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The other day, when I had lunch with my father, I touched on a taboo subject. His latest girlfriend! My sister and I had a long chat about this beforehand and in the end it fell on me to speak to him. It is not always easy to be the eldest.

I told him she is up to no-good and the he should let her go. He looked at me with a somewhat amused expression and said: “Life makes a complete circle”. Then he took a small a sip of his wine and asked how many times I obeyed him when he told me to get rid of a girlfriend. He dismissed me by giving the answer himself. Not once!

However, he did assure me (without any further prompting) that she is nothing serious and that if he should be so foolish to marry at his age, he’d marry his previous girlfriend who now lives in Gauteng. The short conversation did not spoil the day and we continued to enjoy our meal. For a change he even allowed me to pay the bill.

I don’t mind him having a lady friend. My mother died 16 years ago and he did not bother with women until about seven or eight years ago. Since then he had three lady friends. The first two resembled my late mother, both in looks and in mannerism. The first girlfriend died and the second relocated to another province to be with her children. They still have contact.

Both these ladies wanted to marry my father and have approached me several times, asking me to work on my dad regarding this matter. Of course I politely refused. Not that I would have minded if my dad married one of them. They were good women and they cared about him, but I was not going to be the matchmaker.

His latest girlfriend is a horse of another color. She is five years my junior and almost 30 years younger than my father. We think that she wants to scam him. This woman is pretty, sexy and streetwise. And her eyes are way too busy. My sister noticed it as well. I try to avoid her as far as I can without being rude. I’m scared that my father may think that I’m the one making eyes at her.

Now, I don’t think my father is stupid, but he’s been exposed to very few women. My mother was his first girlfriend and the women I mentioned here, represent the total sum of his experience with women.

If she makes him happy, I don’t have a problem but I’m not going to see him scammed out of his money to leave him short in his old age. She’s not looking at carving a future with him. My father is 88. How much longer can he live? And why else would a good-looking, intelligent woman be interested in an old man almost 30 years her senior?

Am I paranoid or am I right to be concerned?

Hang in there. Tomorrow is Friday.

I have not been writing much recently. I now appreciate more life in fact. When you are not ill, you never realize how good it is and how light and happy life can be. Once the person is ill, just a common natural behavior can be luxury.

I learn these in a bitter way. But I always know I will sort out my life,financially, emotionally. Only this way, you have the lightest package in life. You can face life more relaxingly.

Seems like everybody is going for the much coveted green card!

Much sought after by many, especially those from Asia.

Hmmm....... Maybe I should jump on the bandwagon and get myself a green card too, no?!?

So.......is there any good-hearted American out there who's willing to take in this terrible + miserable cook with greasy hair? I'd love very much to be able to get into America so that I could shop at Wal-Mart and eat at Taco Bell....and that...would be a dream come true....

You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are

The moment you’re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life (Myke Macapinlac)

Many people complain about not being able to find a partner, or finding the wrong one, or not being able to hold on to the right one.

Some blame everything on past partners, rather than focusing on improving themselves to a level that makes them good partner material.

Is the answer within ourselves? Do we attract what we deserve?

Happen all the time. Many of your parents and other family members have met foreigners, and developed wonderful lives together. One noted example is the phenomenon of war bride (husband). There are lots of reasons why foreigners are desirable. Yet many barriers exist. What are your feelings about relationships with foreigners? What are the positive and negative considerations? It's easy to list many such factors. What are yours?

If I walked barefoot over red hot stones to save you. Would you pour water on my feet or press your loving lips on mine in acknowledgement of my heroic act. Then but your hand in mine and let me carry you to safety on my back.

The Gabby Petito and Brian Laundrie story is far from being over. According to ABC News, parents of Gabby Petito have filed a $50 million wrongful death suit against Utah police.

'The suit alleges that if the Moab police had followed a Utah law on domestic violence, "Gabby would still be alive today," James McConkie, one of the attorneys representing the family, said during the briefing.'


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Again, I find reader comments very interesting.

I miss you so much, your playful touch
your kiss, your giggling about nothing over lunch.
I miss how our eyes would meet
And how you would laugh in bed as you made me warm your feet

You made me promise to love again, to laugh and kiss and meet a friend
but I just sit here watching life pass by having a beer or finishing a bottle of wine till its end
I sit by your gravestone and I feel warm inside,
we conversations and you are my guide.
tomorrow, I will try again but I believe I will be will sitting be at your gravestone as the night ends

I have discovered a small defect in this site.

A lady has 'liked' me.

That sounds good....no?

Well, I tried to write to her, but apparently the site won't let me.

Even though she has looked over my profile, and posted a 'like' the site will not let me respond.

I can only hope that she is not too shy to message me.........

Because I 'liked' her too......