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Thanks for your comments and have started to take a few on board... wow... it's always interesting to get a different perspective on things and appreciate the gr8 input

Great article. You obviously gave the topic some thought. Your viewpoints are well taken.

Your views are from the male perspective, which is ok. Of course a lot of what you wrote could also apply to females. Women also play the field. They have mastered the art very well. If we were to do a poll of most females over 40, married or not, and ask them how many 'friends' they had before they got to that age - one would be surprised. Women are not stupid. They know exactly what they want. The reason they go for men who are 'players' is because they like what they see and feel. However, if they have 'bad' ways and are dropped, it is not the mans fault. Of course 'Pick up artists' do not make good long term partners.

I have met a few pick up artist females, masqurading as players. They really don't want to settle down. They like the club hopping and the free drinks. That has stopped a little since the advent of date rape drugs. They also like the quick lay, because that is what gives them the most thrills. Need I go on?

It is posible only fop people mentally unfit they like to be with a woman do things for her and love her thats all .For normal people its impossible.

well I am not over forty but I am over fifty, and I have gone through a dress change by myself, I always wore pants and tops , but have gone to long modern hippy kind skirts and tops I find they are comfortable and dressy, and look smart I have long blond hair and have been complimented on my new kind of look, I feel it is up to the person them self to what they feel they like and are comfortable in, and also I would never through I would be seen in a skirt, but our taste change as we get older

"I guess there is always the possibility of crossing that boundry in a special situation, maybe when one on them is going though a difficult time. That is why I posted this thread.
I don´t know how I would react myself. It would depend on the relationship I have with the other person.

But, what if the girl is not gorgeous at all, would you still do it?"

I have no problem with un-gorgeous women. Some of them make the best friends because they are not as stuck up on their looks. The issue is: what are best friends? Best friends are those who share a lot in common and like to be around each other. Sxx is a very enticing option between such friends. One has to decide that sxx is not an option in the friendship. Some say this would limit the friendship, but one has to decide what type of friend they are looking for. Most feel good stories I have heard goes like this: we were great friends for a long time..then one night...

Thanks for sharing jonnt...welcome !!