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Hello Alexquitar just wanted to say firstly us women have the exact same let downs, give all, dont lie and when you are a genuine person with so much love to give it comes naturally and you think thats all there is to it. Reading between the lines here it seems to me that what you are not doing, and I need to take this advice myself, is protecting yourself, do not give all of yourself too quickly to someone you may not know, allow yourself the time to find out if they are the right one for you not the other way around.
Its really not that no woman gets it, its about some people not getting it, and as we can not tell until we really know someone we should not in the first instance give everything to someone we cannot possible know will appreciate it: in time yes, when you know they deserve it.

Weve all made this mistake, myself recently too, and now hes with someone who lies and cheats to him, what he gave out came back to him - and your gentlemanlyness will come back to you with the right person.

Just dont rush in.

All the ideas sound great.
Although I suppose when you meet a really interesting person,
you can have the most exciting date in a burger bar. (a veggie for me).

Serious question to green tea: Does it stain my teeth???

i'm 19 and i feel uncomfortable about my weight if i was in a relationship i might be thinking ''he deserves so mch betr'
i know its personality that counts thats what i go for in a man :)now i feel i'll nevr find any1 until i go sort my weight out

Not only different meanings, but often the words are pronounced differently. But it is is not unique to English - it is, if anything, even more pronounced in French.

There is no evidence that anti-oxidants have the health benefits that you claim. See "Bad Science" by Ben Goldacre, Chapter 6, "Nonsense Du Jour".

Goldacre also pours ridicule on all other quack nutritionists, as they so richly deserve.

And so what if the Chinese have used something for thousands of years. Western medicine used bloodletting and purgatives for thousands of years - and they were useless, if not actually harmful. Twaddle is twaddle, regardless of its longevity.

Thanks for the article.
considering the numerous brands selling green tea, do they all steam it? I can visualize some who may not do so just for the sake of saving money in the process.

yes english likes to confuse people,by having 2 meanings for 1 word.liked your post....

i was just reading that gentleman's comment saying a lady had her self down as never married but she was actually divorced. there could be a good reason that the lady said that. in the eyes of the law she is single. every country has different rules. in my country if you get a high court annulment the marriage is completely scraped from the records. its as though it never took place. and i no because i went through it so what do i put myself down as single, divorced, in the eyes of the law its single,

Hey Tiny, thanks for reading

beautifully and fantastically said moonlady

I shall simply say it in a shortened version,

YOU have NO power to change anyone, but you sure

In hell can CHANGE your ATTITUDE about them!

Hi Amanda
Love is not a luxury...
It a basic necesity for a fulfilled life!!!
This does not mean romance but acceptance and the need to feel wanted
You are a Gemini and when a Gemini starts feeling down you know there has been a lot of hurt.
I am going to waste a couple of words here because you will already know......Keep Smiling Girl!!!
An unhappy person is never attractive...
Warm Regards

Very nice writing !!! i like it
gr patrick

spoil you like a princess, teach and protect you like lady, love you like a woman

Everything depends on you, on how confortable you feel confidence is a fact of matter,
(I always prefer some thing extra).

I have a sister, whom I love dearly, but she is way too obsessed by the "ugliness of a fat person" and she has made several terrible comments about me and my beautiful daughter. I don't care what she or anyone else may say. I just love people (period) and I love my daughter no matter how they "look" to others. And, last of all, you will never have to justify yourself around me because I certainly don't like it when I am judged.

Wow! This is great and it defines me to the max!!!!

If I may I want to add this: Last weekend I went to a church event and at ll:45 I started to serve myself a plate of food from this huge table of goodies. This person comes up to me and sez, "You can't start to eat until 12 noon"! I busted up laughing. Who in tarnation still has rules like this? Whoops! I forgot. I am an "aloner" and I do not have rules like this but obviously the committee that put the food thing together still does. Mea culpa!

I'm glad I am an "aloner". Whew! This made me hungry. I think I'll have a bite to eat or maybe two!

Hi Alex, i agree with you my friend. Romantic love as we know it just doesn't exist anymore. Certainly not in the way we believe it to be. I'm a very romantic person but it doesn't seem to mean anything to women anymore. They seem to be more interested in the contents of my wallet and what car i drive. My heart has been broken twice after i gave everything 110%. An older friend once said to me "love them yes but keep 20% back for yourself ". At the time i didn't believe him but i think he was right, unfortunately. I think a lot of girls now get treated so badly that they think its normal. They meet a lovely man, don't think they deserve to be treated nice and so go back after the bad guys again. Its usually the good looking guys that are the culprit. They are mainly players and cheaters and liars who spoil it for us decent guys. I'd love to meet a woman who feels like i do about love. I'm slowly losing faith that i will. We live in hope that there is a soul mate out there for us. I hope she finds me.

Whoever does the askn should be payin, I'm from the old schools tho where the gentlemen pay but that doesn't mean I'm gona take it for granted that he is, I always have money in my pockets to save embarassment.

ooops they kicked me out, i don't know why. But I'm back in

Thanks for sharing. Yes, lots of scamming. Wayn.com started a dating site and was inundated with nothing but scammers, even more than this site. I started adding a new line to my profile: "Please use the word ________in the title of your reply." Well, so far, no one has, meaning they are all scammers.
A popular one for "male" scammers says they are widows with a son, and a master's degree in engineering. We just have to be aware, like you said.
If anyone has other tips, I hope they post them.

okay, let me try this

spoil you like a baby, teach and protect you like a girl, love you like a woman

Hello Amanda
It would nice to add what will you do for your "Romeo" so something that I like it very much and I wish to say it to that special one in my life is:

"And I will protect you from sadness"

By the way I wish I could read and write 1/100 your language the way you do English, my admiration to you all. I have met wonderful Chinese people and also from India!

Amanda and Yang you are such strong ladies and yes never let anyone to try to let you down, as the Gent from India wanted to do. Good and bad things are from every where.
Take care ladies and gents!

nice article; let's just say that although being alone is a totally different situation than being with someone, they can be equally good (or equally bad)

i agree with passionate 41 that some of is do get lonely and yern for someone to relate to on an intimate level thats why so many of us use these sites ,in the hope for some company as i have done,maybe its just the type of personality you are but life does seem better with a partner to share it with

Hi Alex, well you really know what it takes from two people to make a relationship work..... and you sound like someone who has so much love to give.
Don't ever give up.... true love certainly does exist.. though it may not seem that way now... There are so many women who are looking for someone with your attitude and sincerity... just relax, don't try too hard, as the harder you look, the longer it seems to take. Put yourself out there in the right places, and I'm sure someone special will turn up when you least expect it!!! You certainly deserve it.

Best of luck!

Oh my gosh life is much simpler if we just stopped playin and just be straight up n say what we want

Ah Huh, some guys love to just grab dat nice chunky a** n give it a squeeze. Gota get away from da media brain wash.

Seriously true, that was freakn funny to read good on ya.

i have been single for 20 years...i like it...i am never lonely...i do not like sleeping with a man because they hog the whole bed...and waking up with a man means having to get up and get dressed when what you want to do is hang out and sip your coffee alone...maybe i'm different...if want to be with a man i can whenever i want..

thanks lammy for the article. I want just to inform you I as middle age guy who is also belong to a middle class of our country, and I am well connected with many people like myuself, we announce that we are tired of religion. I mean all sort of them ..even spritual type which is very modern quite cool. You can imagine how much they put pressure upon us to reach us this point. Of course in normal condition our people might little change and again would inetersted to some sort or spritual style but not definetly any type of religion which you should be control by special group or to be checked whether you are obeying !!! entirley the rules...Oh mate we are tired out ..We need freedom and we need it nowwwwwwwww.....

Cheers