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There was a good reason for moving in together – your love for each other. Don’t let living together smother the joy of being together.


I had that experience .

All of you out there that are almost on that step of your relationship, remember to keep that romance alive.


DOING THINGS TOGETHER THAT IS THE KEY !

I totally agree with you.
Love is not a one way street but there is always one that gives more than the other.
There has to be some kind of balance to really make a relationship work because it won't be fair then.
That's why communication is so important from the begining and see the expectations from one another, don't dig to deep into your next relationship, be patient, be friends get to know each other more.
See if that is the right person for you as it will be for her.
Not many men believe in love like you do and want to expose themselves as you do.
Good luck!

Thx for posting this blog...it's good for the girl

I'm tired of these supposed studies that are simply geared to make women feel better. Its all bullshit.
1) men want attractive women
2) men want younger women...dont believe me..go through 10 guys profiles and 9 out of 10 will be looking for younger women
3) men do like curves BUT not fat. fat women are NOT curvy they are fat. the average waist size of an american woman is now 16...which is fat. Women here just keep getting fatter, its gross.
4) the money thing is prob true.
5) the first date fact is prob BS
Sorry im not trying to be a d*ck but stop hiding the truth.

I had a border collie and I believe how smart they re-ranked #1 breed for intelligence-he was a great dog and I'm hoping to get another one

dreamdiva has it right,
id insist on paying my way or more, and if he refused, id find something else to pay for, so he knows im not looking for a meal ticket type of guy,x

Well, I think what is said is damn true..well said, when its over, its over, let go, its gone, its dead, at least you have the memory, just have the pride now too. do those horrid things, you have nothing! just someone you loved actually ashamed they ever knew you..so get up, sit up, stand tall, and have some pride..good one, love it x

I have never met someone like yourself who feels the way that you do about love. I would always be the one to give more than 100% and get less than 25% in return. It has either been bad choices or slim pickins.

Anything I could dream of doing would be stomped on in an effort to stop me from fulfilling what I wanted to do. I am intelligent, friendly, and still willing to give love a chance if it comes along again.

I can relate very well to what you are saying.

dude get life or a woman or both

Very realistic sketch writting about aloners, maybe they can see themselves through that window.
There are alot of men out there that are aloners and when they find their partner after some time they want to keep living that aloner life.They think their partner is just a piece of furniture and they look at it when it seems right for them.
People need their space sometimes but not feel alone being with someone.
I've been alone sometimes in my life and its good because you can do things on your own and feel single again.
Whoever wants to be aloner it's their choice but for me life is worth sharing with someone and when I'm ready to find that person again it will be.

When my two sons were grown and on their own I thought that would be it. I started college and after 5 yrs. my oldest son's ex girlfriend had their baby. Neither needed a baby, and I was concerned about her future.

The mother was a meth and crack addict so I am sure you know where this is going. Yes, the baby girl was born and addict. The mother lost custody of her in the hospital leaving custody to my son who could barely take care of himself. Me and my ex husband helped all we could along the way.

When she was 18 months old my son called me asking me to take her as he was being evicted, had no job, no money, and no food to feed her. He disappeared, so after a month I petitioned for custody.
Grandparents in the state of TN has no rights, but with what a good attorney and what I was armed with, plus a good recommendation from a Children's Services investigator for the court I won custody.

It has been two years now since we have been together. I had to leave college due to her constant illnesses as a result of the damage done to her immune system. I was a Sociology major so her situation is something I was not unware of.

The drugs have as the pediatricians put it "messed up her brain's development." She has hyperactive sleep disorder meaning that she acts like she is on high adrenaline and cannot fall asleep, stay asleep and has nightmares. She has anger outbursts and many other problems will follow by the time she is school age. At 3 and a half, I have already experienced the behavioral problems. Aside from that, she is beautiful, loving, with a winning smile and a laugh to match. She calls me Momma or Mommy. She does not know her mother and her mother never writes about her. Her mother is in prison for meth related charges and her father, my son hasn't seen her in quite some time.

One might think that an abortion would have been best for her, but seeing her tells you that inspite of the future she faces she is a blessing. She may suffer with ADD, ADHD, or Bipolar Disorder which runs in the family. I have Bipolar l Disorder and with medication it is being managed. Through my experience with that, I will be able to understand her where no one else can. I have armed myself with information about children like her to better prepare myself to handle come what may.

Inspite of her developmental problems she has come a long way and yet is very intelligent. She loves books and wants to learn how to read. She says she is ready to go to preschool and ride the yellow bus, but until she is completely potty trained she will not be accepted.

She may have a rough road ahead of her, but she will always have me there to see her through it. As I learned, without intervention she would have little or no chance for a future.

Another authority!!

Women aren't funny. They can be humorous and witty and tremendously intelligent, but they aren't funny. Even the women you know who are truly funny are kind of manish... Look at your list.

Dads say and do things Moms will never get away with. That is just the nature of the beast.

And who broke the code that a "woman with a good sense of humor" means the guy wants an appreciative audience.

I never thought of 1984 as SF.

Also wondering why there is no Verne or Wells? BTW Wells wrote of martian invasions some 62 years before Heinlein.

Even horror writer H. P. Lovecraft contributed greatly to the genre with his science fiction stories.

It's great now I have got used to it, have it all,downside I have got selfish.......................not a great trait is it.? but wat da hell im gud, mmmeeeeeeeeeeee time:)

Love the journaling, been doing it for years and it is the greatet healing tool.

Thought I was in love, thought I had a broken heart, until I journaled and realized it was more of an attraction, then a love.

Saw him today and had no feelings for him , except relief. Relief that I realized what a idiot he was and did not follow my feelings, but the truth.

Self realization, is very liberating.

Prayer heals the hurt, for when I was hurting, I had someome to talk too, that made me realize the truth of my heart .

Ending a relationship knowing you are still in love with that person can be very hard, sometimes our emotions grab us and we can't keep our unhappiness under our skin until you need to bring it up to the surface.
But love has to be both ways in a couple and being able to perceive it mutually.When you lack of this it's over, no reason to be together because of children, security or the simple fact of being alone again.
It takes courage to accept the reality and move on.
Breaking up is definetly a painful experience, but it’s not an empty pain, it’s a pain that promises something better , but when it finally stops I think it will be left with something beautiful.

Ending a relationship knowing you are still in love with that person can be very hard, sometimes our emotions grab us and we can't keep our unhappiness under our skin until you need to bring it up to the surface.
But love has to be both ways in a couple and being able to perceive it mutually.When you lack of this it's over, no reason to be together because of children, security or the simple fact of being alone again.
It takes courage to accept the reality and move on.
Breaking up is definetly a painful experience, but it’s not an empty pain, it’s a pain that promises something better , but when it finally stops I think it will be left with something beautiful.

Yes..that is TOTALLY TRUE..stop whining about your weight..control is and be happy..there ARE men out there that will love you for YOU..just be happy..if you do not love yourself.NO ONE else will..men like women who are comfortable with themselves..just buck up and learn to love yourself.

Do not worry..you will meet someone who loves you just for you and now your weight..you will see..

Is it my imagination, or is there something about the rules of the dating game that places men and women in an antagonistic relationship right on square one? If love is war, how is that supposed to turn into 50 years of trust and teamwork? Men and women blame and bash one another over this, but both are victims of a dysfunctional social custom. Question: How to take the game out of dating?

That's the very basic, but a good starting point!
Try to keep control above your abdominals, and try to flex them through the day, whatever u do. in the car, during shopping etc.
and the workout...but thats another story:)

I PREFER FLUFFY GALS MYSELF. MORE 2 LOVE. I THOUGHT IT WAS SUPPOSED 2 B WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE MORE THAN THE OUT ANYWAY. GIVE ME A FLUFFY GAL OVER A BONEY @#$CH ANY DAY................

BEAUTIFUL!!

it is all so true

I believe as time goes history will be fair to President George W Bush, he did his best with his limited world view before he became President and carelessness of the son of a former President, but the guilty will be the Republican dominated Supreme court that confirmed his election instead of allowing recount in Florida State, those nine men contributed to the begining of the Mess that ill prepared Bush had in his presidency.But President Bush will never make the list of 10 worst Presidents neither will he make the best just a careless president with good intention.

i think you mean 12 worst presidents lets not forget to the bushes they trade gun for drug with the bin ladin and the attack on america

we all like bunnies thay are cute but thay are for life not just easter lolo

We should always "judge" people on what they are, not what they look like.

I was in my kitchen when I first heard her on my Tv.

and I've seen a beautiful and talented person singing.

great advice wayne

Curvy, huggabley soft, cushion for the pushing, more to love....it all is in how you carry and perceive yourself. I am plus size, but I have been working on my weight issue and keep at it day after day, don't give up and don't punish yourself for not doing perfect everyday. You have to get comfortable in your own skin and learn to love it. I see "big girls" all the time and some are smaller than me, but even I look at them and can she is attractive or she is ugly. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, chubby, skinny, tan, white, doesn't matter. You have to know you are of value and don't accept what ever a man throws your way, you deserve the best!

Love the article! I am so enjoying being an aloner! Love it!

I have to admit there are some pretty good points, but for the not grooming and wearing smelly clothes to be.

I can watch what I want, I like some horror movies, reading, not having to hear, "What are you fixing for supper?" I don't have to wash clothes late at night because someone else needs jeans and by chance forgot to mention it. Even with a 3 yr. old it is less work and aggravation at times.

Sure there are times it would be nice to have someone, but let them have their own place.

A word to the wise would be to "Think way outside the box." Men may deny these things, just as a woman may do the same.

Well I have a little bit of a grace period before I reach 50, but most people at that stage has grown kids and a life of their own to share.

I am an exception. I stood on the grounds of principle and petitioned for custody of my 3 yr. granddaughter. I had to think of what would be best for her future before my own in doing so. It has been two years since then and how many men want to be around a child at that age?? Maybe even fewer in younger men. I have 15 years until she will be old enough to go to college. I am not looking for a someone to be her Dad, just care for her as much as she would care for them.

So although I have no regrets, I have to wonder how long it may take to find that person who thinks outside the box.

To get a control freak to obtain help would be like trying to make them take a long walk off a short pier. I did not have that once, but in two marriages. You really do not see the signs until it is too late and you hear those chilling words, "You are mine legally and morally and I can do what I want with you." I was told this on both of my wedding nights.

It took time to go from being docile to fighting back. I still have the battle scars from the first one. That marriaged ended in "87." The second time around I was followed again, checked on and accused of dressing "trashy" for college. Who called you this time on your cell phone? I finally told him I was dressing with a low top and jacket to impress my Social Psychology professor because I had an exam that day and wanted to get a good grade. LMAO. I did not think his mouth could drop open that far.

When I filed for divorce he never knew it until he was served with the papers. Even then he tried to use the house that me and my mother paid on as a reason to stop the divorce if I tried to keep it. Keep it hell! I wanted out of there and away from the memories. A year later he lost it anyway and I am still living where I have been since our divorce.

I do not want to remarry because of the fear of confinement.

This article is great!! I married a control freak, made two little girls with her and am now in the middle of a divorce-custody case. It's so sad for our girls, they're innocent!! Insecurity brings the control on with no doubts. Why us guys always have fingers pointed at us like only guys are controllers is beyond me. Reread this article guys and memorize the signs. It just might save you a lot of grief in the future. You guys and gals that are controllers keep in mind, there's a good person inside you try'n to get out. Seek professional help. You'll be amazed what you'll find!!

WOW, me too, I agree with Broncos...and do not want to go into details!

exactly the one i got.thanks for the information.

OOOH! im nearly there..Hey, perhaps if I age less a year each birthday from now, I will be fine, what do you think lol..any other ideas ?, have any of you had any luck ?