relationships

A common question I think that comes up between two people as they are beginning to form a relationship is...what do you want or need from a relationship.

I would be wary of those who want and need too much...or perhaps anything at all.

Wouldn't it be great if people wanted and needed nothing....but instead, were grateful instead.


What a great way to reciprocate love.

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if you start out with a list is never going to work you need just be yourself get to know a person put this list in loo all people have little things they need and want to do you go out with someone and if small things are a problem well is best step back if both cant agree on things ...what a person has or how they make it throught life is their business .when in a relationship you assist each other to change on somethings as we develop bad habits when alone
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Thanks Jim.
*grateful

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"International relationships are very expensive...on top of the traveling, you have legal fees and risks when it comes to citizenship. That is what put things to an end for me in my country. ..signing a contract saying you will be financially responsible for the person you bring in for 10 years, no matter the out come of your relationship."


Johnny, that description sounds like you are a participant in the tv show called 90 Day Fiancee.giggle

People who pay thousands of dollars to get a Visa for someone from another country, some of them marry in 90 days, other say forget about it. Some get married and when the marriage doesn't work out they have to get a lawyer to force the person back to their country and like you said they have to support that person for 10 years. Who in their right mind would get involved in a nightmare like that. People who are desperate. That's who.
If people lived in a tiny country with a small population, then I could see why a person would have to look to bring a new person in.
But in a big country with a huge population, there must surely be one person there that would fit the bill.
Johnny there's a song...

I ain't got a pot of gold
Girl I ain't even got a rainbow
But I've heard that love is where
Treasure can be found
Don't expect too much from me
And I won't let you down...

Interesting way to look at things anyway.beer
Tell me Johnny, what am I to be grateful for if I am not getting anything? laugh

No, I don't need or want anything in material wise and emotionally. I want the freedom to be me and give freedom for him to be him.

But him being him is going to hinder my being me, I can be grateful if he just leaves me alone and fly a kite. laugh

I think I get what you mean. Some people are blessings to be a part of our lives. We just have to be grateful for that.

Italian and Chinese cuisine is okay. But can that kind of relationship survive without the warm desserts in bed? rolling on the floor laughing grin
SA,

I am watching that show right now. :)


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Molly...

There must be...but yet I am still single. laugh
Loh Key, I still think you are being low key as in not trying to be identified....nothing about a God. laugh

What do I know.

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This thread sounds like a thread I wrote about Jack and Jill in a relationship. sigh
Usha....being loving is a selfless act of sorts.



By default, anything you desire from a partner should be fulfilled without having this huge list they need to adhere to.


That includes you being completely fulfilled in the bedroom until you can't take anymore. laugh
SA,

I used to date a Jill, but I am not Jack. dunno grin

I will look at your blog....thanks for sharing.
Okay SA, I tried to find it but couldn't. :(
I think you're a nice guy Johnny so to save you time I'm posting the thread for you.


Thank you SA. I will check it out.
Of course communication in a relationship is important. If something is lacking, that would make a great discussion.

...of course there are many gray areas to everything...

This is just in general.
I'm not a want or need woman I'm all about wouldn't it be nice or I would be hopeful. for all things nice

Your kind of relationship sounds very tiring.
Great SA, I read it.

Yes...very similar.


It is interesting the comments.



I don't know...now.

But if a woman has this mentality that "she can be picky."

She is probably right...she can be.

But I wonder at what point she thinks she has no right to be picky anymore.....like after she is in an exclusive relationship...or perhaps married.

Now if she feels trapped in a relationship and she feels she can still be picky....

well, that I would think would cause a conflict with her emotions.






I say this...because I feel a lot of women feel that way....that they can be picky and have every right to be picky.


But anyway, I am getting off the subject. I was actually going to write a blog about this subject. Maybe later.

Thanks SA for sharing that.
Merc....

Thanks for sharing.


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Usha,

I would suggest doing what suits you the best...as I am sure you and anyone else who reads this blog is going to do.

That also includes your bedding practices as well. I am with you in that department regarding being serious about that. thumbs up
Got to go. Monday morning here.

Happy. Today no school. Less traffic. Less time spent on the road.

I didn't have time to celebrate my mother's birthday last week. Today I have allocated time for that. She was thoughtful and told me to finish my work on her birthday. But I don't mind spoiling her even though it's a belated celebration.

Enjoy your evening Johnny. Take care and be good.

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Johnny,

I remember a past girlfriend who I’d not known too long, she asked me to co-sign for her to buy a new car. She said if I did this, she would give me Anything I want. She repeated and stressed the word Anything!

When I explained to her, I’d rather not sign because if she doesn’t pay the payments, I’m liable.
Next thing, she shouted, “Well, f#*@ you then! I don’t want anything from you. Stick a pencil up your @##! Don’t call me anymore!”

So, you see, she was a nice well spoken lady. She decided she didn’t want anything from me.

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Thank you Usha...you too....be good and take care. Enjoy the birthday celebrating...be sure to spoil her.

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Did you stick the pencil where she suggested? laugh


Nice Robert. be careful with some of those lassies. She will ask for the George and stick you with that pencil.

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