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if I agree to chat with a guy say skype or email, is that the green light to talk dirty? I'm new and I'm trying to figure this all out...

First impressions are never wrong, or so some people believe. I’m inclined to disagree, because we seldom get the opportunity to test our fist impressions and very often we confuse something else with first impressions.

It takes about one tenth of a second to form a first impression and it is formed when we lay eyes on a stranger for the first time. It is based on visual appearance only and is a simple like or a dislike. When you instantly dislike the person, it is because your brain associates his looks with something or somebody that you already dislike. The same applies to those that you take an immediate liking to.

More than often, the stranger will walk on and you may never see him again. Those first impressions based on a fleeting moment of sight will remain untested forever unless if you happen to meet again.

When you have the chance to observe a stranger for a while, your first impressions are vastly expanded and overridden with a new set of data. You will be able to process some of his properties like age, race, culture, language, gender, personality, facial expressions, body language, accent, posture, and voice (amongst others) to form a much more accurate image of the person.

But this is no longer first impressions. You had ample time to sum him up while observing his mannerism and interaction with other people. It is a calculated assessment of the person. The accuracy of such an assessment depends on the time you had to observe him and your ability to judge people, but it can be clouded by your instant like or dislike of the person, as formed when you first saw him.

Keep your mind open. Don’t allow first impressions, formed in a tenth of a second, to obscure the virtues and the flaws of a stranger. He may be completely different from what you first perceived.


Have a marvelous day.

I was reading the Popular Science magazine, December 2014 issue, and with a jaw dropping bold letters reads like this:



COULD DRUGS HEAL A BROKEN HEART?



The author Jessica Hullinger documented a research by an Australian psychologist at the University of Sydney Adam Guastella, that when she administered OXYTOCIN, to a quarelling lovers during their therapy, their hostility seemed to die down. And with this result, this medicine, a love "OFF BUTTON" can possibly heal a broken heart, she says.



There is a down side to this wonder discovery as argued by Brian Earp, an Oxford University neuroethicist, and published it against this "ANTI LOVE BIOTECHNOLOGY" (He claims that since it will be developed, we should start discussing about ethical issues now that would guide its usage and supported that it should be voluntary, concomitant to therapy and must be monitored for possible misuse. He did emphasize the fact that today there is an extensive attempt to harness BIOMEDICINE, primarily to diminish SAME SEX SEXUALITY.)



In line with this argument, Neil McArthur, a philosophy professor at the University of Manitoba, Winnipeg Canada, pointed out that this drug "might make sense specially for the cases of pedophilia or abuse where people are behaving in a way that is potentially destructive."



Another argument against it was explicitly explained by Vineeth John, a psychiatrist at the University of Texas Health Science Center, and said: "Love is revered like religion and for many it's the primary reason for survival, until therapy is practiable, ANTI LOVE DRUGS, would not only dampen affection but snuff out feelings for friends and family. To fully relieve heartache then scientists may have first to discern how to relieve us of our capacity to love."



In my simple analysis, we are coming to the discovery that love will now be cured like a headache? Should you want to stop loving that person, all you have to do is to keep taking this medicine. Question is, how much will it cost? And for how long should we take it?



Hmmnn, what a world we are getting into.



Then again, perhaps there will no longer be sorrows, pain, hurt associated to love?



We stand to lose our emotional gifts and passionate dispositions replaced by robotic manipulations. Hello Spock.



Thanks all for your reads and comments.

How difficult is it to change?

I mean from a point of view of bettering our life?

Not only to us and our immediate family, friends, it for the whole world?

Can we at least try?

Thanks all for your opinions and participation.

"The face is your passport. When you refuse me to see you, I am a victim." — Jacques Myard, a former conservative MP who supported the ban in France."

Really?

Well 8 countries in Europe ban it.

Christine Balsey Ford ex-boyfriend says she helped friend prep for potential polygraph; Grassley sounds alarm

In a written declaration released Tuesday and obtained by Fox News, an ex-boyfriend of Christine Blasey Ford, the California professor accusing Brett Kavanaugh of s*xual assault, directly contradicts her testimony under oath last week that she had never helped anyone prepare for a polygraph examination.

The former boyfriend, whose name was redacted in the declaration, also said Ford neither mentioned Kavanaugh nor mentioned she was a victim of s*xual misconduct during the time they were dating from about 1992 to 1998. He said he saw Ford going to great lengths to help a woman he believed was her "life-long best friend" prepare for a potential polygraph test. He added that the woman, Monica McLean, had been interviewing for jobs with the FBI and U.S. Attorney's office.


He further claimed that Ford never voiced any fear of flying (even while aboard a propeller plane) and seemingly had no problem living in a "very small," 500 sq. ft. apartment with one door -- apparently contradicting her claims that she could not testify promptly in D.C. because she felt uncomfortable traveling on planes, as well as her suggestion that her memories of Kavanuagh's alleged assault prompted her to feel unsafe living in a closed space or one without a second front door.

Ford "never expressed a fear of closed quarters, tight spaces, or places with only one exit," the former boyfriend wrote.


However, on Thursday, Ford testified, "I was hoping to avoid getting on an airplane. But I eventually was able to get up the gumption with the help of some friends and get on the plane." She also acknowledged regularly -- and, in her words, "unfortunately" -- traveling on planes for work and hobbies.

And Ford explicitly told Sen. Dianne Feinstein, D-Calif., on Thursday that she had a second front door installed in her home because of "anxiety, phobia and PTSD-like symptoms" that she purportedly suffered in the wake of Kavanaugh's alleged attack at a house party in the 1980s -- "more especially, claustrophobia, panic and that type of thing."

In a pointed, no-holds-barred letter Tuesday evening that referenced the ex-boyfriend's declaration, Senate Judiciary Committee Chairman Chuck Grassley demanded that attorneys for Ford turn over her therapist notes and other key materials, and suggested she was intentionally less than truthful about her experience with polygraph examinations during Thursday's dramatic Senate hearing.

"Your continued withholding of material evidence despite multiple requests is unacceptable as the Senate exercises its constitutional responsibility of advice and consent for a judicial nomination," Grassley, R-Iowa, wrote.

Under questioning from experienced sex-crimes prosecutor Rachel Mitchell last week, Ford said that she had "never" had "any discussions with anyone ... on how to take a polygraph" or "given any tips or advice to anyone who was looking to take a polygraph test." She repeatedly said the process of taking her own polygraph in August was stressful and uncomfortable, although she testified she could not remember if she took the test on the same day as her grandmother's funeral, or the next day.

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Eishh! Another English idiom that leaves me perplexed. Perplexed… what a beautiful word. So… so... eh... exotic and unlike some of the words I sometimes have to listen to. I must use it more often. I hope it does not have any other hidden meanings.

But back to the expression; yes, I know the meaning of it. It is used to describe a hypocrite – a person who is guilty of the very things of which they accuse others of, which is something else we see a lot.

Then what is it that leaves me so baffled mystified perplexed? There! I just used it again.

It is the pot dear, the pot. Just who is this conceited pot to call the kettle black? We all know a pot as something that belongs in the kitchen, but it could be many other things ranging from a jar to shooting a snooker ball into a pocket. It is even an accepted term for a potentiometer. But none of them seems to apply here.

Pot also has a less noble meaning. As a verb, it could refer to heavy drinking. And also, when people smoke that funny green stuff (monkey weed), they are said to be smoking pot. Both these actions are known to make people believe that they are worth more than what they really are. Could it have been a smoking pot that called the kettle black?

And then you get the chamber pot. They are normally nice and white on the outside, kept out of sight, and neatly tucked under the bed. It is because of what comes out when you spill it, why it is not kosher. Could this have been the pot in question?

Oh, I love these idioms when one tries to find their roots.

Eishh, then I still wanted to talk about hate speech and a few other things, but I fear the time is up.

I declare that this piece of verbal diarrhea was sucked out my thumb, and as such, entirely fictional. Any resemblance to any instance or person, dead or alive, is a pure coincidence, engineered by fate alone.


Greetings from a wet and cold Capetown.

Anno ne, saki no blog zenzen wakaranakatta desu ne! Dou you imi ka naa.
Tokidoki henna blogs ga arimasu ne. Boku no iken dewa, blog no kotoban, zetai eigo no hou ga ii da to omoimasu.
Jyaa, comment o kudasai. Saki no blog dewa, comment mo dekinai ne!!

Jyaa, douzo...comment o kaite kudasai

( Nihonjin no bloggers ni - honto gomennasai..nihongo hetakusou desu!



Please feel free to comment on this one...preferably in English or any language you choose.

People apologize for only two reasons; firstly because they were wrong and are truly sorry or secondly because they are under pressure to do so. I don’t care much for the latter and I won’t include those timid souls who are forever apologizing about everything to save the peace; whether they are right or wrong. That’s not apologizing; it is grovelling.

Now don't take offense as I'm not saying anything. This is all hypothetical. Besides, if you do it will only reveal what you think of yourself.

Let’s imagine a hypothetical situation during a small altercation on the blogs where I called another blogger the biggest arsehole I have ever come across. Allegations like that don’t just slip out; such an opinion of him was build from previous thoughts and it takes a lot of frustration to force it into the open.

If he then runs to management and I’m given the options to apologize or face suspension – a fairytale in itself – I’d apologize but it will not mean a thing. Nothing has changed. I’d still think that he’s an arsehole and I’ll probably apologize by conceding that he’s not the biggest arsehole that I have stumbled across and that I’m sorry for calling him that. Regardless, he will just become an even bigger arsehole in my opinion. Apparently we are allowed to have opinions… as long as we keep them to ourselves.

On the other hand, if later I should discover that my opinion of the guy was wrong and that he’s not such a big arsehole at all, then I have done him wrong and I should and would apologize in a most sincere way. I was wrong about him and I will tell him so.

Maybe we can look at another hypothetical scenario; let’s assume that I’m told to apologize or face suspension – more wishful thinking – after expressing the opinion that half the members at CS are arseholes, I believe that I’ll gladly (and honestly) concede that half the members at CS are not arseholes.

I wish you all a great day.

Ah, I see you’re back. Reincarnated again. Wow, you have more lives than a cat. And it’s been for some time. I did not pick it up earlier because I have been so inactive during the past year. How many profiles are you running at the present? I’d be looking out for them with a hawks eye.

Oh, by the way, your profile sucks. It looks like the work of two people. Laurel and Hardy will fit the bill. You should try to contract the three stooges as well. Five heads are better than one. Mind you, five and a half heads, if you count yourself in.

You should really post your pic again. I’m sure the Mods have forgiven you by now. Then you can rally your old comrades (most are gone or in hiding like you) and turn the blogs on it’s head again.

Hiding behind the old generic profile pic does not really help. We all have a unique style of writing and that is always a give-away. Besides, our blogs, forum posts and comments always have the same undertone; sometimes very subtle, but always there. A quick browse through the available material and presto! The some old nagging posts stuck out like a sore thumb, not to mention the tainted comments, forever niggling and stirring shit.

What is the matter with you? I tried to bait you the other day but you did not catch on. You must have recognized yourself in that comment. Are you getting old?

I know it is a bit overdue, but welcome back! I missed you.

But let bygones be bygones. This is a nice place, large enough for both of us. Besides, I enjoyed our fights. It is a pity that I’ll be leaving again soon. No time now for a decent fight, but we can take it up again when I return. En Garde!

Mat all of you enjoy this beautiful day. Yea, you too!