'Always let the woman think she is in charge.... maybe she is and maybe she isn't, but if you don't want your life to be Hell at least let her honestly believe she is in charge.'
He said:
'Yup'
I told him that the Mercurial One says he is a wise man!
My advice is to give up dating until you are over 50 - like me!
Dating when you are male and over 50 is far more fun and also less physically demanding.
You can appreciate women more and even talk to them, and sometimes even listen to their constant whining with a certain degree of compassion/amusement!
German women of a certain age are referred to as 'Frau' (Mrs) instead of 'Fraulein' (Miss)........... it's a professional and social term of respect for a woman who has moved up in her career and as a person who is a formidable individual and nolonger a little girlie type.
On a more serious note... I tend to read science type articles for mental stimulation and my own enjoyment. About 6-7 months ago I stumbled across an article written by a social scientist in England, who did an extensive years long study of online dating. Fascinating article! In a nutshell, his findings showed that couples can and do fall in love online, and that those couples who corresponded via computer (emails, yahoo, etc.) and via phone for at least a few months (three or more) before meeting face to face had something like a 94% success rate, compared to, I believe it was something like 7%, success rate (it was a dismal, single digit number) for those who corresponded for only a few weeks, then met. He stated that the higher success rate was because the couples spent a lot of time getting all of the minutia and such out of the way, and spent time discovering one another... ie, likes and dislikes, and so forth... so, that by the time they met they had a pretty good idea if they were going to click, or not.
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My last wife and I were friends via the internet for well over a year before we met............... she was my 'best internet friend' but I avoided any sort of romance as I was already chasing Lord knows how many women from Lord knows how many countries.
I flew out to the States to visit one of these women, but she was unable to meet me for a couple of days...... so I arranged to visit my best internet friend in the meantime.
I married my best internet friend less than three years later and never got to meet any of the women I'd been flirting with via the internet!
The future is a product of the present, to a certain degree, and I think it could be a wonderful time and place to be because I have a wonderful imagination and 'see' many strange and wonderful and even 'fun' things!
by some brain-dead moron frantically 'chewing the cud' as if the gum wars between Belize and Hondurus was about to ruin the supply of cud chewing material?
You are NOT an idiot......... I also found chemistry without meeting somebody but my logical brain told me it could not be true, but then we met and it was true - well, until a few years after we divorced I guess, but over it all now!
The Mercurial One says:
'Never marry somebody without first meeting them - this could be a marriage made in Heaven, but Heaven is all in the mind so why spoil it all by actually meeting!'
I have to agree that you can be quite 'almost certain' that things will work out, but I still profess that you cannot know you have real 'chemistry' until you can touch and feel and smell each other!
Strange that - all the Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, Indians and Sri Lankans that I have met are far harder working than the indiginous population............ and where have you got your impression from and do you have any facts to support your allegations?
Asians have a far stronger family culture than many native brits and they have high aspirations - hence the many Asian doctors and lawyers we now have in the UK.......... beibng so family orientated has both advantages and disadvantages, but the culture of most British and American people is far more based on the individual and generally-speaking far more selfish.
I have a home in Swansea, South Wales, UK - without doubt the biggest spongers there are the natives........ often illegitimate and living off the state from cradle to grave - being served their tax-payers paid Indian and Chinese take-aways by......... Asians!
(I know because I worked for a Bangladeshi take-away in a poor council estate)
Tbilisigal - you have a 'strong' profile...... I have a good friend from Georgia who now works in Abu Dhabi....... I think you Georgians are very interesting people and I think Prime Minister Putin of Russia would probably have to agree!
Hmmmm......... re. the blacks in the USA - should the Russians allow YOU the freedom you want or should they be allowed to invade Georgia whenever they feel like it and without any real protest from the EU?
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RE: Dating in Recession
I think she was a venus fly trap in another life - then maybe evolved legs!