I have left once since you are so concerned. I needed to and at the time did not think I was coming back. It was due to a personal matter. Then I realized I missed people and came back.
Does that answer your question?
Now get off your pole and keep to the topic. That was pretty rude of you to say that to me. I feel like I must bother you in some way, excuse me.
Also, announcing you are leaving - thinking that the person is attention seeking. I disagree. I was saying goodbye to friends. Quite different than trying to receive sympathy.
Now, back to the real topic, we are talking about someone else, not me.
It's Still. I felt writing to him as comfort. He was a very deep person and very perspective. I hope he will come back.
I think you are right, I overlooked page 3. I was answering your first post.
I believe that people who deal with someone who said something that hurt them with silence is punishing the other person. Also playing mind games.
I see that you solved your problem like I thought you would, just exactly the way you wanted to. Did any of our posts help you?
I noticed you did not tell us what your solution was. I think if answered you, it would seem that you would tell us what your solution was. But it seems like you are not going to tell us.
I believe in being upfront with people. It solves alot of problems since it is impossible to know what the other person is thinking.
I have a new boyfriend and he does this. It's refreshing how he communicates with me. I will tell him something and later he will ask how something went. Which meant he was paying attention to me.
Recently, he mentioned to me that I was very quiet. He wondered what was on my mind. I said, yes, I'm deep in thought, that I was sad about my lovely cat who is 13. He is slowly going downhill. He is diabetic and had gotten so sick that he had to go to the emergency clinic. He is on borrowed time.
Other times, when things come up like this, it shows you that the person might not be right for you. All the energy taken up with this person is not worth it. Move on with a time out and hope someone else comes along that you click with.
I do not know what direction I am going in right now. I am dating one guy from another dating site and talking to another guy- local.
I am also in 2 single groups, nature group, etc. from Meetup.com. It's a great place to meet people in your area.
I've met one guy on CS I liked alot and we were dating for awhile. But he was not the marrying type so I moved on.
I say it is possible. It takes time, also going on some strange dates. Have fun and be busy with other things, you never know how you will meet someone.
My GYN found her husband on a on-line site and married him, and they have a child.
There are plenty here on CS that have made a special connection and moved to be with their person.
Aeterna, I agree. If a man doesn't treat you like he likes you, move on. Trying to make someone love you I think is impossible. If a guy liked me and was trying to do this, I would say good-bye. It would feel uncomfortable.
If you are with a person and you both like each other, it's easy to start to fall in love. But even so, you need to get to know them to determine if you are a real good match.
Sometimes, when 2 people are attracted to each other, your mind is in a fog. When you can stop and see things clearly and decide everything seems good, then go for it.
This is a communication problem. It is still on your mind or you would not have posted.
Maybe you deserved what she said. Did you hurt her first?
You have not given us the full story. There are always 2 sides.
It's in your hands, writing only goes so far in a relationship. Talking on the phone or to save money using a cam, scape gives better communication.
Besides, it doesn't matter what we say, you will do what you want. So make up your mind, and do it.
I'm sure you are trying to play with her mind by not answering. If you cared at all during your relationship, you would at least answer her and act like a man (Closure).
I try to take your poetry by stride, but tonight I will not hide If all you see are the women you state I will not not hestitate Plenty of women are here But its up to you to show your age and just engage a woman of your liking and maybe it will become exciting So boast of a lady of the night and find your delight but if you do come back here acting sincere about love you better blow your nose and wipe your tears because you have shown your cards and they are not a winning deck, they are just a wreck.
Plus, you are have a blank face, can't you show your face? What is the disgrace?
I am not flirting with you, just commenting back I have a guy who treats me right So if you really want a woman you know what to do treat her with kindness and be sincere
I do not know you good enough to know if you are a player. Playing can be fun but it does have a price when you end up alone right at the end of your life.
I try to live my life the right way, I'm sure they will both get what they deserve. I believe once a person cheats, they will again. The ex ended up moving to another state and likes someone new. He has not been stung yet, it will happen I'm sure. I am just glad the drama is over, I feel stronger than before it happened. I pretty handled my part of the divorce carefully by myself.
Ops, when I said "Then a woman just..." I meant a man just leaves his wife for another woman, then goes to another state also. Leaving the children heartbroken thinking he doesn't love them. Boy, life can stink. I hate seeing children suffer like that.
Hi true, when I said bad, I meant bad as in adultry and getting the person pregnant twice. That is bad.
Then I meant that women are as bad as men now (cheating). I heard of one man's wife leaving him for another married woman who had little children. Then they just left.
Then a woman just leaves his wife for another while they are married.
I know what you mean though. Marriage takes work and we all have quirks. There are plenty of marriages that last. I just happened to have been married twice both ending the same way - they cheated. I had no idea that either would. What a surprise. But it sure helps to get the divorce rolling. I can't stay with a man like that.
Exactly, Cytrynka. I am eating my cake now since I am free of a man who no longer respected me. Free to be with a man who treats me so much better. No matter how I tried to fix things, it takes 2.
I'm sure there are men who would love to have a divorce cake since women can be just as bad as men.
Thanks JYabba. It takes time to get it out of your system, then ... the fun begins again. Plus, alot of stuff out of your mind, then you feel alot lighter.
Another deep pink -I think this is great, I was picked out to be deep pink. I do love red and have red kitchen appliances. Wearing red gives me a boast.
Your dominant hues are red and magenta. You love doing your own thing and going on your own adventures, but there are close friends you know you just can't leave behind. You can influence others on days when you're patient, but most times you just want to go out, have fun, and do your own thing.
Your saturation level is high - you get into life and have a strong personality. Everyone you meet will either love you or hate you - either way, your goal is to get them to change the world with you. You are very hard working and don't have much patience for people without your initiative.
Your outlook on life is very bright. You are sunny and optimistic about life and others find it very encouraging, but remember to tone it down if you sense irritation.
I can't do anything about what he did to me. I'm tired of the anger. Letting go of it makes me feel better. We even had a matter to email about and I stayed cool. Also, I sure enjoyed dancing with a guy recently, he didn't dance. Then had ride in a Red Ferrari from someone else.
Ha, I am sure you would make a bee line to their house at a moment's notice. Plus, stay the night. Then later, buy one single beautiful rose and deliver it. That is if it turned out ok. If not, make a bee line to your house at a moment's notice.
Speaking of scammers, ha, I have noticed since I have returned from vacation, a guy who wrote to me disappeared.
I had said hello to him before I left. Then got a note back telling me his IM name and to start writing to him. Remember folks, don't leave the site until you know him real good. I even goggle people's names. So, I said, wait a minute cowboy, I want to write here awhile.
So he titles his note to me: Hell I guess because he had to write about himself instead of IMing right away. It sounded a bit strange, a guy who has lived in Wisconsin for 17 years but was Swedish and sent to the US by his company for work. Then the big red flag, he is a widow.
I wrote back and said I might be able to say hello while I was away.
Now, no sign of him or my note, ha. I will be crying all night, more like laughing my as. off.
I was so lucky, I was really lost in school unless the subject excited me. I only had a few teachers that liked kids and loved their jobs. Those were my best classes. My parents made me take typing to fall back. Ha, I thought I would just sell my art for a living.
I went into the government, I thought I would be a secretary for the rest of my life. But while working, I got my associate. I was very close to being in a career that would have gotten me through but was so bored while there.
I know exactly what you mean, Time. But I do admire people that have the knowledge to excel in school. It was just not me.
I have dated some there and have not had luck. But, recently got sent a note from one and it turns out that we both know 2 friends. So far he has been more to my liking than most guys.
Ha, when I go to POF, I look for fish and don't go to the forum. Here I have dated a few, and just was written to. But I come to the forums here.
The Dobe
I have a different view on education. I got as associate degree in Science and Art. Then went right to a job as a graphic artist. I was lucky since I started at the bottom and rose. There are some people that I think would be happier if they skipped college and went to a vocational school. There they can learn how to be a mechanic, wood worker, or artist. Some people have more talent with their hands than wasted by going to college where their true talent will not be discovered. Plus, the money involved. With the economy as it is, college can be unaffordable.
g33kgurl, I love your profile picture. Also, the was a guy in a tv show many years ago, called Lurch. He was a zombie like butler. It was a comedy called the "Adams Family".
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The Dobe
I better take off before some man wants to wring my little neck. 
One of our CS Member's left (Still.O Nite)...
I have left once since you are so concerned. I needed to and at the time did not think I was coming back. It was due to a personal matter. Then I realized I missed people and came back.Does that answer your question?
Now get off your pole and keep to the topic. That was pretty rude of you to say that to me. I feel like I must bother you in some way, excuse me.
Also, announcing you are leaving - thinking that the person is attention seeking. I disagree. I was saying goodbye to friends.
Quite different than trying to receive sympathy.
Now, back to the real topic, we are talking about someone else, not me.
It's Still. I felt writing to him as comfort. He was a very deep person and very perspective. I hope he will come back.
The Dobe