When Last Did You Break A Heart?
So often we hear people complaining about their hearts being broken by a thoughtless and cruel lover but we quickly forget how many hearts we have broken.
I know some people will deny ever having broken any hearts but the fact is, we all have broken at least a few hearts; maybe unintentionally or even unknowingly but we have broken them just the same.
Have you ever dumped somebody? By making an everyday move in the game of love, you may have broken a heart. Yes, almost always unintentional but as I said, broken just the same. You may even have broken the heart of somebody you have not met yet.
Ok, time for a quiz. No buts or ifs; just a simply yes or no.
1. Have you ever dumped somebody?
2. Have you ever broken off a relationship?
3. Have you ever rejected somebody?
4. Have you ever preferred somebody above another?
5. Have you ever ignored somebody’s attentions?
6. Have you ever declined a date?
7. Have you ever married?
8. Have you ever started a new relationship?
I can add many more questions but this should suffice to demonstrate my point. If you can answer an honest ‘no’ to each one of these 8 questions then just maybe you have not broken a heart yet but otherwise I’m won’t be so sure. It is not only your lover’s heart that is at stake and even people of the same gender – who may be in love with your new lover – are vulnerable. Therefore, think again; when last did you break a heart?
So next time you have lost in love and you’re sitting with a broken heart, think back about the hearts you have broken; the people you left in the same desolate state as you are now. Perhaps your broken heart made two other people very happy. Love is a funny game and we all lose a set here and there.
Enjoy this week and don’t breaking any more hearts.
Comments (68)
Guilty...
Broken hearts is just another facet of the loving game. Some you win and some you loose. that is the walk of love.
We're all guilty. the one person's happiness is the sadness of another.
That is right, some of of us carry the hurt inside. I for one will not show my ex that I have been hurt. I suppose that is my foolish pride but that is the way I am.
Quite so. We all process our disappointments in our own way.
Hoop jy het n goeie week vorentoe.
No need to feel guilty about it. We all break hearts as we go on in life. We just do not realize it all the time.
Yes, although this blog deals with the romantic heart, it is very possible to disappoint those who love us. Tough it is not as traumatic as a disappointment in love.
I have to answer yes to all but one. You noted an important one...persons who may love us and we don't know.
morning Cat
I'm very pleased to know that my heart is save for today.
That is the problem when dealing with you. Always some hidden costs and lateral damages.
I have repeated your link here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yKK-MvfaoG0
1. Have you ever dumped somebody? No
2. Have you ever broken off a relationship? Yes
3. Have you ever rejected somebody? Yes
4. Have you ever preferred somebody above another? Yes
5. Have you ever ignored somebody’s attentions? Yes
6. Have you ever declined a date? Yes
7. Have you ever married? No
8. Have you ever started a new relationship? Yes
Bring it on more
Yes I know. I'm a witness to it. You have never broken a heart.
Hmmm, no need to ask any more Qs
You have broken a fa few hearts in your short life too.
Indeed, no giving up a job for anybody. that is you livelihood but you have it wrong with the rest. Everybody is worth loving.
Don't worry, I don't think anybody old enough to be a member can truly answer 'No' to all those questions. As long as people fall in love we will be breaking hearts; our own included.
A.yes all except 2&8.
B.no to all.
Good blog and mindful questions.
If you had scientifically broadened the questionnaire, the result would have been a great psychological case study. Now its a monolith.
MMMM Now which side is my heart on
Hope your are------well to cat
Week later they both come together to look for me to give me verbal lessons - to put me in shame
Anyway,past is past but generally speaking you're right
Had some heartache from infatuation and yes, broke a heart and got mine badly broken once.
It is hard to keep level headed when hurt. If something is over it's over and there is only one way for me and that is forward.
A.yes all except 2&8.
B.no to all.
Good blog and mindful questions.
If you had scientifically broadened the questionnaire, the result would have been a great psychological case study. Now its a monolith.
Hi Iota
While your contribution is appreciated it boggles my mind.
Referring to the monolithic nature of the work: that is exactly what it was intended to be. A blog, not a psychological case study.
Not interfering with your right of opinion, the following:
Your comment confuses me.
Group B nullifies the effects of what the person did while he was still in group A and I cannot buy the idea that nobody under 35 has ever started or terminated a relationship.
Nor can I accept that that a person older than 35 will never do - or has never done - any of those things in the list.
If so, then it is in complete contrast with what the 14 posters before you said. In view of my own experience as well, it does not sound right.
Maybe you should have stuck to pondering over the questions to see which apply to you in stead of trying to answer for all.
But... there is one line in your comment that we are in full agreement on.
But then, as English comes as a second language to both of us, it is possible that I do not understand what you are trying to tell me.
I have missed you for a few days.
Ah that is one of the advantages of senility. We forget about the follies of our youth.
I don't think there are a lot of people who can say no to more than one or two of those questions. It is natural actions we do all the time and the consequences cannot be avoided. Hearts will be broken all the time.
Hearts are broken by the truckload every day. But people don't easily die because of it. Hearts heal in time and there are ways to speed the process up. Meeting somebody new is the shortcut to recovery.
Nah, that's called rebound Cat.
Personally I believe a heart that has never been broken is a heart that has never loved nor given of love...which is rather sad.
The truth is we live in an imperfect society made up of imperfect people which includes purposeful or inadvertent harm to others in our relationships romantic or otherwise.
A broken heart gives testimony to the fact that you have loved and lost which is far better than to say you have never loved nor experienced any loss....not that I'm saying it aught to be an experience to strive for or dish out in life....
Thanks for the thought provoking blog...
Hi KN
Whatever.
I cannot believe that anybody has gone around without ever being disappointed in love. It starts when we are still young. Puppy love is no less intense. In fact, it may be a good point to start. I can still remember how devastated I was when I got the boot from my first 'case' but I think it equipped me to cope with bigger disappointments to come later.
B. After 35.
A.yes all except 2&8.
B.no to all.
Hi Iota
It has just struck me that you may have described conditions as it is in India as that may greatly differ from SA which is more in line with the western world.
But it is still not clear to me. Let's look at A fist.
Are you saying that nobody under the age of 35 had started or terminated a relationship? Here, and elsewhere in the West, 16 year old school children start and terminate relationships. Hearts get broken even at that tender age. Puppy love is as intense as 'grown up' love.
But it is group B that confuses me the most. You say they can answer no to all questions. But according to me they have done most things on the list by then and will repeat to do those same things again. Marriages and relationships don't last as they used to.
i hope I have explained my doubts better here.
Hi Dedo
You can be excruciatingly funny at times.
So how did he take it?
And how did you feel about devastating one of us? I hope you were gentle with him. You know how sensitive us male creatures can be.
It sounds as if you are as bad a me. After a while I get so repulsive that they will actually pay me to leave.