Self-Improvement Blogs (525)

Now, there's the rub.
As we age, gracefully, trying to enjoy every moment, it seems we have less time for some things, and more for others. Sure, not at all profound thought, but, as with common sense, it's seemingly not very common, as we all rush about in this modern life.
We each have a list of that which we have learned auger best for forming a healthy and healthful relationship. For me, trying to remain patiently open to new ideas, while sometimes a challenge, is important. Several other works in progress at self improvement also come to mind. These seem to vary with most of us in finer details, but I bet there is much overlap on the main points.
Things to avoid, and to snuggle up to. Certainly trying to keep others from getting free rent in our heads.
We are, after all, mostly responsible for our own happiness.

Here is my definition of a easy going man vs a guy who faces life with all its challenges.
I think easy going is lazy/ignorant/ at facing issues and problems/ could be deceitful at times, lacking the maturity to face problems and find solutions, or not wanting to appear to be arrogant?

On the flip side: Mature man who had to face difficult and find solutions/military trained/ had a solid family rules structures. A person who does not quit on life.

What is your opinion?

I dawned on me today while I was heading home from work. I now know why I am this irritable mess. I know why I snapped and raged in my last blog.. I know what I must say, but I don't think I have the strength to acknowledge it. I am scared. That I would be considered a failure. That I am considered weak. But deep down inside, I KNOW I am not weak. I KNOW I am not a failure.. I guess I just have to say it:

I am a coca cola addict. I don't mean it in a funny way like "hurr I am such an addict to coca cola lol.".. I really mean it. I am an addict. How do I know I am an addict?

Well, these past few days, I have been consuming a LOAD of coca cola. Up to six 0.5 liter bottles a day. That is 3 liters of the stuff. Once I finish a bottle, I want another one straight away. That, in my book, is an addiction. I crave the taste of a cola. If I don't drink one each day, I feel terrible. It's because I need the sugar and the caffeine.

Tomorrow, I am gonna drink nothing but water, to see if it helps. I would like to start doing it now, but I don't have any near me.

So there it is. I am an addict. Some of you might go "Well at least it's not alcohol or drugs", which is true.

For a while now, I have been spending a lot of time with someone named Katrina. K, as I called her in the blogs. We have had some great times, and some less than great times. Sadly, the less than great times have been more prevalent, so I was left with a choice earlier today: Do I continue with this, or do I cut my losses and move on?

You might be thinking "What were those bad times?".. Well, let me explain that one! Often times, when we were messaging each other on Messenger, she would all of a sudden chastise me for things, that I normally do. The last time she did that, we didn't speak for five days. Is this really what I want to have in my life? Is this really what I want to use my energy on?

I made my decision a few hours ago. It was time to cut ties, and move on. You, dear reader, might go "Mistake! Apologize, make up and stay friends". I would love to do that, but there inevitably will come a day, when this happens again. So in order to not have to deal with that possibility, it's best that her and I go our separate ways. It has been a long time coming, if I am honest. A few months, at least.

So that's it, I suppose. Will we make up and be friendly again? Maybe. I am not ruling it out. But it all depends on her and if she wants to keep her aggressive side in check.

If GOD give you a chance to go in past to correct your mistakes, then which mistake will you correct?

Life is full of difficulties and opportunities.
If we always keep grieving instead of fighting with problems, we will lose many opportunities in our lives.
Instead of regretting what you have not got, be happy and progress in what you have got.

I understood these lessions very late.
I have made a lot of mistakes because of this ignorance.
So,
If GOD give me a chance to go in my past, I will teach these lessions to myself in beginning (in childhood).

A friendly reminder for everyone:

"When you're tired, get some rest. When you're sad, go ahead and cry. It's okay to take a break. Then one day there will surely come a day when you'll be able to run again." ?

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#itsokaytonotbeokay

As we continue to fight on our daily lives.
Do not fear of failure, but be terrified of regret. Giving up is the birth of regret??
priceless??

This is a peaceful thread so please don't start a riot or use obscene language.

As a human being watching the World implode over the incident in Minneapolis I have to ask myself why we are not learning from this instead of tearing each other apart.

Yes there is still prejudice in this World in many walks of life, but taking sides just causes more division . Racism is deep rooted and a part of our history but it should be just that HISTORY Have we learned nothing from the past that we cannot move forward together and unite instead of divide.

Your thoughts are welcome but not your anger or hate. Take it elsewhere

Thank you.

First, by being honest about the things that do make you happy. Most of us lie about what would really make us happy due to what others may think about it. I think many of us already know some things that will make us happy but we don't pursue it because we don't wanna be judged if it appears too quirky, risque, boring, outlandish, dangerous, etc.
Secondly, just start experimenting with things. If there's even a small inkling that you might enjoy something try it out. Only through experience will you really ever know what you like and what you don't.
Lastly, remain open minded and try things you normally wouldn't do, you never know what fulfillment it may bring into your life.
Oh…and one more thing, be creative! Me and my best friend discovered years ago that it wasn't necessarily where we were or what we were doing that made us enjoy certain experiences, it was the energy we bought to any situation.
If you're creative enough you can turn almost any mundane task into something fun that will make you feel happy for the moment. So instead of always looking for things to make you happy, transform the experiences already around you into happy moments with your own unique spark.
Good luck!

and the real racists...... Oh, whats the use? It won't change any minds, and serve only to tick more people off. Even gray old dogs can learn a few new tricks. VG.