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I thought a thought
I thought a thought
I thought a lot about that thought
I thought and I thought a lot about that thought
I thought the thought that I thought was a really good thought
I posted it.
I think I'm going to be killed
I thought a lot about that thought
I thought and I thought a lot about that thought
I thought the thought that I thought was a really good thought
I posted it.
I think I'm going to be killed
dealing with hatred
Anytime you think about someones' bad side or the bad someone has don, you just feel some level of hatred for that person, while not pause a bit and just think about one tiny good side of the person, you will get a whole different feelings about that person, i think that helps to deal with hatred and enmity
Who are more romantic, men or women?
The word romance is associated with the notion of being vulnerable in men's minds. They are conditioned to perceive being romantic as being feminine or being a wimp. Even the meaning of the word romance is confusing to men in general.
I took upon myself the task of asking the men whom I encountered in my daily life about their perceptions and definitions of the word romance and discovered that there was no distinct consensus to the concept of romance among men. One individual contemplated for a moment and then he told me that romance signifies making women feeling good at the expense of making men uncertain about their identities.
The final conclusion that I draw from my discussion with men was that they are ignorant about romance as they are about every aspect of a relationship. Watching football all afternoon means being romantic to most men. Going hunting or playing ball with a group of misfits while leaving their ladies keeping the castles clean and tidy for the return of their kings from their trips, is considered romantic by some men. Cooking and cleaning after a hard day at work while the bums sitting watching television without any consideration of offering their help to their ladies, is seen in some distorted minds of men as being romantic. Spending thousands of dollars to buy bowling or golfing equipments while being absolutely stingy when it comes to buying a bouquet of flowers for a special occasion for the ladies in their lives, is conceived in some klutz of men as being romantic. Forgetting the ladies birthdays and anniversaries among other important occasions implies in the men zucchini brains as being romantic. No wonder, women have the justified notion that men are not romantic.
Women whom I encountered expressed their perceptions of romance in a manner that one can draw a common conclusion. The majority of women to whom I posed the question concerning their definitions and their perceptions of romance indicated that they wish to be appreciated, made feel wonderful about their feminine and mental assets and not be taken for granted. Some implied that being given flowers from time to time is conceived as being romantic. Preparing a candle lit dinners for two is perceived as being romantic. Buying an expensive gift and wrapping it nicely to present it to one’s lady would be considered romantic. Walking hand in hand while absorbing the beauty of nature is another manner in which a man can display his romanticism. The problems pertinent to the question of being romantic or not are originated from the variance of the perception of what would be considered romantic among the man and the woman in a relationship.
One must be honest and talk about every aspect of a relationship, including romance upon meeting for the first time and continue the discussion of their expectations from one another concerning being romantic, if the circumstances arise and they become a couple. The apprehension of discussing these issues for the fear of scaring one off, will lead to a disastrous relationship in which the woman, the man or both lack fulfillment of their romantic notions. We are conditioned to be too cautious and afraid to open up which leads to being imprisoned within walls of fear and caution. We wait for the right time, in our conditioned minds to talk freely and when that time arrives for opening up, it is too late because one is too involved to risk it all by opening up. Another factor that leads to the disappointment from the women, men or both sides concerning the fulfillment of the romantic notions within them is the pretension of being romantic that is assumed by the man or the woman to entice the other during the span of their courtship. Both the man and the woman should be completely truthful and be themselves from day one to avoid the heartaches that would result from falling in love with the person the other pretending to be.
I took upon myself the task of asking the men whom I encountered in my daily life about their perceptions and definitions of the word romance and discovered that there was no distinct consensus to the concept of romance among men. One individual contemplated for a moment and then he told me that romance signifies making women feeling good at the expense of making men uncertain about their identities.
The final conclusion that I draw from my discussion with men was that they are ignorant about romance as they are about every aspect of a relationship. Watching football all afternoon means being romantic to most men. Going hunting or playing ball with a group of misfits while leaving their ladies keeping the castles clean and tidy for the return of their kings from their trips, is considered romantic by some men. Cooking and cleaning after a hard day at work while the bums sitting watching television without any consideration of offering their help to their ladies, is seen in some distorted minds of men as being romantic. Spending thousands of dollars to buy bowling or golfing equipments while being absolutely stingy when it comes to buying a bouquet of flowers for a special occasion for the ladies in their lives, is conceived in some klutz of men as being romantic. Forgetting the ladies birthdays and anniversaries among other important occasions implies in the men zucchini brains as being romantic. No wonder, women have the justified notion that men are not romantic.
Women whom I encountered expressed their perceptions of romance in a manner that one can draw a common conclusion. The majority of women to whom I posed the question concerning their definitions and their perceptions of romance indicated that they wish to be appreciated, made feel wonderful about their feminine and mental assets and not be taken for granted. Some implied that being given flowers from time to time is conceived as being romantic. Preparing a candle lit dinners for two is perceived as being romantic. Buying an expensive gift and wrapping it nicely to present it to one’s lady would be considered romantic. Walking hand in hand while absorbing the beauty of nature is another manner in which a man can display his romanticism. The problems pertinent to the question of being romantic or not are originated from the variance of the perception of what would be considered romantic among the man and the woman in a relationship.
One must be honest and talk about every aspect of a relationship, including romance upon meeting for the first time and continue the discussion of their expectations from one another concerning being romantic, if the circumstances arise and they become a couple. The apprehension of discussing these issues for the fear of scaring one off, will lead to a disastrous relationship in which the woman, the man or both lack fulfillment of their romantic notions. We are conditioned to be too cautious and afraid to open up which leads to being imprisoned within walls of fear and caution. We wait for the right time, in our conditioned minds to talk freely and when that time arrives for opening up, it is too late because one is too involved to risk it all by opening up. Another factor that leads to the disappointment from the women, men or both sides concerning the fulfillment of the romantic notions within them is the pretension of being romantic that is assumed by the man or the woman to entice the other during the span of their courtship. Both the man and the woman should be completely truthful and be themselves from day one to avoid the heartaches that would result from falling in love with the person the other pretending to be.
First World Problems
And you thought you had it bad. Wait until you see these first world problems. 
Then you'll count your blessings. 
Then you'll count your blessings. Building a country girl
Country life is cool.
She has been learning that. Her BF and I had her starting out with various types of .380s (Colts, PPKs etc), but I figured she was finally ready for the real thing today. So when she stopped by for our periodic coffee and chat I dragged her out back and after her warming up with my old Remington M51, I moved her up to a 1911 (a Colt commercial made in 1917).
Here she is getting ready to try it for the first time. 7 yard line.
Halfway through the magazine. She likes it.
Her first time with a .45. No bad habits exhibited.
She is becoming a bonafide country girl.
She has been learning that. Her BF and I had her starting out with various types of .380s (Colts, PPKs etc), but I figured she was finally ready for the real thing today. So when she stopped by for our periodic coffee and chat I dragged her out back and after her warming up with my old Remington M51, I moved her up to a 1911 (a Colt commercial made in 1917).
Here she is getting ready to try it for the first time. 7 yard line.
Halfway through the magazine. She likes it.
Her first time with a .45. No bad habits exhibited.
She is becoming a bonafide country girl.
Step Two....lol
I sit here this evening a happy and very lucky person.
I received news that the government has agreed with me in a dispute on my separation date and I am patiently waiting for a new friend to come home so we can chat.
Believe it or note this site has given me more confidence than I ever dreamed of, especially in such a short time. 13 days is not long at all but I feel welcomed and accepted and am extremely happy that I signed up and am continuing to move forward.....lol
Today was a long but very constructive day. We are getting the back half of our house ready to move into for the winter. As the house is completely gutted you can imagine the work we are having to put into it to make it happen. But the weather is getting so much colder up here remaining in a cottage with no heat means time is just about to run out. I think we should have it good to go by the weekend...thankfully...lol
Funny the first blog seemed so much easier to write than this one. Maybe I just need to be tired and up at 1:30am to get the inspiration required...lol
Anyway I will be back again as soon as I am able.
Enjoy blogging
Raye
I received news that the government has agreed with me in a dispute on my separation date and I am patiently waiting for a new friend to come home so we can chat.
Believe it or note this site has given me more confidence than I ever dreamed of, especially in such a short time. 13 days is not long at all but I feel welcomed and accepted and am extremely happy that I signed up and am continuing to move forward.....lol
Today was a long but very constructive day. We are getting the back half of our house ready to move into for the winter. As the house is completely gutted you can imagine the work we are having to put into it to make it happen. But the weather is getting so much colder up here remaining in a cottage with no heat means time is just about to run out. I think we should have it good to go by the weekend...thankfully...lol
Funny the first blog seemed so much easier to write than this one. Maybe I just need to be tired and up at 1:30am to get the inspiration required...lol
Anyway I will be back again as soon as I am able.
Enjoy blogging
Raye
Essential Ingredients for a successful relationshi
Creating a healthy environment for a mutually satisfying relationship became the most hard and tedious task that a couple has to face in the complicated society in which we live.
Nowadays, divorce is the norm and everlasting relationships are perceived as one of the wonderful memories of ancient history. One must wonder: Is there any hope that the human race will be capable of conquering the domain of relationships between the two genders by simplifying its concept? The answer seems to be disappointing considering the emphasis, which the media is putting upon the failure of relationships. Most sitcoms on Television have among their principal characters divorced or legally separated couples.
After much soul searching, I came up with criteria that one could use to evaluate one’s relationship with the opposite gender. One can claim enjoying the magical wonders of being in a mutually satisfying relationship if the couple succeeds in accomplishing the following:
Enhancing each other’s life not altering it
Respecting and believing in each other’s ideas and beliefs not
putting them down
Filling each other’s heart with joy and laughter
Stimulating each other mentally, satisfying one another
physically and evolving together spiritually
Accepting each other as they are and never attempting to change one another
Permitting each other the chance to have space
Appreciating each other all the time not only on special occasion
The elements of a successful relationship vary from one individual to the next and should not be taken as recipe for guaranteed success in one’s relationship with the opposite gender. Each couple can sit down, when they meet and start courting each other, to define their own criteria for a mutually satisfying relationship. They should discuss and decide upon the important aspects that they wish to have in their relationship.
Nowadays, divorce is the norm and everlasting relationships are perceived as one of the wonderful memories of ancient history. One must wonder: Is there any hope that the human race will be capable of conquering the domain of relationships between the two genders by simplifying its concept? The answer seems to be disappointing considering the emphasis, which the media is putting upon the failure of relationships. Most sitcoms on Television have among their principal characters divorced or legally separated couples.
After much soul searching, I came up with criteria that one could use to evaluate one’s relationship with the opposite gender. One can claim enjoying the magical wonders of being in a mutually satisfying relationship if the couple succeeds in accomplishing the following:
Enhancing each other’s life not altering it
Respecting and believing in each other’s ideas and beliefs not
putting them down
Filling each other’s heart with joy and laughter
Stimulating each other mentally, satisfying one another
physically and evolving together spiritually
Accepting each other as they are and never attempting to change one another
Permitting each other the chance to have space
Appreciating each other all the time not only on special occasion
The elements of a successful relationship vary from one individual to the next and should not be taken as recipe for guaranteed success in one’s relationship with the opposite gender. Each couple can sit down, when they meet and start courting each other, to define their own criteria for a mutually satisfying relationship. They should discuss and decide upon the important aspects that they wish to have in their relationship.
New beginings
Well I must say the first 7 days on this site have been interesting to say the least.
I have made it here which is further than I expected to last. Usually I will start something with good intentions and then when it doesn't seem to be helping or fill the void that I am desperately trying to, I just give up and think it was worth it anyway. So after 7 days of being on here and I'm still continuing to go ahead with why I signed up in the first place it must mean that I am getting something I need or am just more determined than other times in my past.
This is where the self-improvement comes in to play. I want to be the person that can be depended on but also the one that can depend on someone else. My kids are great but they also don't need to be the crutch I lean on either.
I have had a life filled with disappointments. Some obviously very good as I have 4 beautiful young adults, but I have never had that kind of connection that I see in all the happy couples and families that surround me. I am trying to change my way of thinking from detrimental and self destructive to positive and fulfilling. As one of my friends tells me all the time. When you get a complement accept it for what it is. Don't brush it off and say "ya ok" because it is meant to make you feel better and the truth. Compliments have always been hard for me to accept just because I have never felt worthy of them. When your daily life is built around being yelled at, put down and made to feel unimportant you tend to start believing it.
This is where I am at today trying to put together the pieces of my life that have been stomped on for many years and am unbelievably going to the vast unknown world of the internet to help me do that. It matters not if anyone wishes to comment or converse, (although it would be great) but the fact that I am putting myself out there to see if this will help. We all have to start somewhere and for me this is it.
Thanks for reading
Raye
I have made it here which is further than I expected to last. Usually I will start something with good intentions and then when it doesn't seem to be helping or fill the void that I am desperately trying to, I just give up and think it was worth it anyway. So after 7 days of being on here and I'm still continuing to go ahead with why I signed up in the first place it must mean that I am getting something I need or am just more determined than other times in my past.
This is where the self-improvement comes in to play. I want to be the person that can be depended on but also the one that can depend on someone else. My kids are great but they also don't need to be the crutch I lean on either.
I have had a life filled with disappointments. Some obviously very good as I have 4 beautiful young adults, but I have never had that kind of connection that I see in all the happy couples and families that surround me. I am trying to change my way of thinking from detrimental and self destructive to positive and fulfilling. As one of my friends tells me all the time. When you get a complement accept it for what it is. Don't brush it off and say "ya ok" because it is meant to make you feel better and the truth. Compliments have always been hard for me to accept just because I have never felt worthy of them. When your daily life is built around being yelled at, put down and made to feel unimportant you tend to start believing it.
This is where I am at today trying to put together the pieces of my life that have been stomped on for many years and am unbelievably going to the vast unknown world of the internet to help me do that. It matters not if anyone wishes to comment or converse, (although it would be great) but the fact that I am putting myself out there to see if this will help. We all have to start somewhere and for me this is it.
Thanks for reading
Raye
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