I do understand what you are saying about opening up and really getting to know someone via the written word. I guess it comes down to trust issues with me. If I can see someone I can usually read them quite well, the different mannerisms, how they carry themselves, if they make eye contact during the conversation etc. On line, or by phone I have no way of reading a person other then their words and that scares the hell out of me, how do you gauge the sincerity behind the words. I guess I still have some serious trust issues.
I think I would go with your neighbor and confront him publicly. Something like "I understand we've been dating, would you care to enlighten me as to our time together, because I don't seem to remember any of it!"
I don't think I would be very responsive to someone who stood my up because they were online all night. If they really had an interest in me they would have been there. I might at least give them the chance to try to explain but if the reason wasn't better then I was online all night, even though I knew we were getting together, I would probably think he was a very inconsiderate person and want nothing more to do with him.
I guess that's a big difference between us, I am a communicator and love spending hours talking with a person that I'm interested in, but I also rely on reading that person to weigh their honesty or intensity of feeling. You can see a persons eyes light up when they are passionate about something, you can hear sadness in a voice when they tell a story.
I guess I'm not trusting enough to give full merit to the written word because anyone with good writing skills can portray something they may not feel. IM is a bit different because the responses are so quick a person doesn't have the time to word things just so and I think it makes it easier to read between the lines.
Physical proximity for me enhances communication, rather then distracts from it. The ability to show compassion by reaching out to touch the person, or to smile at something amusing, or looking into their eyes to show understanding. For me it takes communicating to a much higher level then just words.
I haven't noticed any bashing the past week, in fact it seems to have really quieted down... to the point of being boring? I had a really fun night, either sunday or monday but since then things have been soooo quiet...where is everyone?
I've posted about this before... The family home I grew up in had a presence, fortunately for us it was not a hostile presence but a very mischievous one, things disappearing and reappearing, doors opening and closing, not just moving but the handles actually turning, sounds of furniture being moved, but nothing moved. We named him Alfi and I honestly felt safer in the house when I was alone when I could feel his presence.
I also had a very strange experience when I lost control of my car on some black ice. Everything went into slow motion and I was viewing it from above, I don't remember taking any corrective action but was able to bring the car to a stop at the side of the road. One minute I was seeing the car, the road, and the surroundings and the next minute I was sitting behind the wheel again.
In the past 18 years all of the men I have dated have been between 6 and 12 years younger then I am. The relationships have been fantastic and lots of fun. The problem comes with younger men wanting to have a family... This has been the main reason for the end of most of my relationships. I have raised my daughter and don't want any more children. So now I'm more interested in someone closer to my age who doesn't want or has already had children.
I think online is a great way to start something, but to actually fall in love? I couldn't do it.
For starters I limit how much I expose about myself and don't want to know to much about the other person. I think by sharing too much with someone it can make it very awkward when you meet face to face... You don't actually know this person, but they know all these intimate things about you and vice versa.
I stick to talking about basic values, sharing life experiences, stories of things we've experienced, a bit of light flirting and innuendo... anything really deep or emotional will have to wait until we meet and spend some time together.
I feel incredibly lucky to have had three men in my life that I truely loved, that loved me in return. When I think of them it's always with a smile. We shared such wonderful times together and helped each other to grow and learn, and no I never forget a past love, they have such a special place in my heart. Looking for number four... greedy bi*ch aren't I?
01. After the Lone Ranger saved the day and rode off into the sunset, the grateful citizens would ask, Who was that masked man? Invariably, someone would answer, I don't know, but he left this behind. What did he leave behind?________________.
02. When the Beatles first came to the U.S. In early 1964, we all watched them on The _______________ Show.
03 'Get your kicks, __________________.'
04. 'The story you are about to see is true. The names have been changed to ___________________.'
05. 'In the jungle, the mighty jungle, ________________.'
06. After the Twist, The Mashed Potato, and the Watusi, we 'danced' under a stick that was lowered as low as we could go in a dance called the '_____________.'
07. 'N_E_S_T_L_E_S', Nestle's makes the very best . . . . . _______________.'
08. Satchmo was America 's 'Ambassador of Goodwill.' Our parents shared this great jazz trumpet player with us. His name was _________________.
09. What takes a licking and keeps on ticking? _______________.
10. Red Skelton's hobo character was named __________________ and Red always ended his television show by saying, 'Good Night, and '________ ________'.
11. Some Americans who protested the Vietnam War did so by burning their______________.
12. The cute little car with the engine in the back and the trunk in the front was called the VW . What other names did it go by ? ____________ & _______________.
13. In 1971, singer Don MacLean sang a song about, 'the day the music died. 'This was a tribute to ___________________.
14! . We can remember the first satellite placed into orbit. The Russians did it. It was called ___________________.
15. One of the big fads of the late 50's and 60's was a large plastic ring that we twirled around our waist. It was called the ________________.
ANSWERS:
01. The Lone Ranger left behind a silver bullet. 02. The Ed Sullivan Show 03. On Route 66 04. To protect the innocent. 05. The Lion Sleeps Tonight 06. The limbo 07. Chocolate 08. Louis Armstrong 09. The Timex watch 10. Freddy, The Freeloader and 'Good Night and God Bless.' 11. Draft cards (Bras were also burned. Not flags, as some have guessed) 12. Beetle or Bug 13. Buddy Holly 14. Sputnik 15. Hoola-hoop
We used to go door to door pulling our little red wagon, and usually collected enough bottles to go to the saturday afternoon matinee, I hadn't thought of that in years!
My girlfriend tried it this past summer, she quit... but felt sick and lethargic and a bit depressed while she was taking it. She started smoking again after 3 months. I just changed to rollups, I've gone from 40 a day to about 12 per day. It's not nearly as enjoyable, you have to take the time to roll it, it's not convenient driving and when you're doing stuff. I don't have enough activity in my life until I go back to work in May, but I think this is a huge step in the right direction and I plan to quit in the summer.
I wholeheartedly agree with your first paragraph, but must disagree with the second... By cherishing the child inside us it allows us to continue to look at things through new eyes, to see the possibilities, to maintain hope and to continue to play!
I'm just sad when I look at "grown ups"... unable to see the magic all around, cynical and closed off from a bit of silliness. I hope I never grow up!!!
Thank you lass!!! I have such a hard time trying to eplain to family and friends back in the states what my life is about in Ibiza... this story says it all!!!
In Spain it is illegal and 200euro fine, which I think is a good idea, get one fine and you'll wonder why you didn't just pay the 20 euros for a hands free! I believe it's the same in New York.
What do you mean... women of old? women were wearing makeup back in the time of Cleopatra, did you ever see Marilyn without her eyelashes and eyeliner, or Betty Grable without her lipstick. I think you confuse women who use makeup to enhance their features with women who use makeup as a mask and haven't been taught how to use it properly. I'm very happy with my appearance, but a little enhancement never hurts!
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Talk about a blond moment!!!!!