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Yourself:

Probably the most important redefinition of all- YOU. As you grow older, you will realize that you
will have to do a lot of things alone. You
will have to be your own hero and you
will have to pick yourself up sometimes.


You will redefine what you care about,
what you are chasing, what you are
believing in, what you are looking
forward to and what you want to
achieve. You will redefine how you see
yourself and how you want to be seen.


You will redefine how you want to
spend the rest of your life, and you will
redefine whether or not you want your
life to have meaning and if you want
the world to understand it...
#Jt

Maslow's hierarchy of needs:- (The shortened version).............

He used the terms "physiological", "safety", "belongingness" and "love", "esteem", "self-actualization", and "self-transcendence" to describe the pattern that human motivations generally move through.

Physiological needs:-
Air, water, food, clothing and shelter. While maintaining an adequate birth rate shapes the intensity of the human s*xual instinct.

Safety needs:-
With their physical needs relatively satisfied, the individual's safety needs take precedence and dominate behavior. In the absence of physical safety – due to war, natural disaster, family violence, childhood abuse, etc. – people may (re-)experience post-traumatic stress disorder or transgenerational trauma. job security is required.

Love and belonging:-
After physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third level of human needs is interpersonal and involves feelings of belongingness. Friendship, Intimacy, Family

Esteem:-
All humans have a need to feel respected; this includes the need to have self-esteem and self-respect. Esteem presents the typical human desire to be accepted and valued by others. People often engage in a profession or hobby to gain recognition. These activities give the person a sense of contribution or value. Low self-esteem or an inferiority complex may result from imbalances during this level in the hierarchy. People with low self-esteem often need respect from others; they may feel the need to seek fame or glory. However, fame or glory will not help the person to build their self-esteem until they accept who they are internally. Psychological imbalances such as depression can hinder the person from obtaining a higher level of self-esteem or self-respect.

Self-actualization:-
"What a man can be, he must be." This quotation forms the basis of the perceived need for self-actualization. This level of need refers to what a person's full potential is and the realization of that potential. Maslow describes this level as the desire to accomplish everything that one can, to become the most that one can be. Maslow believed that to understand this level of need, the person must not only achieve the previous needs, but master them.

Self-transcendence:-
In his later years, Maslow explored a further dimension of needs, while criticizing his own vision on self-actualization. The self only finds its actualization in giving itself to some higher goal outside oneself, in altruism and spirituality.

--> Now take each separate point into account, and produce Pro’s and Con’s for Maslow Hierarchy of needs.

--> Always ask why, never mind who or what it is. Don’t take anything at face value, get proof first.

--> Live and learn !!! This blog is information, requiring Intelligent investigation within urself.

Last night I discovered an email I wrote last September, to Mike 'Duke" Venturino, a gun writer and columnist of American Handgunner magazine, concerning an electronic article of his about the possibility of two different types of US military .38 Special ammunition existing, back in the days when weapons of that caliber were often used by some US military forces was published by that magazine in their January/February issue. My communication can be found in the 'Speak Out' section on pages 20 & 21. Regrettably, some photos I had sent him to support my conclusions were not included in the published version. Those who follow such things can view the missing photos and a blog text supporting my conclusions at

From War to Peace
Serving in Rhodesia and other African countries during the wars in the late 70’s and early 80’s the comparison of then and now..

Then: - My eyes saw pain; they saw what no eyes should see, darkness and misery.
Now: - They see life, nature and beauty and beautiful women.

Then: - My ears, they heard the loudness of destruction, they heard the screams.
Now: - They hear music, birds singing, children playing and people laughing.

Then:-My nose, it smelt the nastiness, the acrid cordite and smells I cannot mention.
Now: - I smell the morning air, the coffee, flowers and the scent of a woman’s perfume.

Then:- My hands, they held weapons, they touched death, they touched sadness.
Now: - They touch life, they are tender but they are strong, they can hold hands with a lover, they can wipe tears away, they can still protect those who need protection.

Then: - My heart...My heart just pumped blood, it’s all It was there for.
Now: - I can give love and affection, I can feel my heartbeat faster when I am with someone special, it’s not just pumping blood.

Then: - My Mind and soul...I was just a number, my name taken from me, acceptable as collateral...no more.
Now:-I have a name, I have a personality, I have a soul, I am me...My mind can be shared, best of all I can give love.

Without trust there's no reason to continue! Not communicating for quite long say weeks together and for no valid reason,when u know the other one in search of new relationships (keeping Ur partner in the dark)..ain't fine. When confronted,saying Dear,am always there for you is unnerving! Isn't it better to move out from such relationship where you are sure,u r unwanted! Without guilt those behave! Saying I was here! Went no where! What r u saying! Huh! Such kinds are rare!

Beauty and Colours Always
Attract the Eyes.

Only A Simple Smile will
Catch The Attention of the
HEART

So Always Carry A Smile
On your Face.

Been awake all fking night with anxiety and can't sleep.

I love waking up to the smell of Folgers
your love I and excuse maggot tea be Phryggian of Rolling talk
jelly grumpy 'gainst war may bars me) across the raging fires in the
palace Out of the wind... Why? I never bathed, I never bathed, I never
sinned. Can take steel bars and make them bend. thirteen colonies orbs
of destiny evenings of peculiarity Blame it on yourself Have often
spent doubled over in mirth and hilarity and Fly to the moon and whatever's there

Few weeks ago there's this man who messaged me and after a while asked my fb id to chat there. Well because of my privacy settings I asked his fb id instead,so he gave it and I sent him a friend request, he accepted it and we chatted there.

But the next day I became so busy that I couldn't response fast and sometimes also because of our time differences. He messaged me saying I am rude and unfriended me so I apologized. I said sorry and explained why I replied late. He says maybe I am not yet ready for a relationship and all then we said bye in a good way.

After 3 or 4 days we had a chat again and he sent me a friend request again so I accepted it. We chatted only for like 5 mins. or only exchanged 5 messages I think then we moved on. No chat again after my last message to him that he didn't answer. Lol..

Then all of a sudden last two days ago he messaged me here asking if I am ready now to give him time to get to know and be in a relationship. So because I thought he's a nice guy and really sincere I said yes but I told him to be more patience because I can't always response fast as I am not online all the time. And he said yes and asked again for my fb id. And I was like, '' What??? AGAIN???'' Lol I mean all I know is we are already friends there. Yes for the second time actually after the unfriended thing.

So I felt offended and dissapointed to know he unfriended me again for the second time around. I felt bad because as far as I know I didn't do anything bad to him. If he felt ignored it was not intentionally and I apologized and he accepted it so why? WHY HE KEPT ADDING AND UNFRIENDED PEOPLE then call people the ''Rudest person he ever know''. Aww I really felt so bad. I told him in a nice way that I think we're not for each other and that I can't be his fb friend for the third time because I'm offended and dissapointed after he unfriended me twice. And that's it
He said I am the rudest woman he ever know and told me to go hurt other people. Even called me little girl. Haha.. then blocked me..

Okay... done ranting.. So , Am I really rude? :(

Do you ever experience one of those times where you feel like people around you just wants to take advantage of you? that they only try to find you when they want something from you?
I dont like to make a big deal out of things anymore, i only react to things with a simple yes or a simple no, but i try keep it polite.
After all there are things in this life we can truly have by sharing them
I try to be reasonable with my own feelings, i think when we are being positive we are emotionally smarter and it kindda hurt less.
I think that, its nice to be nice
But it takes a lot of patience and also courage just to live a life nowadays,and that i know for sure.

its how Eminem would say it, dont feel the pain, just carry on , smile, rejoice.
Maybe he gone through shit to get where hes at right now.