carlamee
Abelard and Heloise nearly a thousand years ago.
One of the worlds greatest love stories, but read what she says about women who marry for money.
A lot of US women want a man to save them from debt.
Men just want sex.
If you have the time Google up anything regarding dating and REDDIT.
Most of those men have hit every dating service and struck out.
Yes there is FIRST WORLD MALE SYNDROME seeking subservient women or sex toys or to breed to carry on the line.
Then again ever read about all the women who have their men knock them up then disappear. Pretty crappy for Filipinas as there is no divorce.
After I left here the first time because it was so depressing I started researching on line dating and foreign marriages.
Just shocking.
I guess my point is both men and women are wrong and right about certain things.
To contrast Heloise advice below there is this
"No girl will choose six packs over six cars so stop going to the gym and go to work – Robert mugabe"
For it is not by being richer or more powerful that a man becomes better; one is a matter of fortune, the other of virtue. Nor should she deem herself other than venal who weds a rich man rather than a poor, and desires more things in her husband than himself. Assuredly, whomsoever this concupiscence leads into marriage deserves payment rather than affection; for it is evident that she goes after his wealth and not the man, and is willing to prostitute herself, if she can, to a richer. As the argument advanced (in Aeschines) by the wise Aspasia to Xenophon and his wife plainly convinces us. When the wise woman aforesaid had propounded this argument for their reconciliation, she concluded as follows: "For when you have understood this, that there is not a better man nor a happier woman on the face of the earth; then you will ever and above all things seek that which you think the best; you to be a husband of so excellent a wife, and she to be married to so excellent a husband." A blessed sentiment, assuredly, and more than philosophic, expressing wisdom itself rather than philosophy. A holy error and a blessed fallacy among the married, that a perfect love should preserve their bond of matrimony unbroken, not so much by the continence of their bodies as by the purity of their hearts. But what error shows to the rest of women the truth has made manifest to me. Since what they thought of their husbands, that I, that the entire world not so much believed as knew of you. So that the more genuine my love was for you, the further it was removed from error.