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I agree with most or all of this.
And it's just my opinion but i feel the #1 most important thing is your instincts. That uncomfortable feeling you have about somebody, even if you cannot nail it down, define, or explain it, IS CRUCIAL.
DONT let other people, anyone, even your own parents or most trusted teacher, tell you not to trust your own instincts. Or that you aren't "open-minded" enough, and you you "shouldnt judge people by first impression" or by their looks.
You can judge people ANY WAY YOU gosh darn well please! And whether or not you've ever been told this, judging people, often without telling others, is the way that people stay happy and safe.
You do NOT ever have to confront the people you judge, which should be everybody. Just KNOW. Or if you're not highly skilled, pull back from this person, and watch. And dont leave yourself vulnerable. And if you feel pressured, especially to put yourself at any sort situation where you personally feel is dangerous, then just get oout of it.
FORGET about hurting their feelings. Because when they get you where they want you, the last thing they're gonna worry about is hurting yours!

Oh! Yes.. For a Ldr to actually work, I feel lots of effort/patience has to be made/agreed upon by the parties involved. Ldrs has worked for many, it depends also on if the two Individuals are really into each other ... Trust I would say is the key word for a Ldr to succeed. For e.g it's difficult to know what the other person is doing on a daily basis... If there are doubts that's where a problem begin and go down hill.
I feel to enhance a Ldr, its best to talk on a daily basis not mainly at nights and if one party can travel to visit the other in the midst, there's more chance of the relationship been a success.

I don't exactly know the person who has written this article. But it's like you have mentioned each and every moment with accurate precision. As if you yourself have lived this moment. I have gone through the same trauma; in fact still going through. This article bought me a temporary relief which nothing else could.
Thank you for this lovely article. God bless you.

Yes, its helpfull !
I have met one

It can work if we are willing to do LDR
It works for busy people actually who wants some privacy
The biggest problem is only misscommunication.
If hes here i can touch and hugs him... and sure he will understand.
human touch is more than anything.

Ooh I wish i still can feel those signs i miss ..

The one who use to show his attention and affection is gone
He is an angel

Super advises , just need to find my Man and will do the best I can to make him crave me

Thank you for alleviating some questions that might be in the back of my mind. However I'm very mindful that there is no doctorate or accademical achievement that can prepare a woman to fully understand a man.
I personally think it's wiser for a woman to discover herself and to know what she wants. Should she do this, it is only then it will become easier to handle the advances of the male species.

Thanks alot for all the tips and warnings.
It's so nice to read these articles and they are very helpful.

Cheating by any other name, IS still cheating!


~JOHN~ said dat .

This is what, v call life

Thats a good Question...i can wait i can live in a far distance relationship. When she can even wait for me its allright. I search for a Women who thinks even so in the Caribbean. Its a pity but thats in all long distance relationships the same. I think the the basics is to trust each other. There are a lot oft pretty boys and girls around the globe. And its not a crime to look them when you be true to your one.

Very Funny but tell me how to keep a German job when you immigrate to other country in a few years. So its a personal deciding and work is everywhere Jobs are everywhere but the place you live is choosen by anyone self. And when i can bring my job with me its less important. The only Question that must be answered is love strong enough or not. In gold times its easy whats about More difficult times in life that anyone have? If that breaks a relationship then it is not real love.

Beware if the profile stated " God fearing" or "Godly people"

Using word dear, darling, love , hun in early contact.
And very common in a short time communication in the message they already doing drama mental abused
with very emotionals sentences put us in the corner with
no chance to explain. They design the communication to be a totaly screwup missunderstood conversation.
Full with anger.. left us wondering .,what had happen ?
Very abnormal communication if you logicaly analyze.
Carefull when they show a live C2C in Skype, the video is looping. We can only see them in 3 second
If we ask to turn on again the cam.. they will be very angry..and said "you dont trust me ???"
no chance to have an interactive conversation through the cam

You right, Blue cypres, their english language is perfect textbook. Keep me wonder what kind of English translator apps are they using ?

We all can be victims of our own creations within virtual reality. I had an experience on this site and must say, I always felt a bit ahead and wondered what would happen next. I always had the impression that the person doesn't really answer my thoughts, even though it was in perfect English. Soon I felt some sort of jealousy from her site. She wanted real love and therefore someone trustworthy. Suddenly the adventure enrolled and it didn't take long. "I received a phonecall from Africa", she wrote. "My mom had a terrible car accident and can´t speak nor move anymore." I have to fly as soon as possible to see her." I asked: "Your mother?" - "Yes. My parents died in a car accident when I was young and she was the one taking care of me. I will have to go and arrange things for her there... she´s working for an orphanage..." It was really exciting for me to experience this sort of story and to imagine it all along. Then the hello from Ghana. We were trying to Skype but it didn't´t work. She wrote about the doctors, the children, her birthday which she would celebrate with the children etc.. And then another story: "I left my purse in the taxi from the airport. All was in there, my money, cards..."- "I need money." ....following suggestions where to deposit money, emotional persuasions and so on. I felt nearly embalmed with words but no love which made me quit the conversation. It was the most perfect and complex story. Heartbreaking. Maybe I am wrong but the goal of our chats has always been disguised in a dramatic and very professional way. I sure do hope that this contact could pay her ticket back to the States in the end.

Well there's another! Actually had the message typed to me but pasted it 3 times and became one paragraph.

I'm not offended in anyway shape or form. Simple reason being, I am part Native American, German. I live in a town with the Seneca tribe on a reservation. The town is the reservation. And some Native people do not have dark hair or dark complexion. I am darker than some enrolled natives. Some have brown hair or black with blue eyes! And that is very striking. Some are very light with light blonde hair. Some that have the stereotype features are not enrolled natives. :-) Just saying don't judge by movies books and oh there's no teepees or wigwams I was asked that once when giving directions. Silly people

Lmao! I just had a "gentleman's profile read they are 4 foot and 3 inches tall. Told him go away not real and promptly blocked. =-O

To me one of the main hallmarks of the scammer, is to pressure you in the first one or two messages to respond to a private email address. This is to avoid the scrutiny of moderators on the site, and also to avoid being blocked. Watch for this as most scammers will try these tactics.

Good article

Yes, been there, and those shity are a real man!
Must be they've been mentaly and emotionaly abuse by bad experience of scams.
The worst is they wount show up when the times come to meet face to face, the best sissy coward !
And perhaps they are so ugly like a troll!
So,what is the difference with a scammers digging wallets
and him scamming emotion and mentality ?

Positive thinking, eat healthy food, sleep enough, regular sports or daily walking, reduce using chemicals on skin
Be kind to people, stop nagging ,bulying, anger to others
More love and laughter and drink wine !

Tentacles ?

Im agree , but not for attracting man !
Please look at the positive angle of this article
I think all woman over 40s and nearly 50s like me
wants to look different, it is time to spoil ourself
looking fresh, younger, beautiful and fabulous!
No need expensive treatment or expensive outlook
Just make something different, changing style
like grow longer hair or trim shorts, dyed with different colours
More body exercise and reduce the extra weight will
helping boost our confidence
Dare to wear bright colours for clothes,
Healthy life style and live with a positive mind and atitude.
Sure this will bring a fresh change to an old person

Only give them time to read books becose they need to digging more refferences. And that is their duty and responsibility.
A time for self solitude.. becos they need to think, imagine, reconstruct the case looking for angle of solution. As i know they also think and imagine in theyr sleep!
An argument or sharing opinion is good . It is helping refresh mind becos they can find options in every opinion.

So i think A lawyer they are smart and an open minded person as long as it is logic and acceptable.
the difference with other profession is, lawyer are excessively using brain and tounge !

The rest is the same just like others with common profession

It is true, plenty of man and woman players in here, in CS.
And they are A real people (jerk) not a scammer.
Becareful, the worst also can happened in the real situation. They dare to play joker when the time comes meet them in real !
I think those kind of people join CS for killing time and have fun only.
So sweet on the screen net but in reality is, they have wife or husband .

I always asking if they have facebook, we can see who they are in the daily real world and words.

Tell a woman she has to wait, and see her look disgusted, as her lips get tight, and she says, FINE!

When translated that means, you won't get another chance; and she doesn't want to talk anymore.