.

"Did your repair of the lawnmower's pull cord pass a field test?"

LoL, yes, that is important to know. What good is a repair that doesn't work?

So, in the interest of settling any doubts, after returning the assembly to the source mower, I made this short video.





This mower had sat outside for a long time after the cord broke before I brought it inside. I believe moisture got into the fuel line either during the winter months or the spring rains. In any case you will note the initial hesitation and white smoke. Not to worry. It soon burned off the moisture and the hesitations stopped. All is good. I used this mower today with no problems.

hi all just said id drop a line abt internet dating and questions i want to ask be honest in your answers because i think this will make an interesting blog.
1.why are we all here?
2.are we looking for that perfect person for us or maybe we re not perfect?
3.how long are we on the site?
4.why havent we found that someone?
5.are some ppl only on here just for sex? both male and female.
6.what really are we looking for?
7.why do some ppl make the same mistakes in a new relationship as they had done in a previous relationship?
8.how as singles do we deal with loneliness?
9.do we regret the past?
10.has the past made us angry ppl?
11.why are we so slow to let new relationships develop?
12.is it fear of the past?
thank ye all for yere time and look forward to reading yere answers moc.

Lately I've been feeling uninspired and when im depressed I drink until I fall asleep I use to rap and write down my thoughts with poetry but now Im not in that mode of writing at all my dad s knee sugery didnt go to well but he s managing most times I feel alone and sometimes i Hate faking that Im happy when im not...most importantly im tired of people in my family draining me for my money just because they know i have it it's so annoying its like they create every bit of excuse sometimes i want to say nobody told you to have that many damn kids but then again I would just be a b*tch for saying that especially since im a single mother myself with one kid...can someone please take the time and listen or spare some advice

Stop comparing where you’re at with where everyone else is. It doesn’t move you farther ahead, improve your situation, or help you find peace. It just feeds your shame, fuels your
feelings of inadequacy, and ultimately, it keeps
you stuck. The reality is that there is no one
correct path in life. Everyone has their own unique
journey.

A path that’s right for someone else won’t necessarily be a path that’s right for you. And that’s okay. Your journey isn’t right or wrong, or good or bad. It’s just different. Your life isn’t meant to look like anyone else’s because you aren’t like anyone else. You’re a person all your own with a unique set of goals, obstacles, dreams, and needs. So stop comparing, and start living.

You may not have ended up where you intended to go. But trust, for once, that you have ended up where you needed to be. Trust that you are in the right place at the right time. Trust that your life is enough. Trust that you are enough... #Jt

"May or may not be such a good thing"

This is something I have been told many times in my lifetime. It is a nice compliment when it is said in nice a way.

What isn't so nice is the mentality that if one appears young one must also be young in the head.

Sometimes it is a little funny to watch people as they do this. After they talk with me a little while they think to ask my age. When I answer I usually get a surprised look (lol I love this moment). The good part is that most of them begin adjusting their level (it is noticable)... at least they adjust

The younger people sometimes have a problem with the adjustment part That's ok, I have learned the art of not giving them a choice.




"The young woman who called me girl"

I was on the phone trying to help my son get the title for his car from a car lot. The female on the phone was not nice to my son. I called her myself the next day. She tried to lie to me twice about what the DMV (Dept of Motor Vehicle) policies were. I simply said no and explain to her what they will do.

Then she got huffy and called me "girl"...
I didnt know whether to be mad or laugh (because only a b-word of a woman calls another woman they do not know a girl in such a manner in the first place). I asked her her age, she was 30, and then I laughed heartily... I said "well I guess I will take that as a compliment seeing as I am 15 years older than you"(Oh how I wish I could have seen her face at that moment) She was very nice after that. She even called me within a week letting me know that my son could come and pick up his title. My son smiled sheepishly at me because he didn't think I could get her to do it, "thanks Mom"

I can't stay in a relationship
where there is no love, and it
isn't fair to you to be stuck in a
relationship that's a lie. I hope
that you're able to move on, and
meet someone who will love you
the way you deserve to be loved.

I take a trip down the road of memories looking at pictures of the me I use to be...

Then a look in the mirror, a glance around me and I wonder where I am?

Time has brought many trails on a road I suppose I chose. It has changed the person I use to be.

Who was better she or me?

Is there a road back to the past? A way to click my heels and change ? Perhaps make different choices. Value and hold on to what I lost. Spending more time with what really matters. Make less mistakes.

How hard will that road be? The way back to finding me.....