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Things What will keep Two People Together In a Relationship1(By falicias Own Experiences)
Love! Sex! Looks ! Loyalty Affection ! Priority ! Caring ! Confidence ! Self Esteem Compromise ! Things In Common ! Trust ! Admiration ! Time ! Respect ! Communication ! Patience ! Listening!
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What is your Oppinion?
By falicia!
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What is your Oppinion?
Bad Experiences With Men
My jaw wants to unhook when I listen to what some women have to say about their close encounters of the third kind with men. It crossed my mind that some of these women are just out to make men appear as evil monsters but I’m more than prepared to concede that at least some women may have had some really terrible experiences with men. 
But all this makes we wonder with exactly what kind of men you are involved with? In all fairness, if you date an undesired character, you must expect to be treated in kind. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say he has the right to misbehave because he is what he is but you cannot cultivate weeds and expect to pick peaches from it.
If a friend arranged a blind date and he turns out to be weird, kick your friend’s arse. You have been sold out. Otherwise you must take at least some of the blame – even if just for your inability to spot a bad character for they are not that difficult to recognize. They all carry a lot of baggage and it wells up soon enough in conversation. And if you get into it, knowing that you’re dealing with a dubious character, don’t complain about it afterwards because it was your choice to be with such a man.
I have seen it countless times that a woman who comes out of an abusive relationship, just hook up with another bad egg the next time. They find calm relationships dull. Harsh as this may sound, some women are attracted to ruffians and I think they want to be mistreated. I don’t know if they crave for the excitement or the sympathy but they normally get both.
I have also been had by one or two women but they were few and far between. The majority of women are normal and rational. Just like that there are many good men out there but the onus is on you to separate the dregs from the wine. If you pick one loose cannon, we can call it a mistake; it can happen to anybody. More than that, it starts looking like a trend. Remember, nobody can force you to date anybody. It’s your own choice. We cannot always blame others for our own bad choices.
Relax! It is Friday.
But all this makes we wonder with exactly what kind of men you are involved with? In all fairness, if you date an undesired character, you must expect to be treated in kind. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say he has the right to misbehave because he is what he is but you cannot cultivate weeds and expect to pick peaches from it.
If a friend arranged a blind date and he turns out to be weird, kick your friend’s arse. You have been sold out. Otherwise you must take at least some of the blame – even if just for your inability to spot a bad character for they are not that difficult to recognize. They all carry a lot of baggage and it wells up soon enough in conversation. And if you get into it, knowing that you’re dealing with a dubious character, don’t complain about it afterwards because it was your choice to be with such a man.
I have seen it countless times that a woman who comes out of an abusive relationship, just hook up with another bad egg the next time. They find calm relationships dull. Harsh as this may sound, some women are attracted to ruffians and I think they want to be mistreated. I don’t know if they crave for the excitement or the sympathy but they normally get both.
I have also been had by one or two women but they were few and far between. The majority of women are normal and rational. Just like that there are many good men out there but the onus is on you to separate the dregs from the wine. If you pick one loose cannon, we can call it a mistake; it can happen to anybody. More than that, it starts looking like a trend. Remember, nobody can force you to date anybody. It’s your own choice. We cannot always blame others for our own bad choices.
Relax! It is Friday.
Is Fake the true danger?
We have all heard of ‘fake’ people on dating sites. Who are they really?
Are they the ones who put up a profile with no pic, who have a bit of fun (either with people or against them) then take down their profile, or be banned, and within days have a new one up, different name but same MO?
Or are they the ones who have a proper profile & a real pic? One of the ‘regulars’.
One who tells you their life story, albeit in dribs and drabs.
They may share personal details, often garnering people’s sympathy. Especially from the opposite gender. Soft people always fall for the sob-story.
They could act quite prissy at times. Looking down on others who may speak openly about matters related to sex. They may openly condemn them and act as the more virtuous person. They may constantly let people believe they are a step above the norm.
Behind the scenes is a different matter. They are intent on getting their claws into a man, a man they deem worthy of them.
They may get chatting to some of the nicer, or more vulnerable people. These are the easiest to manipulate. And boy do they manipulate.
They try to get as much personal information from the person as possible – this will be used at a later stage.
They, contrary to their public image, want to engage in online-sex early in the relationship. They badger the other person to do it, possibly goading them by saying that their genitals aren’t up to standard if they don’t want to comply.
If the other person doesn’t play ball, things quickly turn ugly.
Threats of blackmail soon follow – threats of exposing private details on the public arena. The constant emails, messages and the stalking.
Nobody turns them down! They are the greatest gift mankind has ever received. They do the choosing. They do the rejecting.
The fires of hell are unleashed on anybody who thinks they can take that away from them.
Some may call them narcissists; some egoists; some entertainers or some even call them victims,
I call them dangerous.
So, next time we are thinking fake, maybe we should look beyond the multi-profile messers & scammers, and into the world of the delusional and downright dangerous.
Are they the ones who put up a profile with no pic, who have a bit of fun (either with people or against them) then take down their profile, or be banned, and within days have a new one up, different name but same MO?
Or are they the ones who have a proper profile & a real pic? One of the ‘regulars’.
One who tells you their life story, albeit in dribs and drabs.
They may share personal details, often garnering people’s sympathy. Especially from the opposite gender. Soft people always fall for the sob-story.
They could act quite prissy at times. Looking down on others who may speak openly about matters related to sex. They may openly condemn them and act as the more virtuous person. They may constantly let people believe they are a step above the norm.
Behind the scenes is a different matter. They are intent on getting their claws into a man, a man they deem worthy of them.
They may get chatting to some of the nicer, or more vulnerable people. These are the easiest to manipulate. And boy do they manipulate.
They try to get as much personal information from the person as possible – this will be used at a later stage.
They, contrary to their public image, want to engage in online-sex early in the relationship. They badger the other person to do it, possibly goading them by saying that their genitals aren’t up to standard if they don’t want to comply.
If the other person doesn’t play ball, things quickly turn ugly.
Threats of blackmail soon follow – threats of exposing private details on the public arena. The constant emails, messages and the stalking.
Nobody turns them down! They are the greatest gift mankind has ever received. They do the choosing. They do the rejecting.
The fires of hell are unleashed on anybody who thinks they can take that away from them.
Some may call them narcissists; some egoists; some entertainers or some even call them victims,
I call them dangerous.
So, next time we are thinking fake, maybe we should look beyond the multi-profile messers & scammers, and into the world of the delusional and downright dangerous.
Husband hunting,
Heres something , that has me wondering,
I know afew women, who are husband hunting,and they want a husband NOW,
What has me wondering is, what happen to the days where someone got to know their future spouse, before getting married.
Have things progressed that fast,that I m missing something. Just curious. Could some of you intelligent Ladies out there, tell me what I m missing here,
And Yes, this is my first blog,
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I know afew women, who are husband hunting,and they want a husband NOW, What has me wondering is, what happen to the days where someone got to know their future spouse,
before getting married.Have things progressed that fast,that I m missing something. Just curious. Could some of you intelligent Ladies out there, tell me what I m missing here,
And Yes, this is my first blog,
,
win or lose............just one
i was going through not so good time in my life at that time......this happened...there was this girl
who had some brains for whatever work she did...i used to like her as she helped me also when
i needed her suggestion for anything work related.....as i was doing a full time job ...it was quite necessary
for me to survive those days.....
In order for me to be able to avoid being distracted, I must be willing to do what is necessary to improve my ability to focus....then i made my self discovery
The fact is, It shouldn’t matter as long as you are honest and is respectful to others. I’m sure that some of us have experienced this to some extent....
.but what about when you really need to get something done and it doesn't happen
to a particular moment of intense meaning and insight.
this girl had not much of a background...like relations or property...which is a must for any girl mostly
alone....i just mean my society.....dont attack me with.......law point questions
she had boy friends........yes.....not one.........three....so one fine day i asked her.....if she is serious
about her life partner....but...why 3..????????
her answer to me was ....she is having her abc plans..for..if one did not work...other might work
some how her idea not got with me....and i told her....certain things in.. life i think abc plans are not good
........and it so happened ..........that HER bfs ...........came to know her idea..and all of them left her alone
.........i think emotional games are not good....focus one....win or lose imo
who had some brains for whatever work she did...i used to like her as she helped me also when
i needed her suggestion for anything work related.....as i was doing a full time job ...it was quite necessary
for me to survive those days.....
In order for me to be able to avoid being distracted, I must be willing to do what is necessary to improve my ability to focus....then i made my self discovery
The fact is, It shouldn’t matter as long as you are honest and is respectful to others. I’m sure that some of us have experienced this to some extent....
.but what about when you really need to get something done and it doesn't happen
to a particular moment of intense meaning and insight.
this girl had not much of a background...like relations or property...which is a must for any girl mostly
alone....i just mean my society.....dont attack me with.......law point questions
she had boy friends........yes.....not one.........three....so one fine day i asked her.....if she is serious
about her life partner....but...why 3..????????
her answer to me was ....she is having her abc plans..for..if one did not work...other might work
some how her idea not got with me....and i told her....certain things in.. life i think abc plans are not good
........and it so happened ..........that HER bfs ...........came to know her idea..and all of them left her alone
.........i think emotional games are not good....focus one....win or lose imo
Men........men...........Amen
MEN......are complicated to........WO men..........
Looks like they are ......... ........all 24/7.........
are they living in dreams????????.....
was that some kind of ........manipulation????.......acting like a very nice man
anyways.........i am getting less interest now.........in this species
dont want to say ............anything more
Looks like they are .........
........all 24/7......... are they living in dreams????????.....
was that some kind of ........manipulation????.......acting like a very nice man
anyways.........i am getting less interest now.........in this species
dont want to say ............anything more
What age are you?
Are you as smart as you were in your 20's?
At age of 20 you know everything.
At 30 you begin to doubt
At 40 you are sure and maybe you realise you are starting to learn
At 50 - will leave that answer to others - I am just young.
At age of 20 you know everything.
At 30 you begin to doubt
At 40 you are sure and maybe you realise you are starting to learn
At 50 - will leave that answer to others - I am just young.
judemental people
why are ppl so judgemental on people from a photograph rather than speaking to them
The Pain of Being in love with someone you can nev
I came across the article and found it interesting so decided to share.
The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With by Paul Hudson
Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.
Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.
The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.
Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.
Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.
The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.
You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.
Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.
Continued in comments.......
The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With by Paul Hudson
Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.
Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.
The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.
Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.
Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.
The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.
You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.
Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.
Continued in comments.......
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