To Love Or Not To Love
So many times I heard people saying that they will never love again as it only brings pain but are they not doing themselves short for nothing? There is no guarantee the next affair will be the same.
Surely there must be some good memories sprouting from a sunken love affair. I mean why have the affair in the first place if it brought no happiness? If it brought no happiness then you have only yourself to blame for placing an expectation on something that was not to be. A lover is supposed to make you happy.
Love is too beautiful to be wasted but it needs not to be blind. You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.
Most aborted love affairs end in (or because of) some unpleasantness. That is life. When I think of the relationships I have been involved in, I only remember the good times. The bad times erase themselves with time. Don’t dwell on the shipwrecks of the past. Take the knock, put it behind you and get on with your life. There is no need to deprive yourself of all the joys of a future love. There is another love yet to come.
Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.
Have a wonderful day.!
Comments (78)
I do think there words say it all, the fear of giving and opening the heart.
A price to be paid for not loving, and staying safe, against the price of opening the heart to what if ? and trusting the gut, and going for it.
Hmmm.... ......
True but love is like playing lotto. You cannot win if you don't play. Hopefully love has a better chance of winning.
Maybe so but why does she try to avoid the way she does. It need not to be a final good-bye. But I'm not going to pester her if she does not want to see me again. the ball is in her court now.
You also exercising your right to remain silent?
Never mind the impressions that I have created here, I have never exploited a woman's feelings. I won't try to rekindle something we had just to get laid while away from home. I'm prepared to sacrifice time I should spend with my daughter and grandson in order to see her. I'd only be there for six days. I'm sure she knows that. If she does not invite me, I cannot force myself onto her.
I still like the men I have been involved with - 2 exceptions - and am still on at least casual friendship terms with all but the 2 exceptions.
Well, I say friendship - with one or two there's been no contact for years, but there'd be no awkwardness if we met unexpectedly at a social gathering. We'd even enjoy catching up, probably not make any follow-up arrangements to stay in touch. I've made some crashing mistakes, sure, but there was always a basic undercurrent of real liking - except for the 2 exceptions, where I let myself be talked into trouble.
Even those had their good times, and I learned a lot, and experience is cheap at any price, right?
Good decisions come from experience.
Experience comes from bad decisions.
For me Love is in loving. Not what I gained or lost in it.
I always try to reason the reasons and move on patting my back saying, "everything happens for a reason".
Experience is a bad teacher; he gives the test before the lesson.
A good philosophy that.
That's right! Everything in life, even life itself, is a gamble.
Good morning, Catfoot
Been a gold digger then?
Good morning, Mimi,
That was a good one, Catfoot. Didn’t see that one coming!!
You say you don't know how to tell if he really likes you. That is easy to answer. Look at how much he invests into the relationship. If he puts in more than what he takes out, you're on safe ground; otherwise he's in it for what he can get out of it. It's about give and take. Just guard against one doing all the giving and the other doing all the taking.
To love and they are also in love with you .
Not for material things , you know .
I must feel it deep down
The qualities , you do not have to be perfect , we could work on some things
Show that love an affection
Baby my head hurts. , a hot cup of tea or coffee sometimes , simple things
It is the little things that counts .
I do not need you to buy me a car , or take me on trips and give me money to show me you love an affection .
With my luck, when my dreamboat comes in, I'll be at the airport
The memories of the one person I've loved so deeply and for so long are way too precious to share. Those who know me and knew us together understand and need no explanation. Those who don't, won't believe me anyway. That is why I will protect and cherish those memories for the rest of my life. No stranger will ever have the joy to try and make those memories cheap with silly comments.
Perhaps, one day, if it's meant to be, someone will come along who will give meaning to the word love...
Who knows
I'm not looking around on-line either but lemme tell you a little secret. I not competitive either. A woman must like me as I am. It is not to say that I won't bend a bit to accommodate her wishes but I'm not the guy who is going to try and convince a gal that I'm the guy for her. If she cannot see that for herself, then I'm not the guy for her.
I know what you mean. Just that sincerity in a lover to make you feel wanted and worthy of her affection
It is a simple strategy without complications. The moment you try to convince somebody you need to make promises that you may not keep.
There is always another love to come but it is never the same.
You always wonder about the one that night have been.
'might have been'
Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.?
There's so much good advice on your blog and the above is the second advice from it that I particularly like.
For me , this is one of your best blogs read up to now since I signed on this site (or most of the last ones as they popped up while and when I'm online).
Star,
That is why I never tell a would be lover what I want. If the know what to do it becomes artificial.
"It becomes artificial" only in the case of another is fake or artificial and wants to play games with the wants even feelings of others.
Everyone (normal) wants to be loved and accepted for who they are. All, including emotional fraudsters do know of this, that's the starting point of all frauds.
I think I will write down on a piece of paper all good advice given in your blog to remember this.
Thank you for the good advice in it, take care
What might have been or could have been never happened and therefor was not meant to be. The future is ahead, not behind.
Thank you for the compliment. And why worry to write it down. We are in the age of Copy & Paste.
Love is a wonderful thing...only with the right compatible person though....otherwise, it can turn dark and quick.
Yes, it must be reciprocated love otherwise it is of no use. Were not talking about falling in and out of love here. This is about the real love that should be in place after the honeymoon is over. When that hormone-driven physical attraction has died.
I'm not so sure if on-line dating sites make it any easier. Methinks it only increase the opportunities. What we do with it is up to the individual.
We are in the age of Copy & Paste
Unfortunately or fortunately, I haven't reached the age of "copy paste" yet.
Too young then? I did not know it had an age restriction.
It is very easy to do, I'm sure you can master it.