Self-Improvement Blogs (525)

Don't live in the past. You might
miss the great things happening
in your present.

Imagine you paint your old boat and decide to take it out on the lake, even though it’s a foggy day. As you steer through the fog, another boat slams into your boat damaging the new paint job.

Most of us will be furious why didn’t the person in the other boat watch where he was going? Just when we try to react in anger we realize that the other boat is actually an empty boat that is drifting.

Soon our anger disappears.

(A Zen story)

In Life we often come across people and events like empty boats.

Even if there was a person steering the other boat and he deliberately rammed our boat, his behavior had nothing to do with us and we have no control over his actions. What others do or say is done for their own reasons, and most of the time they don’t even know the reasons. They may be driven by unconscious forces of their own wounds and pains.


One thing we must always remember is that we only have control over our own boat and must not lose it. If we find it difficult to respond from an aware and empathetic place, we must always steer clear.

Ramming back at an empty boat will only ruin the paint bit more.!!!



Wish you a blissful journey this day!!!!

From last week I have been reading a story about Rachel Doezal,
she identify herslef as a black-person. <only she white>

Long ago I had a friend who is a white Jamaican,I had never thought about him being white.

I have 2 dauthers they are half and half,they are at home on the Island and very much at home here.

So my question is. If Rachel Doeszal wants tobe a black person

why not let her be the person she identifys with ??

You cannot avoid risk without avoiding life.

As Henry David Thoreau once said, “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.”

Living is a risk. Happiness is a risk. If you’re not a little scared sometimes, then you’re not doing it right. Don’t worry about mistakes and failures,
worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try. Worry about the life you’re not living and the happiness you’re forgoing, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone. Give yourself permission to be one of the people who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them and grew into your truest self... #Jt

Be Kind

Yes, it seems obvious, but it’s easy to get frustrated with someone you love, who doesn’t seem to be getting over “it,” whatever “it” may be. It’s natural to feel yourself losing your temper, when this is something you think you could handle so much better.

Everyone goes through those times, and the best way to ride the rough waves is to endure them. It can be done; your loved one will survive, but he also needs to know it’s okay for him to let himself hurt. He can’t be in such a rush to “get over it” that he tamps the hurt down, where it can fester and make the future even worse.

So remember: Be kind when you’re looking for the
right words of encouragement to one you love. You will find the right thing to say. Just put yourself in their place, and imagine how you’d feel if you were on the receiving end of your words... #Jt

With real joy comes real pain.

Any time we fully experience true joy or feel the
preciousness of life on an emotional level, we can
expect to feel a great amount of sadness. Many
of us shy away from the things that would make
us happiest, because they also make us feel pain.
The opposite is also true. We cannot selectively
numb ourselves to sadness without numbing
ourselves to joy. When it comes to falling in love,
we may be hesitant to go “all in,” for fear of the
sadness it would stir up in us.

The first step is never easy.

The beginnings to good things are always the hardest, but it’s these hard times that pave the path to greatness. Be strong and keep the faith. It will be worth it in the end. The greatest miracle of your success in life will not be that you finished, it will be that you found the strength and courage to begin.

And remember, it’s not that those who are strong
never get weak in the knees, or that they never hold their breath before they embark… It’s that while their knees are shaking, they force themselves to breathe and take the first step... #Jt

The paradox of our time in history is that we
have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider
Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend
more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families, more
conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the
showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.
A time when technology can bring this letter to
you, and a time when you can choose either to
share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember, to spend some time with your loved
ones, because they are not going to be around
forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone
who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to
you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it.

A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it
comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person might not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind... #Jt

No one is ever obligated to love you back. Sometimes you’re the one breaking your own heart because you anticipated and expected something, and that doesn’t automatically mean they were supposed to reciprocate. You can either dwell, or move on with the knowledge that just because they didn’t love you doesn’t mean you’re any less lovable.

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"if I had a penny for every penny I didn't have."
would I be any the wiser?