would you ever consider getting back with your ex
It has been 12 years since we have been apart. We have seen each other from time to time...and me, I always avoided her if I could. Whenever I would see her out, she was with a different guy each time. Honestly, it never bothered me. I was glad to see her out and hopefully happy. However, from what I knew of her...she really took a path of destruction in her life. There was nothing good I have ever heard from others about her. Again, I didn't care...we were not together but these people knew we were together and could never hold back from telling me...she did this...she got involved here and there....all of it was never good.When she first cheated on me, which ultimately lead to me breaking up with her....initially...I told myself that she would genuinely apologize, that I would consider trying to make things work. At least at that time, I would believe she honestly felt bad about her actions and just maybe, she would consider me in the relationship if we stay together. After we initially separated, days went by and then weeks....yet, no apology. Then that is when I figured, this is indeed the end and prepared my life for a new path.
Last night rolls around, twelve years later. My buddy and I decide to go out to the casino, get a bite to eat and play a quick $20 in the machines. I sit on one machine and my buddy says, I will be over here. I check what direction he walks in so I can find him later and I play my machine. After playing, I get up and go looking for him. When I walk around a cluster of machines, there he is...sitting next to my ex and chatting with her. Initially my reaction is just to turn around...never seen...and just walk away, but I am getting tired and want to round up my buddy. So there is where it all starts. My ex and I end up sitting for an hour chatting. She is drunk and emotionally all over the place....going on about how she is single and hinting at getting a room there. I just change the subject and listen.
At this time, I am dropping subtle hints about it is getting late and I am tired and I need to go. As we are departing, she says...I am sorry for everything. An apology after 12 years. I did give her a hug and then left.
I think that is the first time I heard that word from her mouth...ever.
Now of course she was drunk. But it is said that when people are drunk, their filters come down. Meaning..that they feel freer to express what is really going on in their heads.
Has she seen enough of the single life to realize that grass was not greener?
Was she just feeling lonely at that moment and just wanted company?
Or, was she genuinely sorry and wanted to make amends?
Or, should it be just another "thing"...and once trust is lost...it is lost for ever?
What do you think?
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I have been too busy lately to become programed by the lyrics of some songs. Thank you for sharing though. I am sure if I had more time on my hands, I would be shedding a tear to two.
Hmm.. perhaps if you get back with her, then you will find the answers to all your questions.
Besides, you got nothing to lose as you still love her anyway..
Good luck and take care..
I am sorry to hear.
I am not sure I love her...but I have love for her. Is there a difference?
Thank you though.
Buddy I will only say once it cracks the line remains.
Its better to help her if she needs any financial help.
But good to get other one for yourself.
First check the background and then involve.
My late tenant said to me once, he could change. I told him no you cant. He was around 40. I said how you are, who you are and what you are is set. A gal has to accept that and take you as you are. Not some dream of what could be.
An ex is an ex for many reasons. And even if they realize their mistakes, it doesnt change their true nature or character. Like the saying, you cant go back.
My ex and I lived out of state for his army years. When it came time to come home, he said we should stay. Away from parents, siblings, friends...the stuff that caused issues. I said no..it is not them. It is you. I saw he was starting to follow his same path, causing the same issues. I said you cant run away. If you start, you will never stop running away. One needs to change the problems or they will catch up sooner or later. When you look at her, dont just remember the good times, remember the bad. And she is still whom she was.