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Wondering how one know's honesty of a person in a long distance friendship or a relationship.

Yes I want to be ...if I am already then I want to be more selfish ......
I don't want to care about others because it hurts always ....

With life I am feeling I am learning new tricks to make people fool and how to use them ....

Nice person is always feel used and what he get ...... nothing ...but expectations of people ....that he will do more nice things .....

My thoughts of today: For my children: Karen, Krystynn, Camille and Sonny


when you are bled to death and the last drop of that blood seems to last forever, you then turn around and say: it isn't my time just yet, I still have a lot of mountains to climb
a bunch of beautiful flowers to witness to bloom
furious and perilous rivers to cross
wild and vast oceans to navigate
gales and winds to test your strength
but none so like that of raising children
who gave you great and lovely grand children
to run around with until you are all drained
of temporary but recurrent energy
to laugh and scream with joys until your belly explodes
to roll your eyes with when they ask you direct and very unadulterated questions
to lack the time to think knowingly so that you have lost the knack of strong and positive opinions
which was your forte of decades ago
and yes, you come to terms that with each day
you don't have to let anyone bleeds you because
life is: beautiful yet challenging
disappointing at times yet comforting
but most of all, nothing can equal your pride
of knowing that you have these creations
around you, with you and in front of you
saying in unison: Mom and Dad, thank you for
all the love you have given us, and now we give it to our children
hoping they would to their children and goes on and on
Forever.

And the good thing is: we can all do it, regardless of colors, beliefs and ways of life. Yes, we can all do it. with million more of years to come sustained by this old but only earth we know, we can all do it. Perhaps not of the same intensity but in our own individual ways, we can.

So let us love one another and stop calling on to bleed anyone for we are all children of this world, no more no less.

I love you all.




Note: my acknowledgement of the fact that life has to be sorted out not with violence but with an overwhelming effort to spread love even to those who seems cold about it.

When I was sitting at the foot of a guru....who was wonderful by the way, he used to always say, "Seriousness does not equal sincerity".

I have watched and observed 'serious' people. I used to be one of them, to a degree. They have no innocence, no child-like enthusiasm (enthusiasm means 'in God'), no life. They are like frozen blocks of ice.

I watch people who are sincere. They love life. They are willing to be foolish and vulnerable and not predictable. They act as if authenticity is the highest virtue. I am aiming to be like them....but in my unique way. :)

I find that people who are themselves may have any number of 'disorders' or not, but they do not worry about how they look to others. They are happy in their own skin and they are willing to show themselves, no matter how un-perfect they may appear to be to others.

I love people who show up. I love people who lack pretense. I love people who don't give a crap what I or anyone else thinks of them. These are my hero/heroines.

The people who act as if they know everything about anything, the people who can't laugh at themselves and their idiocy, the people who constantly tell others how they ought be....those people bore the living bejeezus out of me. No thank you....move along.

Many people are unaware of their negative emotions. Today the first of the 11 most common examples of negative emotions, so that you will be able to describe the emotion when it appears. Here are some definitions according to Wikipedia:

Anger

Anger is “an intense emotional response. It is a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation. Often it indicates when one’s personal boundaries are violated. Some have a learned tendency to react to anger through retaliation. “

Some self-development gurus treat anger as something wrong, the destroyer of peace of mind. Yes, anger can make you blind. I have devoted a whole chapter about this emotion.

However, anger is a completely normal and often healthy human emotion. The problem starts when it gets out of control and turns destructive. Then it can lead to problems: in your personal relationships, at work, and in the overall quality of your life.

And let's start the new week with love and peace in our hearts...

I shall start....

Red you are like golden sunlight on CS and your rays of warmth shine through

Lady Itchy...you are beautiful and smart..and always make me laugh.

The Elegant one..how funny and intelligent you are...inspiring

Blue...I like Blue. It's a nice colour...and you're damn smart too

Sweet Tim...you always have a kind word to say...and your thoughts are appreciated

Sir Rob..real. ..lucky is the woman who steals your

Nam the working man...may you find peace on your journey...you are amazing

Beautiful Lindsy...you are amongst the most intelligent I know..you deserve peace and love

Lady Seri...how witty you are...to match your beauty...

Free be the hand which inspires beautiful thoughts and fantasies..you write in magical ink...

Usha...you grace us with your presence

Mr. Trav...keep your heart open...she is probably looking for you too

Gentlejim...you are sweet and kind..


Lady Gypsy...a wondering angel. With a heart of gold

Angel Leony...those who have been blessed to discover who you truly are know your magnificence. ..you have touched my heart...

Robrt...what a gorgeous sense of humour. .you are a stunning individual

Dan. .you are wise beyond measure...I hope love finds you

I'm sorry to those I left out..you are all beautiful..and inspire me greatly..

Let's pay it forward and have a wonderful week ahead..

One of the big lessons I have learned from my journey is you can’t please everyone, so don’t try.
• 90% of our problems are caused by our own thoughts.
• Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.
• Just because a person smiles all the time, doesn’t mean their life is perfect. That smile is a symbol of Hope and Strength.

Everything happens for a reason… Just Believe.
• Everything comes to you in the right moment. Be patient.
• Before you talk, listen. It may change how you respond. Before you react, think. It may change how you do react.
• In the blink of an eye everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never know when you may not have that chance again.

The Positivity Blog henrik@positivityblog.com via aweber.com


9:06 AM (8 hours ago)








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Hi!



I often write about self-esteem in these newsletters.



That's because it is something that I am passionate about and because I know that
it is one of the topics that my readership is most interested in.



So today I'd like to answer a question that quite a few of you have sent me:



How do you raise the self-esteem of the people you love?



Well, raising one's self-esteem is mostly an inside job. It is about seeing and
valuing yourself in a new and more positive and helpful way. So it is not something
someone else can do for you (or you can do for someone else).



But I do have a couple of suggestions for how you can start encouraging such a
change in someone you care about.



1. Appreciate all kinds of things.



Think about what you can appreciate about your friend for example. And be sure
to express it to this person.



But don't just focus on achievements in school or at work. That can easily lead to
her not feeling so good about herself if she is not getting things done and working
hard all the time.



No, also appreciate her other fine qualities too. That she is kind. That she is a good
listener. That she is funny, enthusiastic about odd but wonderful things or has a
great taste in music or books.



And appreciate the things about her that you and others may sometimes take for
granted.



Help her see how wonderful she is overall as a person.



2. Be constructive and supportive when they stumble.



If your friend or partner stumbles then stay away from criticism and being
judgmental.



Instead, be constructive and supportive to him. Listen and let him vent about his
failure. But also ground him and help him see that it is not the end of the world
and that there are things he can do to improve the situation.



This will help him to open himself up to taking more chances and going for what he
deep down dreams about.



3. Know how your own self-esteem works.



I have found that if you know how your own self-esteem works and how to
practically improve it then it becomes a lot easier to help someone else with it too.
Now, this doesn't mean that you have to push the advice onto someone else.



But if they ask you can share a tip or two.



Or you can simply share what you did in a similar situation that he or she is now in
and maybe that can start some positive, self-kind and constructive thoughts in his
or her mind.



Have a kind and helpful Wednesday!



Henrik



P.S: If you want more practical help with replacing destructive thought habits and
staying strong through the tough days then join us in the 12-week, step-by-step
Self-Esteem Course:

One of the best ways to improve any area of your life is to be sure you are speaking about things the way you WANT them to be. Do you often do the opposite? Do you groan and complain about how bad things are? And do you find that you seem to get more and more of those bad things in your life?

Start turning that around today by using the power of your words to call in better experiences. When people ask how you are, rather than complaining, say something like, "Feeling pretty good today, thanks!" or "Things could always be worse!". Notice that you don't have to lie and say that things are great when they really aren't - but find a way to answer in a positive manner.

You may not believe it will change anything, but you may be surprised by how well it really works.




Today's Positive Quote:

"When people asked, I used to tell them how sick I was. The more I talked about being sick, the worse I got. Finally, I started saying, 'I'm getting better.' It took a while, but then I started to feel better too." - Michael Hirsch (Person with AIDS)