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Well, I just moved far away from friends and family this year in October, and so far, things are moving but kinda at a rocky start. However, I'm learning how to maneuver myself in an unknown place with unknown people. I'm learning a lot about myself on this journey; weakness I'm strengthening and strengths I'm perfecting. In the end, I know that I will reach the goals that I came here to do; I just have to stay focus and keep at it. I can feel and taste it now I just only have to bring it into reality.

.................. The quality of our life is a result of the decisions we've made

The last time i was here in this blog more than 2 yrs i think and a lot of things happened in my life....but what i learned was happiness doesnt come from other people but within ourselves,been thru a lot of struggles pain,name it i had it but thanks god iam still standing,more stronger,and complete.
Love doesnt come easy and we dont need to search,we just have to wait and let god do the rest coz he knows what our hearts desire

The other day, I wrote a blog about me being lonely, and someone commented and asked if I was maybe depressed? To tell you the truth: I don't know. Maybe.

Usually when I am alone, I enjoy it, but other times I am so extremely lonely that I want to cry. Like properly bawl my eyes out. To prevent that from happening, I just put on some comedy or a song that I really love. But maybe it is good to have a cry once in a while.

I am VERY good at masking my true feelings. Some say that they don't know HOW I feel, because all they see is smiles and laughter. Maybe I should open up to them, and tell them how I really feel at a certain point in time. But that is not for now. I firstly need to think about how I am going to say it to them. Maybe in a few weeks, or maybe next year.

I know that online tests can be a bit... inconclusive.. But I took one, and it showed, that I have clear signs of a possible depression. I need to go to the doctor to see if the test is accurate, or if it is just a bit of a hag.

I will see if I can get a time on Tuesday, and then get myself checked out. I am worried about the result, to be honest.

insecurity
gnawing away their insides
turns to nastiness

(Senryu)

If someone does not approve of certain actions of a person, does that mean he/she HATES that person?
Labelling others as HATERS, MORONS, LOSERS, IDIOTS, IMBECILES, etc., merely because they may not approve of the actions of a person is childish, immature and reflects a certain measure of psychological insecurity.
If you do not agree with the views of others, then criticise their views logically and constructively rather than resort to name calling and deragatory remarks.


(Some of you may be familiar with Haiku.
It's a form of Japanese poetry consisting of three lines:
line 1 - 5 syllables,
line 2 - 7 syllables,
line 3 - 5 syllables
Haiku deals mainly with Nature.
Senryu has a similar format but its focus is on human behaviour.)

Highest level of crime here is called a felony, but other languages have other names for same. There is a great difference betwen the USA, where these criminal records used to remain for life, adverely affecting job and other recovery prospects, ---and other places, where after a time, changes occur to allow reintergration into society. And changes have started even in this societal policy backwater. Now, in some States, after a decade or so, former criminals can vote, and have some other privledges. And some employers are encouraging applicants to honestly put such past info onto job apps, with more kindness, trust and openness to human changes than before. I think folks can redeem themselves in many ways, except those who have committed the most egregious sins. Such as our illegal criminal burdenson alien border sneaks. Go Trump!

so let me get straight to the point. this is my 2nd account and i must admit that it’s not as fun as my 1st experience here. so why the need to make a new account? well i met someone from my previous account whom i thought was the one which is why i deleted it. turned out he wasn’t it and he is now happily married to someone else. i’m writing this coz i am still honestly hurt with what happened. it hurts to think how easy it was for him to replace me let alone marrying her. it hurts to think that he is now happy while i am still left alone still wondering what have gone wrong. i may sound so sad but nope. there are just days that i can’t help but question what is wrong with me. i’m just needing this to vent out a bit. cheers to all.

I think it may have been because I was frustrated at nothing interesting happening on the site last night that I ended up in one of my funny moods. The kind of mood where I feel like picking a fight; only a virtual fight, I wouldn’t dream of getting myself involved in a real one. So, anyway, I went into the forum and did precisely that; I started on someone I didn’t even know just because he didn’t wholeheartedly agree with something I’d posted.

It obviously annoyed him and he did fight back but I don’t imagine it caused him any distress. It did cause me some, though. I went to bed feeling guilty about it and it took me ages to get to sleep. When I did eventually drop off I was plagued by very uncomfortable dreams; one of which woke me and, not being able to go back to sleep, caused me to get up and have a cup of tea.

So, if anyone reading this blog finds me having a go at them for no apparent reason, sometime in the future, you can take satisfaction from the knowledge that it will hurt me more than you.

The curmudgeon, hard arse take on life, and use of humor, level of honesty, depth of charity, scrappy disposition, questionable judgment, dim views of many others---especially those perceived as less fortunate, critical view of organized faith and those so disposed, envy --always misdirected, deep denial, cavalier attitude toward kind friends, and much more. Pleased for the progress, so far, but the art is truly long. All began when I saw that liberals seem to love the universe at the expense of the individual. And conservatives love the individual, at the expense of the masses.

I have some wealthy clients who know a healthy diet and exercise doesn't always 'hold back the years' and they resort to a little 'nip & tuck' (read: plastic surgery) to maintain their youthful appearance.

Many years ago, I was working for a custom millwork shop and assigned to work on a project for the new offices of a famous plastic surgeon. It was reported his first client scheduled in the new facility was actor Leslie Nielson. This happened shortly before he filmed The Naked Gun movie.

You can quote me on this: "Good plastic surgery is when people say you look terrific and scratch their head wondering how you look so fine and they don't."

I knew a local designer who really got his money's worth. They pulled his face tight... like a bongo drum! It was so strange, people often talked about it. He wore a full wig but his arthritic body appeared to be screaming in pain. You could see darkened age spots in his hands. I'm guessing he was in his 70's.

A boss I worked for was Scottish and had the trait of 'Jawls' where his cheeks drooped and eyelids also had excessive skin. His son had the same traits/characteristics and after graduating high-school had surgery to remove his baggy eyelids. The surgeon trimmed the extra skin at the fold line/wrinkle in his eyelids. Surgery... success.
Exercise made sweat drip into his eyes causing irritation. After surgery the problem was greatly reduced.

Maybe you've seen the real-life woman obsessed to look like Barbie, where the young woman had a Blepharoplasty... literally tightly pulling the skin around her eyes. Frightening to think someone so young would spend so much on looks... considering she was beautiful to start with.

I used to say, when turn 60 I'm going to have my 'bags fixed' a trait with me as long as I can remember, including baby pictures. I've heard all excuses why I have them... lack of sleep, allergy, hereditary. Instead of a trip to a plastic surgeon, I took a trip to China and that was a better investment. The idea plastic surgery has dropped so far down on my do list I'm not thinking about it anymore.

Everyone has reasons to justify plastic surgery. Not every surgery comes out as expected. There are hundreds of internet photos showing botched facelifts, many are of movie stars... people who can afford the best, unfortunately it turns out to be the worst.

I discussed with my wife if she wanted a boob job. We know it's expensive. I've got some of the money saved and I would have to take a bank loan for the rest. She doesn't want to go into debt over surgery, so my only suggestion is to get one boob done now and the other when we have more money.