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Oh and one more thing for all you Irish women...stop wearing so much makeup!really just stop it,i seen one women on a sunny day with tons of makeup on and i thought i seen her face melt and move.Why so much makeup?no guy likes tasting makeup.

All so i would like to point out,in your profile pinkfluff,you have this in your What im looking for section of your profile..."He has to be funny and be able to make me laff, He has to be funny and be able to make me laff,"and you have no photo...i can tell one of two things from this either your ugly and cant spell or your very attractive and expect to get by on good looks alone.Dont mean to insult you but we call women like you Bimbos or wanna be`s if you want to be blunt about it.My point is women in Ireland not only have high standards but they are not very bright neither.

Sure enough dont drop your standards but women in Ireland have the highest standards in Europe...i find myself dating more foreign then Irish.I know i am worth more than my weight in gold,great personality traits and ambition ect...but it seems i cant get a date with my own Irish women because i dont have a job(yes,Irish women are like that)in the middle of a recession and on top of that Ireland now has a population of over 4.5 million.While there is some woman from another part of Europe or elsewhere in the world taking the time to appreciate and support me as a person.I will end up going to a bar at some point with my date and i keep seeing groups of Irish women with no guys Dating them and i have no pity for them.I would love to get with my own fellow Irish women but it seems ye just dont see the big picture...

I am a believer..I have had some expereinces myself..the bible say's The Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit..guess it is up to the individual on what to believe..I do know that I saw something that I have not seen before nor since..but really hate it when someone laughs or calls you crazy for saying something about it just because they don't believe...let's pray they never have to find out.

On the other hand I give big credit to women like Jaquiline Kennedy, Hillary Clinton who suffered but forgiven their men, who were cheats, for the sake of the men's reputation and their country's reputation. There are more renown women around the world of the same fate.

I am relly sorry for women who are in situations like that. They are dependent from a man, they cannot ( or have no courage) to start something on their own. To me this is a legitimate slavery. He knows he uses her and she cannot move.

Does real love exist?
Whatever you believe – you are exactly right!

Yes, I do believe that real love exist because real love exist in my heart. As Jadire quoted “Love is patient, love is kind, does not envy, does not boast. It is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres, love endures and Love never fails. I have experienced true love twice and I know how beautiful it is to love and to be loved. God took the first one after three years and the second got involved with another woman while on his overseas business post. For peace in my heart and to be fair on him – we agreed to end the marriage. I believe grudges and anger are poison to my body and I don’t want any of it, so I have to let go with all my heart. We are human to make mistakes so I have forgiven him and given him my blessings to be happy.

The experienced of being cheated was painful but it will not stop me from loving if I fall in love again. I believe that true love exists and that what is for me and who is for me will never pass me by. The right person will come. I will never know from where but will come on the right time.

All I can say is that it is hard to find true love when you are in a rush. Be patient. Take time to get to know someone either from CS or from somewhere. Know if you have the same values. Know if things that are important to you are also important to him/her. There are things in our life we can let go but there are also values that we hold on dearly with no compromise. Good communication is very important. Treat everyone with care and respect. Yes, there will be someone out there that will take advantage of your kindness – evaluate the relationship from acquaintance if it’s worth taking to friendship level. From here you will know if it is worth pursuing to the next level not just from your point of view and what you feel but from the other persons feelings as well. Relationships can happen sometimes in an instant with the right person but mostly it does happen when you are not looking for it. Enjoy life and enjoy the experience. All the best to you all..

How do I find the one… and when? Some good points in this article.

I believe that finding “the one” will depend on how ready we are emotionally to be in relationship. There are people who just come out of relationship and right away jumps into another relationship. Most of these relationships are temporary and short-live and can make us feel more emotionally battered instead of healing the old wound and feeling better. There are some exceptions that relationships had happy ending but mostly this only exist in fiction books.

Who we are as a person does not depend on other people not even our parents but how we are from inside. No matter what our beginning, we know that when we grow up we have a choice of the life we want to live. We are responsible to ourselves and what we make out of our life. Yes, there are circumstances beyond our control but we still have the choice to learn from the lessons of that experience and move on.

Before finding that special someone, one must be ready to be in position to care and love unconditionally. First you need to search yourself if you love yourself. Have you taken good care of yourself? Have you addressed your physical and emotional problems? Are you happy with yourself? Or are you looking for someone to solve and fix your problem?

When you are a happy person with positive outlook, relationships can happen even when you are not looking for it. Sometimes it can take a while to find the right chemistry and the person that you can really have a good communication and be comfortable with. It can take time to find the person that is up to your standards – whatever that standards maybe. When you are happy with yourself, you are not desperate and not in a rush – so it doesn’t matter how long it would take. You take things slowly because you know who you are and what you want. You know what you are capable to give and what you deserve. When you are happy and have positive attitude you are confident of yourself.

The dating sites are only one of the hundred possibilities where you might find the special someone you are looking for. We know that there are honest and those that are looking for their prey in every dating sites. We are not really sure if the profiles we read are true and the pictures we’re looking at is the real person. The person you are looking for could just be the guy next door or the person you are yet to meet in the conference you are going to attend. But while you are here enjoy the experience of online dating. Get to know people slowly and let the relationship evolve naturally. As for me here, I’m enjoying the process of getting to know people. If I find real people and it leads to friendship – then it’s a bonus. I just want to share my thoughts. I wish you all the very best.

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Yes ladies who are larger do attract some men. I am like an Australian size 8 and skinny, and my ex cheated on me with a much larger women. so that proves it. Although she was a tramp as she slept around and was easy she managed to attract men and a lot of men.

So ladies out there who have full figures don't feel bad about yourself. There are men out there for you.

This a great article and so true. I was married to a so called bad Guy for many years. I will be very careful the next time I choose someone.

The thing is that opposite sides attract and the good kind men will be attracted to the Bad ladies. So in the end no one will be happy for very long.

You see the cheaters should all be together the males and females but they choose the ones they can walk over. I met a man who was complaining about his ex- wife and my ex had the same ways. I think that both our partners should have been together.

i believe in ghosts , i have seen them. they did me no harm.just passed by.

there is more beauty other than what the eyes see,i judge my women as wonen not just by size or beauty or ethnicity.

You're right. I myself experienced this,twice because I trust them and I learnt so much from that. Good men are now difficult to found and I should do my very best to find him. Thank you so much. This article is very informative.

You are right we all woman have to learn from this .
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Thanks for the tips i will my friend then

I have a trouble with weight when i was in high school but all my friends and family has support me and iam doing extra exercise to lose my weight. So For me just be yourself and happy no matter what you are

Some of us men enjoy being chased as well.

If someone is so shallow that they judge people by size and looks
they are the ones who are going to miss out. Why risk losing the oppertunity to be with that special person. Ignorance goes a long ways, the wrong way.

Truthful article

Ahh but some of us are the reverse. We look for the good guys, beat our heads against the wall when they'd rather be with mean/ bossy girls - especially when we're only ever viewed as 'just friends' material.

I could equally ask why is it men _say_ they want women to be honest and straight-forward and then ignore any woman who is?

Or I could ask why men moan about having to pay for everything and then get shirty on a date if I offer to pay. Both genders can be guilty of confusing inconsistencies.

hi,
these are realy realy good tools to change the negative attitude of people. i also learn many things through this. i will try my self to overcome my faults.
May God bless you.
Regards
Adeel Jaffery

hi,
i read your article, thats realy touches the depths of heart. you describe the real emotions of the heart. its realy a great article. God may bless you.
Regards
Adeel Jaffery

I HAVE TRIED MOST OF THE ABOVE AND YES IT WORKS WELL. PLEASE DON NOT ENTER INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT KEEPING AN OPEN MIND. THERE ARE A LOT OF EVIL PEOPLE OUT THERE. MAKE SURE YOU GIVE YOUS=RSELF ENOUGH TIME TO HEAL. NEVER NEVER START A RELATIONSHIP WHILE ON THE REBOUND.

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That is quite interesting, I would consider one as a pet.

Interesting topic. Looking back 6 years when my marriage ended, I can say there is no easy way, no matter how amicable is the separation. When I found out that there was another woman, right that very moment I knew that, that was the end of my marriage and accepted that it was over and that things will never be the same again. I forgave him right then, but I also asked him go.

Accepting that it was over and forgiveness were the fomula that allow me to move on without carrying bitterness in my heart. I grieved and cried for months and promised myself never to be involved with anybody until I am fully healed from brokenness. To keep my sanity I kept myself busy. Busy means really no time to think much of my broken heart. So, I enroled on a full time study for a year while working full time. This means waking up at 5:30 in the morning and coming home at 12:00 midnight. On Saturday I worked as a volunteer on a charity so I have only Sunday to myself for church, study and housework. It was not easy but when you have determination to heal yourself and to move on, you will do whatever it takes - and that was what I did. I certainly concentrate on the positive side and not allow any negativity and self pity. I found some good friends at school and enjoyed my student life but they never knew what I was going through. I don't deny the pain but only talked to a really trusted friend. I also had a really good male friend who I go out to a movie when I can. When I said a friend this is just really a friend and no sleeping together. You can have male friend that will respect you if you respect yourself. I know my boundaries and did not let the loneliness and pain rule my head. Having a male friend did helped me in some way.

Everyone has different way of coping but one thing I can say is that never leave any idol moment when this happen. Always keep yourself busy. Find new hobby, learn new things and always sorround yourself with people but make sure they are positive people. Before you know, you are happy again and embracing your new life.

It takes a lot of time to change one's view towards women.I also feels like this as you described.I want to mention that everyone has a beauty mark on their soul.Your body tends to blossom it.After reading two great novels such as "the idiot" and "three musketers"I came across another category of women who can destoy a society but,such women are very rare.

Hey Xonia,

This is so deep! And yeah, it's a tough deal when your love isn't (or can't be) with you. Probably most readers here have felt this at some time. And the truth is, people don't function normally when separated from their true love, but rather under some sort of disguise of normality - a cover-up or as best they can under the circumstances.

What I do is recall and keep in mind the good moments - even when you want that shoulder to cry on imagine your love is there for you. Your love resides in your heart and nobody (nor distance) can take that away. So keep it fresh, keep their memory close and love THAT they are, not where they are. As the saying goes, if it's true love, they will return to you, if it wasn't they surely never will.

This may seem a bit etherial, but it is one way to cope ... doubtless, there are other ways. Take care, be of good spirit.

Hello and thank you for your article. Being an identicle twin has put me in a prime position to have psychic abilities, since I feel pain and even an unexplained knowing when something is wrong with my other half. However I have also had this strong connection with people I am close to.

I seldom speak of it as it seems the old myths are still something people hold onto. Taboo, is more the word I would use when describing the reaction I have recieved from many who through ignorance treat people like they are evil or possessed.

So while we have something that can make a difference to our lives, we tend to keep it to ourselves. People will always be afraid of what they don't understand. But the people that do understand shouldn't be punished for something they recieved at birth.
Sad really when you have the ability to see beyond what is visible and can't tell anyone about it.

This is very good. I totally agree nothing worse than grey hair dowdy clothes and illfitting undies. Men are visually driven more so than we are.

Agreed on comment moving slowly. Respect and love yourself and others then we won't waste noone's and ourselve's time and wellbeing.

this one is really helpful to people who think they are depressed, but they are not. thanks