Starting from the premise that an ideal relationship is to find somebody you not only love but feel comfortable with and that you both feel secure in the relationship and you both want it to last 'forever' I'd say that past failure(s) can be wonderful if you learn things from them in a positive way.
Yes - being alone is better than the mental torture of a bad relationship, but surely a good relationship is so much better than being alone!
I can't speak for other people. I can only speak for myself.
It took me a long time to be really 'content' with myself, and not have that horrible empty feeling that I was incomplete and could only be 'complete' if half of a team.
A man and a woman BOTH need to be complete individuals for a relationship to be healthy (and wealthy) and really work.
You are both complete people. You meet. You are not going to die if you are apart, but together two COMPLETE people become something even better than complete..... they are still two individuals (not joined at the hip) but they are really good for each other and their love is something wonderful that has absolutely no option but to grow and grow in a quietly confident way.
Maybe I'm delusional; (I'm certainly in love, but hopefully not in a silly, foolish and blind way!).
Hope springs eternal in the human breast - one day you might marry a woman and it won't end in divorce............ maybe she'll get run over by a bus on the way to the lawyer while in the process of ending the marriage!
Think positive, hope for the best and emmigrate to the USA where you just might get away with 'accidentally' shooting her if she starts looking at you 'funny'!
Well, that's an improvement on Julie piggin' Andrews - the Sound of Music was greatly loved by my paternal grandmother......... whom I hated sincerely (and Julie Andrews by association!)
I don't......... been there and done that and the love of my life and I both have grown up kids and although it would be very sweet for us to have a kid it's not that sensible when you are getting old and grumpy and only find other people's kids amusing and fun to be with safe in the knowledge you only have to look after them for a few hours (as in the case of grandchildren).
The weather here is 'perfect' right now...... not too cold and not too hot.......... June will be even more perfect as it will be nice and warm in the sea......... July gets a bit hot and August is worse......... May, June and maybe September are the months I like best - but ANY month is wonderful if I'm with the woman I love!
Commitment, mutual respect and the sense of security for each to allow the other their own space.
I think my partner's friends are a wonderful bunch of people.
This morning she had 40 friends and relatives over to her place for a champagne breakfast 1st may thingy followed by a ten kilometre walk.
I'd have loved to have been there with her and her friends, but I'd have been terribly sad if she'd cancelled a longstanding tradition just because I couldn't be there with her.
She works bloody hard, and the weekends when she is not working would be harder for her, when we are apart, if she didn't do something every weekend with friends or family.
Her commitment to me is total, as mine is to her. It makes us both feel secure.
Only three more weeks and we'll be together again and the day after that is her birthday and I'm going to spoil her rotten!
I am doing very well............I made more bloody money in 26 days of April than I used to make in a decade when I was an employee and earning 'good money'!
Now I am concentrating on helping those less fortunate - and it's MUCH more fun than actually making money!
rusty_knight Forum Posts (6,840)
RE: What defines us in a relationship?
A very nice post.This is honestly my theory.
Starting from the premise that an ideal relationship is to find somebody you not only love but feel comfortable with and that you both feel secure in the relationship and you both want it to last 'forever' I'd say that past failure(s) can be wonderful if you learn things from them in a positive way.
Yes - being alone is better than the mental torture of a bad relationship, but surely a good relationship is so much better than being alone!
I can't speak for other people. I can only speak for myself.
It took me a long time to be really 'content' with myself, and not have that horrible empty feeling that I was incomplete and could only be 'complete' if half of a team.
A man and a woman BOTH need to be complete individuals for a relationship to be healthy (and wealthy) and really work.
You are both complete people. You meet. You are not going to die if you are apart, but together two COMPLETE people become something even better than complete..... they are still two individuals (not joined at the hip) but they are really good for each other and their love is something wonderful that has absolutely no option but to grow and grow in a quietly confident way.
Maybe I'm delusional; (I'm certainly in love, but hopefully not in a silly, foolish and blind way!).