men's praise
This is when I was younger...much younger.I didn't realize that men required/need/deeply appreciate (to a psychological level at times) praise from their woman. I am willing to bet that many men did not realize that either.
How could we? Well, I will actually speak from my perspective...how would I? I only dated one woman in my life...it lasted 13 years, but I never dated many women. That is not the way I am wired. I respect a relationship and everything about it. Now of course, there are some men out there that have different wiring than myself; however, I think the topic of this blog is still relevant to you as well.
Okay, back to it then. I didn't realize that men required praise from their woman. It is healthy for a man's self-esteem, his motivation to succeed, to be happy, to be the best possible self he can be. There is nothing wrong with a man being all these things....is there?
The reason why I bring this up is because back in the day, when I was in the middle of that 13 year relationship, I had heard on many occasions from the woman I was dating, she would tell me, "I am not going to give you praise." At the time, I thought to myself, I am not asking for any praise. I am going to continue on with my success and what I am doing in life with our without your praise...needless to say, I was not doing these things for her praise anyway. It was for survival in this tough world.
However...just moments ago I was listening to a pod cast by a certain somebody
...I won't mention his name...and he had a whole show about praise....and how not only women should praise their man, but they should also praise their man in public. The bottom line...it was an ironic event, and I am thinking there must be something to it...my ex-gf used that exact word back then, and today that blogger used the same word. There must be some importance to it.
P.R.A.I.S.E.
Public display of following traits.
Respect
Accepting
Investing
Sacrificing
Enthusiastically
What do you think men and women....should women praise their man?
....also I would like to ask...
What does it mean if they don't praise you?
or
What does it mean if they do praise you?
If your woman is not "investing" in you, is that a troubling sign for the relationship?
Of course, this topic of praise is about a high value man...a man who is not toxic in anyway....
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But I really do think this comes from childhood. It's your mum's praise that counts when you were a little child, to feel worthy comes from this you don't need to reminded that you are worth something or try too hard to gain affection. Which would be the problem if we were solely raised by our dads, brought up completely by a stern father.
That makes sense what you say and I think there is a lot of truth in it.
I think this podcaster was talking about it as a positive for the male ego and for his own driven self determination in the world....but he also referred to it as somewhat a gauge too...as to whether or not just how into a woman is too.
However.....great point made by you
That also makes sense too.
I do agree, a woman will want to see what sort of man they are dealing with. It is for their good/safety and they should do that.
As far as her praising her bf is another man just flirted with her, that would be re-assuring to her bf.
It is between them how their dynamic works.
Do you remember a blog referencing the 5? styles of love: praise,gift,acts,and I forgot the rest.
Feeling unloved IN a relationship can be remedied when it is in the open.
And Johnny..I'm guessing here
Thanks, Patty! I like your new pic.
I gave an ole GF lots of praise and fattery, and then I said, "Okay, now you fatter and praise me. Go ahead."
She scratched her head, then her rear and said, "Well, uh. Hmm, I don't know."
Finally she came up with, "Oh, okay. I praise you for paying attention to me and doing what I want, those times when you do."
My reaction -->
I agree, you do have a pretty pic. Cool.
Had a few girlfriends that really bad mouthed me though. Especially after they realized that the 'friendship' wasn't going anywhere.
Had a few girlfriends that really bad mouthed me though. Especially after they realized that the 'friendship' wasn't going anywhere.
Robert
You are so smooth...
as a
freshly iced beer mug.
you're as smooth as a fine silk flower from a high class shop,
not the ones from the dollar stores. Er, not the ones from the dollar and 25 cents stores.
you're as smooth as a fine silk flower from a high class shop,
not the ones from the dollar stores. Er, not the ones from the dollar and 25 cents stores.
Does praise matter from guys or just mutual respect?
Because if a female's friends praise you it's usually when you are saying you are right about something.
Like these
are for you too.
I knew of a doctor that checked people for Hernias. They nicknamed him "Doctor Fast Fingers." I don't know why.
A few patients of his were known to have said, 'Well, at least he wined and dined me before checking me for a hernia."
Whatever that meant.
Here's another one.
Great topic.
Let me know if Robert
wanted it back, or if it's
Special recipe 10 lb.fruitcake
Where are you? I write comments, but you don't reply. Sheesh!
Anyways, in your blog you say you only dated ONE WOMAN in your life? What the heck!!!!!!!
Come on now! Let's be reasonable.
I mean, you can't just eat at McDonaldz and never try Burger Kiing. You can't just eat potato chips and not try corn chips.
That's not one of them fruitcakes in a tin that people have been re-gifting and re-gifting and re-gifting since the 1970s? And with all the preservatives in them things, they're still supposed to be good to eat.
How about those poker chips?
If anyone wants to give me a compliment it will be on their own free will.
I appreciate a man and they will know it when i enjoy when they make me feel like a woman.
I totally agree with you on what you say. It should be sincerely reciprocated.
However, I do know some women that it would kill them to hand out a genuine compliment...or praise their man. Unfortunately, I found one of them.
She was super hot so...I guess it made up for the lack of compassion.
You know...in public around here, I don't talk anything negative about my ex. Even though she has dramatically turned into a person I have no clue who she is now....her actions speak loud enough for her character, I don't have to say a single word.
I still respect her and our time together, but that is as far as it goes.
No problem with the double post.
Robert, believe it or not...I have been with only one woman all my life.
That is what I thought too back in the day...I didn't need any praise. But knowing now how the relationship ended, it might have been a sign of the temperature of the relationship. After hearing this latest podcast about praise...it could be an indicator of a lack of respect...or perhaps I was not deserving of any praise.
Does praise matter from guys or just mutual respect?
Because if a female's friends praise you it's usually when you are saying you are right about something.
Like these
are for you too.
I knew of a doctor that checked people for Hernias. They nicknamed him "Doctor Fast Fingers." I don't know why.
A few patients of his were known to have said, 'Well, at least he wined and dined me before checking me for a hernia."
Whatever that meant.
"Robert, believe it or not...I have been with only one woman all my life."
Robert:
"Yeah - Right!"
"I know the ole rule, "Admit to nothing. Admit to nothing."
I like your outfit, and you are very special.
I like your outfit, and you are very special.
Isn’t it nice complmenting that way
P.R.A.I.S.E is broken down in the OP. Respect is part of it...
Respect, accepting, investing, sacrificing, enthusiastically....all this performed in public as well
Hello Robert,
Admit to nothing is so important.