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By definition, chronic is 'continuing a long time or recurring frequently' and today my client called to say she wasn't coming to town as previously scheduled as she developed a chronic cough a few weeks ago and is waiting for it to go away. No problem, I told her to let me know when she's coming and I'll reschedule to meet with her.

All through the phone conversation she was interrupted by coughing attacks. With my history of asthma, I suggested she should see specialist, like a pulmonologist who has a better understanding of respiratory issues than her family doctor. She's been taking cold medicine with a cough suppressant and that isn't doing the right job. Hopefully she can get over this quickly with an inhaler or other medicine specific for her condition.

There is a different kind of chronic that deals with mental health issues. The chronic complainer, to be exact. People like this find reasons to complain about anything and everything... I heard someone describe it as "The 3 bears syndrome" where one bear says it's too hot, the other bear says it's too cold, and the lease significant bear says it's just right.

What could possibly be wrong in the life of someone who gets up in the morning, comes to CS to read blogs, doesn't find any to their satisfaction, so they post a complaint blog as though there is something wrong with the other blogs. There is no medicine for that type of illness... or maybe there is?

I used to have a boss who described other bosses who 'pushed' their employees to do better. He said that was wrong and they should be in front 'leading' the workers to do better.
Better by example.
If something wasn't being done correctly he would show the worker what to do to accomplish a goal and not belittle the worker in doing so. His employees were motivated by his work ethic. It wasn't a perfect world as one employee was a chronic complainer. The boss took the time to train the guy properly where his performance improved and the coworkers were happier as they no longer had to listen to him complain.

That was a win-win strategy in dealing with a chronic complainer!

In the past that seems so long ago I kind of found my way back to me in this crazy site.
I went through so much emotion and in the end I found without realising it that I needed to learn how to deal with Me, I realised that She had been buried so deeply inside my heart because I was needed as a Mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend etc.

Almost it seems a lifetime ago when CS helped me find Me again I didn't comprehend then how much so many faceless strangers could help me find my soul again.

So when life decided to knock me down a few steps, I came back to the place I felt safe enough to put out into the universe "Me"

From thinking my life was going to be this gentle growing old with someone special who I loved for the Man he is, but I discovered when I was told I am not enough, that I maybe was just there to help him find himself.. surely you would crumble into pieces if that was as real as I wanted it to be?
And yet I find I feel lighter and I can see the Woman who was quietly waiting for the next phase of this crazy ride we call life.

So here I am :
"Hello again"

Your words are the mirror of your personality. Every word that comes out of your mouth comes out with the feelings and intentions inside you. You cannot hide your intentions for long with fake words.
But wordsmiths can trap you by using fake words.

Human cannot find logic in everything, so they have to take the support of belief. We should not be so logical that we always have to depend on our mind. To give some rest to the mind, the support of belief should also be taken. And don't become so blind in faith that even the common sense of our brain ends. Neither logic should dominate faith nor faith should dominate logic.
Keeping a balance between Belief and Logic, taking both together can bring happiness and peace in life.

What seems right today may seem wrong tomorrow.
It is not possible for everything to be right and good in life. Everything that seems to be perfect has defect. sooner or later that defect will definitely come to the fore.

hope creates happy-hormones

One day everything will be alright, this hope helps us to be happy in hard times. But sometimes seeing the bad incidents that have happened to others breaks the hope that 'one day everything will be fine'.

When do you lose hope?

Life does not always give a chance to choose between right and wrong, sometimes there are only wrong and you have to choose one wrong out of many wrongs.

if you think you have nothing in your life to be happy, see those who need crutches or a wheelchair to walk a step, still you have two legs, two hands, two eyes.
You have enough in your life to be happy, you just have to accept what you have and don't expect what you don't have, you just do what you can.
What you got very easily, many do not get even after hard work.

It is very easy to be happy, you just need to change your way of thinking.

I'm in a pondering mood today thinking about decisions I made along the way in life and what would have happened if I chose a different path.
I have a few different model helicopters. They vary in size and power. While I like to fly the smaller ones, the larger ones are more precise and easier to fly. One of my favorites is a middle size, so it's got the good power without sacrificing performance.

I told one of my friends I wanted to buy another helicopter but unsure of what to get next. Holding back, I decided to wait a while. This model has been in production for a number of years and I recently saw a YouTube video where one guy has over 200 flights with all the original parts. Nothing failed or had to be replaced.
I wanted to get one as a backup and missed a sale where the manufacturer dropped the price and they sold out. I was able to get one from a retailer who only had one in stock. Now, I've got a spare... just in case I crash and need a backup. The model is discontinued now, but tech support said they will keep parts for a few years.

My friend, has bought and sold at least 20 in the last 2 years. If he gets a new model and doesn't like it, he lists at the helicopter classified site and it's quickly sold. Right now his favorites are all larger, high performance models that have been in production less than a year. All new stuff.

For now, I'm sticking with what I have as it's 1/3 the cost of the larger models. If I had to do it again, I suppose I could sell what I have and choose something from a different manufacturer.

I bought a new car this year. It's more substantial than the previous car. While I liked the liked the one I traded, the seat was small and and the interior road nose while on the highway was excessive. If I had to do it again, would I have chosen the model I currently have? Probably, knowing what I know now, the model below my selection with front wheel drive (and not all wheel drive) would have been fine and I wouldn't have selected it in a metallic grey. White requires more washing, but in 103 degree weather it would have been cooler sitting in the hot sun.

What else?
Probably the most significant if I had to do it again situation was a love relationship, gone wrong that happened about 14 years ago. We dated casually and although she had her own house, she moved in with me for convenience. After I realized her personality wasn't right for me, I called it off and asked her to move back to her place. She started dating another guy that only lasted a few weeks and wanted me back in her life. Foolishly, I let her in. She was flying around the room on her broomstick one night and I couldn't take any more and I had to call off the relationship a second time.
She came to my door a few times, but I wouldn't unlock the security gate.
If I had to do that again, I shouldn't have allowed her to move in and certainly not tried a second time with her.

More?
There will be more, I'm sure.


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Happy Birthday to me thank u lord for one more year old thank u for the give of life I really appreciate it n more blessing to come